Post by somersault72 on Sept 28, 2012 11:03:50 GMT -5
Word. I found out what a bad mother I was on my local board, when I admitted I have left my kid in the car 2 minutes to walk 10 feet and pick up a pizza. Never mind I could see him the whole time.
Post by Daria Morgandorffer on Sept 28, 2012 11:07:08 GMT -5
The first time I got flamed on TN was when I admitted to leaving my sick, sleeping child in the car while I went inside a gas station momentarily. Oops! lol.
Post by downtoearth on Sept 28, 2012 11:08:08 GMT -5
I'm the same way...guess I'm in the bad-mom category. I don't leave the kid in the car when I can't see the car, but my kids are old enough to get in/out of their own car seats and the car, so I guess I don't mind stepping away. I also live in a pretty small city(45k people)
I took my dog into a store this morning so I could buy my sick husband orange juice. It was a gas station store, not a real grocery store, but there was food in there.
It only counts as flameful if your baby is sick and you nursed her in the middle of a meeting where you were responsible for presenting something and everyone was watching you.
If I will leave my dogs in the car for the 1 minute run in to drop off lt at daycare, I will leave him when I run into the house to grab my purse or whatever I forgot.
I get more annoyed when male subordinates try to get all "oh, no, the law says this" when it actually doesn't. Yup, sexist party if 1 here,
Post by mominatrix on Sept 28, 2012 11:16:50 GMT -5
No flame from me. But I've been flamed for saying it.
I haven't, but I've been sorely tempted to leave DS napping while I go to the end of the block to pick up DD from the school bus in the afternoon. Like, I'm still in sight of my house, and our street is essentially a dead end. I haven't done it, and probably never will, but it kills me to get him up just to go get her.
Post by lyssbobiss, Command, B613 on Sept 28, 2012 11:19:59 GMT -5
What's the protocol for leaving kids in the car to return the shopping cart? Because I do this and I have gotten nasty looks from people. I guess the "perfect mommy" thing to do is leave your kid in the cart while you unload groceries in the car, then walk the cart to the return place with your kid still in it? I always put babycakes in the car first. Bad mom?
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
No flame from me. But I've been flamed for saying it.
I haven't, but I've been sorely tempted to leave DS napping while I go to the end of the block to pick up DD from the school bus in the afternoon. Like, I'm still in sight of my house, and our street is essentially a dead end. I haven't done it, and probably never will, but it kills me to get him up just to go get her.
No flame from me. But I've been flamed for saying it.
I haven't, but I've been sorely tempted to leave DS napping while I go to the end of the block to pick up DD from the school bus in the afternoon. Like, I'm still in sight of my house, and our street is essentially a dead end. I haven't done it, and probably never will, but it kills me to get him up just to go get her.
I can see the house, we live on a cul de sac/dead end. I'm not waking her up to walk down the street to get Jackson.
I also don't see the big deal with leaving kids in cars, when you can see the car the entire time. It's against the law here (which I find outrageous, honestly) so I don't do it.
No flame from me. But I've been flamed for saying it.
I haven't, but I've been sorely tempted to leave DS napping while I go to the end of the block to pick up DD from the school bus in the afternoon. Like, I'm still in sight of my house, and our street is essentially a dead end. I haven't done it, and probably never will, but it kills me to get him up just to go get her.
Post by AllieHound on Sept 28, 2012 11:35:39 GMT -5
We have a PO Box. I have left Max in the car when I run in to get mail. Technically, the car is out of view, but that's because there's a column in the post office that blocks the window. I, personally, have no problem with this. Nor do I have a problem with going into the gas station, taking the trash out or returning a cart with him in the car.
However, the only one I actually do is return the cart, because there are nosy assholes all over who overreact.
I would really, truly like an answer to why it's okay to leave the kid in a crib in a different room, or leave them while I go poop, but it's not okay to leave them in the effing car to pre-pay for gas. Really. If I lock the car up, and I'm sure I have my key, and it's not 100 degrees, and I'll be less than 5 degrees...what is the danger?
I'm on lunch, so I won't be able to respond if I get flamed, but seriously- explain it to me.
Also, momi, I'd totally leave him napping while going to the end of the block. But, we've already established that I'm a dirty law-breaker, so take it for what it's worth.
No flame from me. But I've been flamed for saying it.
I haven't, but I've been sorely tempted to leave DS napping while I go to the end of the block to pick up DD from the school bus in the afternoon. Like, I'm still in sight of my house, and our street is essentially a dead end. I haven't done it, and probably never will, but it kills me to get him up just to go get her.
Will your baby monitor pick up noise from that distance? If so would you feel better about doing it?
I do not understand the hysteria of leaving your kid in the car for less than a minute to return a movie to the redbox or drop a letter in the mail.
Can we please discuss this? I'm afraid someone's going to call CPS on me. Am I allowed to leave him in the car in the driveway to run in the house and grab the coffee I forgot on the counter? When is it ok and not ok to leave baby in the car? I don't know the rules and don't want hairy eyeballs from the sancti-mommys out there.
carmen, don't you know that every stranger is itching to steal a baby? I mean, someone compared it to leaving a million fucking dollars out in the open. Who wouldn't steal your kid? I know. Anyone with half a fucking brain.
Why aren't people trying to do this at 3 am while she is screaming and I am cross eyed from lack of sleep?
carmen, don't you know that every stranger is itching to steal a baby? I mean, someone compared it to leaving a million fucking dollars out in the open. Who wouldn't steal your kid? I know. Anyone with half a fucking brain.
Shit, you're right. ! Those sanctimommies are just being realistic about this super common baby-stolen-from-car-under-moms-nose-in-30-seconds phenomenon! How reckless of me!
There is stigma about leaving kids in a car, even for just a minute, because many kids have been accidentally left in cars and died. I'm not saying the hysteria is warranted but I see where it comes from.
Post by mominatrix on Sept 28, 2012 11:49:37 GMT -5
We haven't used a monitor in years. I haven't the foggiest of whether it would work.
I probably won't, because he seems to ordinarily wake up during that time, anyway, and if he did, and I was not home he'd freak the fuck out.
...her bus has been super late for drop off (like the first few days it was 30+ minutes after the scheduled time, late), but it's getting better. Until I feel like it's absolutely on time, I'm not entertaining the thought for real.
I've been picking sleeping-him up and putting him in the car, and driving to the end of the block. Which sometimes works (in terms of him staying asleep) and sometimes doesn't. But at least I'm not stressing that he's awake giving himself a screaming anneurysm.
Post by penguingrrl on Sept 28, 2012 11:50:56 GMT -5
I never left the kids alone in the car when I lived in NYC for obvious reasons. But now that I'm in the suburbs I will without a problem. Yesterday I left Emma in the car while I walked Julia to the door at school, everyone does that here (I was parked right out front). I've also done it at the post office or other places like that. I never understood the hysteria either as long as it's not extreme weather and the car's locked.
No flame from me. But I've been flamed for saying it.
I haven't, but I've been sorely tempted to leave DS napping while I go to the end of the block to pick up DD from the school bus in the afternoon. Like, I'm still in sight of my house, and our street is essentially a dead end. I haven't done it, and probably never will, but it kills me to get him up just to go get her.
I would totally do this.
No hesitation.
Me too--- as demonstrated by my previous post.
grocery store- It's 100 degrees. I start the car and put the kids in, unload the groceries and return the cart. I will actually park farther away from the store to get a spot near a cart corral.
There is stigma about leaving kids in a car, even for just a minute, because many kids have been accidentally left in cars and died. I'm not saying the hysteria is warranted but I see where it comes from.
I've never heard that given as the reason though. I've always heard either someone's going to steal your car and not realize the kid's in it or someone's going to steal your kid. Most of the kids dying in cars weren't a quick errand. They were a parent forgetting to drop the kid at daycare before work, usually when they haven't followed their usual routine.
I'll admit I wonder why daycares don't routinely call if a kid is absent like schools do (or at least mine always did).
Post by gretchenindisguise on Sept 28, 2012 11:56:02 GMT -5
The chances are slim, but sometimes cars get stolen with kids inside of them.
My bff just had her wallet stolen from her car (window smashed) when she was dropping her kids off at preschool. She was in the building less than 5 minutes and probably never out of direct eye sight.
eta: I feel the need to put a disclaimer here - I understand base rates and all that and kids are more likely to get hurt in a car accident while driving the car than be snatched in the 3 minutes it takes to check mail or what not. I was mostly just posting why some people are against it, and meh - I get my child out and it sucks.
There is stigma about leaving kids in a car, even for just a minute, because many kids have been accidentally left in cars and died. I'm not saying the hysteria is warranted but I see where it comes from.
no one mentions this. it is all about crazy baby snatchers.
the amber alert in IL yesterday just set them off.
Per a poster on my BMB: "My heart sank when the alert came threw my phone (I have the WGN app for chicago weather). I haven't heard the details yet. As a mother you feel for the family, but on the other...WHY DID YOU LEAVE A 3 WEEK OLD IN THE CAR! I don't care how close the inside of the post office is to your car. So sad. Maybe the lady will drop the baby off at a church/fire station/ hospital/ etc. with a note that says "Hope I taught you something." Sorry I don't mean to be so bitchy. When I first heard it I thought maybe she turned her back for a second and it happened. But it was because of being left. UGH! "
Turns out the 19 y/o mother of an 11 month old AND 3 week old, abandoned the newborn and made up the kidnapping story.
BUT NEVER LEAVE YOUR KID IN THE CAR EVA!!!! BABY SNATCHERS ARE EVERYWHERE!!!!!!!11 ELVENTY
Ah man, that's what happened? I saw the AA on Facebook yesterday. Poor kid.