Come in and share your crazy so I'm not alone

[HoneySpider]

My brother and SIL are expecting their first next month. They started trying after us and got pg on the first try, so definitely some hard feelings on my part (and there are general jealousy issues anyway...I'm a mess).

Saw on FB that apparently SIL did a maternity photo shoot with one of her BFFs who I don't care for...and BFF was calling future baby her niece (or rather, neice, which I laughed at). I don't know why it bothers me but no, she's not your niece, she's MY niece. She's your friend's daughter.

So dumb, I know. Who else has an irrational thought right not so I'm not crazy by myself?

[sunflower22]

Well I have to hold back eye rolling when people tell me they're pg lol. For some reason instead of getting sad my first response is sarcasm. It's like, "Of course youre pregnant! Everyone is!!" Usually if I give myself a few minutes I get over the knee-jerk weirdo jealousy response and can be genuinely happy for them.

[nevafaye]

I just sip the haterade.

Someone in my office just announced his wife is pg with #2. Their first is only a year old.

[winecheery]

I'll join.

I have been seeing baby bumps everywhere. Women who are overweight and pregnant, women who only look pregnant from the side, women who look too old to be pregnant, women who look too young to be pregnant, women with one kid in the stroller already, and are therefore pg with #2...le sigh

It seems like it's so easy for them. It seems like no matter what you do or don't do; whether you're "healthy and fit" or "could lose a few", whether you're a druggie or a gluten-free/vegan/organic meat/no dairy...it doesn't matter. You will either get pregnant, or you won't.

Crack-heads get pregnant FFS.

I'm not depressed or trying to be cynical btw, lol I am just completely baffled by the mind-fuck that comes with this process.

[FastHands]

I don't have any examples at the moment, but I am definitely amazed at the level of insanity that I've reached, and I'm not far into this process at ALL. I obviously want to get pg because I want to have a baby. But I also want to get pg because I don't know how I will be able to keep this crazy all to myself for much longer!

[tarheels]

I haven't been at this long enough to experienced many of the emotions you ladies are describing (we decided 2 weeks ago to TTC), but I eyerolled so hard when I got a massage last week and the therapist was talking about socializing his new puppy, and making sure his new puppy had the best vet in town, and finding the best trainer for his new puppy, and not letting the puppy around other puppies who hadn't been vaccinated, and being sure the puppy was getting a good variety of exercise... Oh my gaw, dude, ease up LOL. It's not a person. You're being more than a little ridiculous. I spent the whole time he was blabbing thinking about doing all those things for a little human.

And winecheery, you and I think just alike! This is a wild ride and I've been seeing pg stuff everywhere - on tv, IRL, just everywhere.

[winecheery]

Aaaand since we're drinking the kool aid...

thestir.cafemom.com/pregnancy/108288/14yearold_has_been_pregnant_3

Gaaaah this is the kind of thing that actually makes me want to stab something...and cry. That and mothers who kill their kids omg :@

[HoneySpider]

Oct 2, 2012 15:05:38 GMT -5 winecheery said:

I am just completely baffled by the mind-fuck that comes with this process.

For sure :@

[rt2008]

I've blocked some people from my facebook newsfeed (not good friends or family, but just acquaintances) who have posted pregnancy announcements recently, just so I don't have to see their updates on their pregnancy! DH asked me last night if I saw that a girl we know is going to be induced this week. I said yes, but I really didn't because I blocked her a while ago, haha. Of course, I didn't tell him I blocked these people, because I know he'll think I'm crazy.

[mkesweetie]

Oct 2, 2012 15:30:01 GMT -5 winecheery said:

Aaaand since we're drinking the kool aid...

thestir.cafemom.com/pregnancy/108288/14yearold_has_been_pregnant_3

Gaaaah this is the kind of thing that actually makes me want to stab something...and cry. That and mothers who kill their kids omg

Mothers that kill their children make me sick. But, this is a way extreme situation. Really. The mother in question is 14 years old.

[winecheery]

She didn't kill anyone, technically. She is just 14 and pregnant. And it bothers me. I know she's a minor. But 3x?? Idk. Anyways.

[HoneySpider]

Oct 2, 2012 15:47:54 GMT -5 rt2008 said:

I've blocked some people from my facebook newsfeed (not good friends or family, but just acquaintances) who have posted pregnancy announcements recently, just so I don't have to see their updates on their pregnancy! DH asked me last night if I saw that a girl we know is going to be induced this week. I said yes, but I really didn't because I blocked her a while ago, haha. Of course, I didn't tell him I blocked these people, because I know he'll think I'm crazy.

Luckily MH is just as annoyed with pregnancy/birth announcements in his FB feed as I am! Seriously seems like they are the only friends of ours who even post on there anymore. Neither os us are big FB users (I prefer Twitter) so I just try and stay away. It seriously is every week though that someone new is making an announcement. It sucks!

[thoseareradishes]

I started my period yesterday. My H was like, are you sure you are out?...like, do you completely stop bleeding when you are pregnant? I replied that yeah, you don't get a period when you are pregnant. However, so far my period has been super super light, like mostly spotting, so I'm like, what if....??!! Argh. I should probably just POAS tomorrow and stop being dumb.

[berbles]

Oct 2, 2012 17:10:13 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

I started my period yesterday. My H was like, are you sure you are out?...like, do you completely stop bleeding when you are pregnant? I replied that yeah, you don't get a period when you are pregnant. However, so far my period has been super super light, like mostly spotting, so I'm like, what if....??!! Argh. I should probably just POAS tomorrow and stop being dumb.

I have POAS'd twice after having my period, just to be sure. My BFF found out she was pg around 8 weeks, because she had what she thought was a really light period, but she was wrong!

[winecheery]

Oct 2, 2012 17:10:13 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

I started my period yesterday. My H was like, are you sure you are out?...like, do you completely stop bleeding when you are pregnant? I replied that yeah, you don't get a period when you are pregnant. However, so far my period has been super super light, like mostly spotting, so I'm like, what if....??!! Argh. I should probably just POAS tomorrow and stop being dumb.

POAS POAS!!!

[berbles]

Oh I just thought of a good "crazy" of my own.

H's grandmother passed away last month. She was 105. She had 39 grandchildren and 70-something great-grandchildren. She told H like 10 years ago that she wasn't going to die until she had a great-grandchild from his branch of the family (her youngest grandchildren). I was more upset that we couldn't give that to her than I was about her actually passing. If that makes any sense.

[thoseareradishes]

Oct 2, 2012 20:08:19 GMT -5 berbles said:

Oh I just thought of a good "crazy" of my own.

H's grandmother passed away last month. She was 105. She had 39 grandchildren and 70-something great-grandchildren. She told H like 10 years ago that she wasn't going to die until she had a great-grandchild from his branch of the family (her youngest grandchildren). I was more upset that we couldn't give that to her than I was about her actually passing. If that makes any sense.

Aw, berbs, . That's a lot of grand and great grands, holy cow.

[statlerwaldorf]

A friend of mine and I have the same IF diagnosis. Her oldest and my dd are a few months apart. She started ttc#2 around the same time as us. She just announced #3 and I'm being a big baby about it.

[berbles]

Oct 2, 2012 20:15:28 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

Oct 2, 2012 20:08:19 GMT -5 berbles said:

Oh I just thought of a good "crazy" of my own.

H's grandmother passed away last month. She was 105. She had 39 grandchildren and 70-something great-grandchildren. She told H like 10 years ago that she wasn't going to die until she had a great-grandchild from his branch of the family (her youngest grandchildren). I was more upset that we couldn't give that to her than I was about her actually passing. If that makes any sense.

Aw, berbs, . That's a lot of grand and great grands, holy cow.

FIL is one of her 12 kids. 12. There's so many of them that H has a cousin who shares his birthday, but is a year older. H is a generation older than him though.

[blacksred]

I cried this week because my FIL is getting sicker and weaker and I am afraid he wont live to see our child. Or even know if we ever get pregnant. I do realize part of this fear is because dh's granddad died 5 days before we got married. our annivesary is next week.

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[potatopie]

I had a dream last night that my younger sister who just got married was pregnant. And the random woman I work with was also pregnant in my dream. I was so upset in the dream AND when I woke up. I'm still a little pissed about it even though it was just a dream!

[thoseareradishes]

Oct 2, 2012 19:43:06 GMT -5 winecheery said:

Oct 2, 2012 17:10:13 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

I started my period yesterday. My H was like, are you sure you are out?...like, do you completely stop bleeding when you are pregnant? I replied that yeah, you don't get a period when you are pregnant. However, so far my period has been super super light, like mostly spotting, so I'm like, what if....??!! Argh. I should probably just POAS tomorrow and stop being dumb.

POAS POAS!!!

Negative. I knew it would be, but that little irrational part of me was like, do it! do it! Stupid slow to get started period.

[nevafaye]

Oct 2, 2012 20:08:19 GMT -5 berbles said:

Oh I just thought of a good "crazy" of my own.

H's grandmother passed away last month. She was 105. She had 39 grandchildren and 70-something great-grandchildren. She told H like 10 years ago that she wasn't going to die until she had a great-grandchild from his branch of the family (her youngest grandchildren). I was more upset that we couldn't give that to her than I was about her actually passing. If that makes any sense.

I totally understand that. I'm worried the same will happen with DH's grandparents (they're in their 80s). Even though BIL/SIL have two kids, so they're not totally without great-grandchildren, I know they'd be over the moon if we did have kids.

[winecheery]

Oct 3, 2012 5:38:42 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

Oct 2, 2012 19:43:06 GMT -5 winecheery said:

POAS POAS!!!

Negative. I knew it would be, but that little irrational part of me was like, do it! do it! Stupid slow to get started period.

False negative?? Perhaps???

[sunflower22]

Oct 3, 2012 9:49:20 GMT -5 winecheery said:

Oct 3, 2012 5:38:42 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

Negative. I knew it would be, but that little irrational part of me was like, do it! do it! Stupid slow to get started period.

False negative?? Perhaps???

I don't want to speak for radishes or come off as a bitch, but keeping at this is kinda not nice. I'm sure your intentions are good, but she's probably disappointed enough already.

[Cheesecake]

Oct 3, 2012 9:08:04 GMT -5 nevafaye said:

Oct 2, 2012 20:08:19 GMT -5 berbles said:

Oh I just thought of a good "crazy" of my own.

H's grandmother passed away last month. She was 105. She had 39 grandchildren and 70-something great-grandchildren. She told H like 10 years ago that she wasn't going to die until she had a great-grandchild from his branch of the family (her youngest grandchildren). I was more upset that we couldn't give that to her than I was about her actually passing. If that makes any sense.

I totally understand that. I'm worried the same will happen with DH's grandparents (they're in their 80s). Even though BIL/SIL have two kids, so they're not totally without great-grandchildren, I know they'd be over the moon if we did have kids.

I'm worried about my grandma and DH's dad (they're actually the same age, both in their 80's. With my grandma I know that it honestly doesn't really matter as she forgets things about 2 seconds after they happen (I saw her in February, we had dinner together, sat next to each other all night, at the end of the evening I get up and go to the bathroom, when I walk back to the table I overheard her saying "That's a friendly looking girl walking this direction, but why do you think she's walking towards us, she doesn't look like she works here." I was in the bathroom for 2 minutes! Honest!) So while I'd love for her to meet a child of mine, I know she won't remember meeting him/her anyways.

DH's dad is 83 and while his health seems to be pretty okay at the moment, we had some pretty bad health scares with him last year.

[winecheery]

Oct 3, 2012 10:19:01 GMT -5 sunflower22 said:

Oct 3, 2012 9:49:20 GMT -5 winecheery said:

False negative?? Perhaps???

I don't want to speak for radishes or come off as a bitch, but keeping at this is kinda not nice. I'm sure your intentions are good, but she's probably disappointed enough already.

Wow, ok. I definitely wasn't trying to egg her on and certainly didn't want her to feel worse. Sorry radishes, I guess I wasn't thinking that way. I was just trying to be positive. Hope you didn't take it the wrong way. Again, sorry.

[sunflower22]

Oct 3, 2012 10:34:38 GMT -5 winecheery said:

Oct 3, 2012 10:19:01 GMT -5 sunflower22 said:

I don't want to speak for radishes or come off as a bitch, but keeping at this is kinda not nice. I'm sure your intentions are good, but she's probably disappointed enough already.

Wow, ok. I definitely wasn't trying to egg her on and certainly didn't want her to feel worse. Sorry radishes, I guess I wasn't thinking that way. I was just trying to be positive. Hope you didn't take it the wrong way. Again, sorry.

Ok I'm sorry too lol, I'm probably projecting a bit.

[winecheery]

Oct 3, 2012 10:51:55 GMT -5 sunflower22 said:

Oct 3, 2012 10:34:38 GMT -5 winecheery said:

Wow, ok. I definitely wasn't trying to egg her on and certainly didn't want her to feel worse. Sorry radishes, I guess I wasn't thinking that way. I was just trying to be positive. Hope you didn't take it the wrong way. Again, sorry.

Ok I'm sorry too lol, I'm probably projecting a bit.

Sun, we're are all hormonal, and often heightened here because of what we're all trying to "accomplish". It's supposed to be fun, having all this sex, weeeeeee, omg lots of sex! But it's quite different when said sex isn't doing what it's supposed to! ((hugs))

[sunflower22]

Thanks for understanding