I'll add because I think you are appropriately chagrined at this point: Imagine how hard it must be for this kid that you've been in the picture not even a year, everyone is living together, your kids do not have the same limitations he does, he gets sick in a very embarrassing way and he feels horrible, scared and alone. I still want my Mom when I'm sick and I am 27! Sometimes we just need the comfort of someone who will not judge helping us through the literally, crappy moments.
Your posts recently seem like you are having a hard time adjusting to the combined household and not everything being done your way. You seem very caught up in your own head, your own perspective, and how certain situations affect you without considering how they affect everyone else in the house. Living together was a big transition for me, so I can't imagine what a big transition it would be combining families but I think you need to force yourself when you get frustrated to step outside your perspective and consider everyone's perspective.
It's a little alarming to me that you were so quick to judge, though. Are you resentful of the child for other reasons?
It really has nothing to do with the child and a lot to do with SO being, in my opinion, too helicopterish. He has a tendancy to baby his kids and I didn't know if this was an instance of that or something else. My judgement here was more towards SO, not his son. Not that it matters, because now I'm, justifiably, being judged for my opinion. I admit it was asshole-ish, but I probably should have directed the judgement towards SO and not his son.
This says a lot about your feelings toward SO. The undercurrent of negativity and superior parenting that runs through makes it pretty obvious that you have some serious issues to work through to even give this relationship a snowball's chance in hell of working. Also, you seem pretty clueless about the needs of your SO's son. You really need to figure out what those are and if you are willing to take them on for life. It isn't fair to anyone to go into this relationship with such negativity.
Re: The "ugliest woman in the world" « Result #17 on Sept 28, 2012, 2:01pm » -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Mean people suck. I just think that it is lower than low to make fun of someone for their appearance/disability. I have zero tolerance for people like that.
Re: The "ugliest woman in the world" « Result #17 on Sept 28, 2012, 2:01pm » -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Mean people suck. I just think that it is lower than low to make fun of someone for their appearance/disability. I have zero tolerance for people like that.
When I was 15 I was at my day's when I got a bad virus. Dad was at work so you know what my stepmom did, she dealt with it and took care of me including cleaning up when I didn't quit make it to the toilet the first time I threw up. I still appreciate her being so cool and not acting like it was a big deal she just held my hair, got me a plastic bowl and settled in bed then dealt with it. That's what adults do when the kids they are responsible for get sick.
Post by underwaterrhymes on Oct 3, 2012 9:19:46 GMT -5
As others have pointed out, you're being a dick.
When I was in my mid-twenties I had AWFUL food poisoning during a visit to my parents' house and while my mom didn't assist me while I was actually in the bathroom, she cleaned up the bathroom after me since I wasn't in the best shape to do it myself. Parents should take care of their kids.
And when I've had migraines and have been vomiting uncontrollably, my H has helped clean me up then too. Spouses also take care of each other.