Do you just take stuff there and leave it? It looks like I'll be staying with J pretty often. He said I could leave some things there. What should I take?
I wouldn't leave anything at a guy's house that I had only been dating a month. I would bring what I needed and then take it with me... It would be maybe 3-6 months before I thought about leaving stuff.
Really? It's annoying me to have to pack a bag each time.
That's just me, I mean you barely know the guy. If you want to break things off with him do you really want to have to go to his house and pick up a bunch of stuff you left there?
Toothbrush Body Lotion (I always apply after I shower - it's a must) Maybe a hair product or two (if you need it - I use this anti-frizz pommade and some hair gel) Deodorant is good
That's probably all for now... then you can work up to leaving a few clothing items if you need to.
Toothbrush Body Lotion (I always apply after I shower - it's a must) Maybe a hair product or two (if you need it - I use this anti-frizz pommade and some hair gel) Deodorant is good
That's probably all for now... then you can work up to leaving a few clothing items if you need to.
Exactly this. I wanted to say a pair of comfy pants/t-shirt/undies...but at this point I think it's too soon for that.
Post by udscoobychick on Oct 3, 2012 9:51:59 GMT -5
I'd stick with really basic toiletries at this point--toothbrush, deodorant, the bare necessities for hair. I wouldn't start leaving clothes there until at least 6 months. Heck, I still don't leave clothes at BF's house, although my lingerie collection lives there.
Post by chrissie3416 on Oct 3, 2012 9:51:58 GMT -5
When J and I started dating and I was staying there I left trial sizes of body wash, shampoo and conditioner, and a toothbrush once he told me I should just leave stuff there. It was more of just convenience and all stuff that I wouldnt care if I left there in case something happened. Now I also have a pair of flip flops for around the house and a razor. I bring clothes with me back and forth.
Post by hainesherway on Oct 3, 2012 10:39:32 GMT -5
I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half and I only keep a toothbrush, hair products, underwear, and a few sets of lounge clothes/pj's at his place. I agree to take it slow!
Post by rocknruin72 on Oct 3, 2012 10:41:14 GMT -5
I don't leave things there. My bf stays at my house more often than I stay at his, mostly because he answers fire calls when he's at his house and there isn't a point for me to stay over But...I would leave an outfit at least, just in case I wanted to shower over there. That way, I always had a change of clothes.
My bf and I have been together for four months and I don't leave anything. I take it with me every time. It is getting annoying though - I think I want to at least leave travel size stuff and maybe some pjs.
But he hasn't offered up space yet and I haven't really brought it up. At one point I jokingly said I'm stealing space and he didn't seem to care but there isn't really empty space anywhere haha. He has everything pretty well organized and I feel like my stuff would just be intruding. I want to respect his space and man cave haha.
first time I stayed over at B's i didn't take anything with me, but we bought all the stuff I'd need to keep there the next day (shampoo, conditioner, razor, etc) and some clothes.
if he stayed at my place it was a huge packing ordeal because we'd have to pack up all the dog stuff and her crate too.
I don't think I left anything at fi's house after only a month. I got travel size stuff and an extra tooth brush and kept it in a little bag in my trunk in case I needed it.
Eh it's not like you barely know him, you've just recently started dating, right? I think toothbrush and deodorant is a good start. I leave a toothbrush at A's place because I unexpectedly went over there last week and he had to give me one. He put it in the toothbrush holder and there it stays.
Post by dakotadangerdog on Oct 3, 2012 11:41:28 GMT -5
For a while I'd just leave small items that you wouldn't mind abandoning if you broke up. With my ex we'd been together for like 9 months and the most I ever left at his house was a toothbrush and a little toiletry bag with some tampons. I never showered at his house so it made it pretty easy.
Really? It's annoying me to have to pack a bag each time.
That's just me, I mean you barely know the guy. If you want to break things off with him do you really want to have to go to his house and pick up a bunch of stuff you left there?
I think this situation is a bit different because B knows this guy, even though they just started dating. He's not a guy she JUST met.
I wouldn't leave clothes, but I would get a toothbrush and some travel sized shower necessities. I would leave clothes as early as four months, but I move fast, so I may not be a good judge of these things.
Yes, I do know him from before we started dating. And we are moving a little fast, but we both feel comfortable with the pace.
You seem in a good place personally, so your moving fast doesn't concern me as much as someone who still has issues and hang ups from previous relationships. I am a fast mover, and I wouldn't suggest how fast H and I moved to other people, but it worked for us. As long as you are BOTH comfortable and you aren't ignoring red flags, I say go for it!
I'm also in the toiletries camp. For me, it would be toothbrush, deodorant, and maybe a small thing of my face wash. I wouldn't leave anything that I would have any qualms leaving behind.
Up until the 3 month mark, the only thing I left there was a toothbrush. I carried a little travel bag in my car with an extra set of everything else I needed and left it in my car. It came in handy at work and visiting friends too, so I like having it regardless. After 3+ months I started buying stuff to keep at his place. He bought a shower caddy at that point because I require a lot of shit. lol!
D and I have been together a year and I still don't leave things at his place... I accidentally left a book and my blow dryer last time and it drove me crazy all week! D just told me to move in... which I am... haha!!! Separate post coming!
Post by DirtyMartini on Oct 4, 2012 9:49:25 GMT -5
Lurker chiming in.
Before I was married and would stay with a boyfriend, I would always have my toiletry bag handy. In it I kept trial size shampoo, conditioner, lotion and make up essentials. I would usually wear something of his to bed, and either go home first to get dressed for work, or keep my work clothes in the car (why I did this, I don't know...I guess it seemed less obvious, like "hey I'm SPENDING THE NIGHT!!)
After awhile (6+ months) I did just leave stuff there: toothbrush, full size toiletries, hair dryer, make up, etc.
I don't know if this helps...it was fun, all the same, reminincing about the "dating days" ;D