Don't your parents already know? Who is this big "announcement" going to?
Honestly, I told who I wanted to tell personally and then just let it spread via word of mouth to others. I don't get the AW-y pregnancy announcements.
Post by dakotadangerdog on Oct 3, 2012 13:19:11 GMT -5
If you miscarry or have some other tragic occurrence, would you rather everyone knows or not? If you wouldn't want everyone to know, wait a month or two. That's why people tend to wait longer to tell people. Some people would like to have the support in the event that something happens, some would rather deal with it privately. If you don't care, then just call your brother and say "hey bro, I'm pregly! give me attention!!!!" Then call his grandma and be like "Hey G'ma start thinking about what you want to get me for my baby shower!!!!! PREGGERZZZZ"
I knew for 3 weeks when I told my parents and siblings. I made keychains that said Grandma and Grandpa. They loved them. I told my siblings beforehand. I called up my close friends to tell them. And then posted on facebook once that was all done.
Post by dakotadangerdog on Oct 3, 2012 13:33:10 GMT -5
I wouldn't say it's that I don't like you. I just think you want everyone to pay attention to you cuz hey look at me I'm having a bayyyyybeeeee. And my post made me laugh.
Post by katietornado on Oct 3, 2012 13:35:09 GMT -5
Jesus, why do people make such a big AWy show of this? Do what people have been doing since language was invented: tell people "I'm pregnant." Boom, done. Maybe do it via email though; it sounds like some people aren't going to be thrilled about it, and their in-person reactions could be hurtful.
I wouldn't say it's that I don't like you. I just think you want everyone to pay attention to you cuz hey look at me I'm having a bayyyyybeeeee. And my post made me laugh.
And me. If it's a real pregnancy, I guess. If it's not, then I'm just sad.
Jesus, why do people make such a big AWy show of this? Do what people have been doing since language was invented: tell people "I'm pregnant." Boom, done. Maybe do it via email though; it sounds like some people aren't going to be thrilled about it, and their in-person reactions could be hurtful.
Post by prettyinpearls on Oct 3, 2012 13:45:55 GMT -5
Just playing devil’s advocate here….I didn’t “get” the big pregnancy announcements until I actually experienced it myself. I’m not an overly maternal person, so I didn’t see the big deal about being pregnant. That is, until it was me going through it.
That being said, we didn’t make a big deal out of it. We told our parents on Mother’s Day (I was 5 weeks pg) and then made a simple FB status update announcement when I was 8 weeks pg. (I couldn’t wait any longer).
L – I’ve seen some really cute photo announcements. Are you on Pinterest? I’ve seen cute things where it’s just a shot of the mom and dad’s feet next to a pair of empty baby shoes.
Post by katietornado on Oct 3, 2012 13:46:41 GMT -5
There's a reason no one believes you and it's because you never tell the truth. HTH. And maybe we'd be happy for other posters because they have planned pregnancies, they are mentally stable, they aren't chronic liars, etc. HTHA.
Post by dakotadangerdog on Oct 3, 2012 13:50:01 GMT -5
Actually I wouldn't be happy for any person on this board who announced they were pregnant with their boyfriend of a few months who she just moved in with because she can't even pay her bills or take care of herself.
You are not a special case liubot, if anyone else was making the same shitty decisions you are I know I for one would be giving them just as much shit.
There's a reason no one believes you and it's because you never tell the truth. HTH. And maybe we'd be happy for other posters because they have planned pregnancies, they are mentally stable, they aren't chronic liars, etc. HTHA.
That doesn't help because you don't know me. I lied about moving in with my boyfriend and that's all. I was sick of hearing about all of the bad decisions I made in MY life every day. Sorry but if you were in my shoes, you'd probably omit or lie about that too. And please, poll every woman you know about "planned pregnancies" including the women of SO and I bet that a majority of their pregnancies were NOT planned.
You're right! A lot of pregnancies aren't planned. Mine wasn't. And I definitely was not in the place to be having a baby. So you know what? I didn't have a baby, because I knew I would have been a shitty provider for that kid.
Post by liutothebot on Oct 3, 2012 13:54:14 GMT -5
So sorry I'm not you and decided to not abort my fetus.
ETA: I do not believe in abortion unless you were raped. I don't think I can give my child up for adoption, and I'd rather be the mother I've always wanted to be.
DDD you giving me shit on a daily basis is not helping the situation. It's not making this baby go away. It's not making me leave my boyfriend and move out of his home. It's not. This is real. This is very fucking real. So why don't you learn to be nice or not say anything at all.
Did I tell you that you should move out or have an abortion? No! That's your choice to make. all I said was that you are acting like an AW! quit whining about how mean I am. Take your own advice and just ignore me if you don't like it.
I would wait till after the 1st trimester...maybe longer. I have had 2 losses though so I am paranoid
Losses can occur at any time. I lost my 2nd pg at 19 weeks. It is entirely up to you when you announce and I honestly don't get the whole wait til after the first tri thing. It is all what you want to do. If you lose the baby, would you want people coming to you offering support or would you want them to leave you alone. If it is the latter, then wait a bit but if you want support, then tell them. Again no guarantee you won't miscarry after first tri.
OMG...I loath women that AW's their pregnancy like you're the ONLY women to ever get pregnant in the WORLD.
Anyways, I personally, wouldn't make a huge deal in telling people, including our families and no FB announcement, twitter, blogs about how big my bump is getting each week...blah.
Ha I'm so bad at announcing things. In fact, there are still people who don't know about my divorce and I have definitely had awkward situations associated with that. I assume word spreads and it totally doesn't the way I think it will. I am sort of worried my extended family at my brother's wedding next month still don't all know the details.
So with that being said, I wouldn't really tell anyone about a pregnancy either except for those it directly impacted like my family, his family, my work family and of course my close friends. I would probably keep the news to myself for the first trimester (seen too many people miscarry after big huge announcements). I'd probably never announce it formally on Facebook b/c I never do that personally.
To each their own though. I have seen people post cute pics on FB holding up signs saying how far along they are or that they are pregnant. Seen people wear shirts announcing it. You can take a very artsy, creative photo.