Help me with this issue please

[Bernadine]

Obvs, J and I are really into each other. He is VERY complimentary, and kind of mushy, which I am not used to. We were talking about me being nervous about meeting his family, and he said they'll like me, because I'm amazing.

It's nice to hear it, and I believe that he means it, but I feel like I can't live up to it, and it makes me think of all the ways that I am not amazing that he just doesn't know about yet.

How do I handle this?

[formerlyknownasefl]

I think you are being way too hard on yourself. Just relax, I'm sure everything will go just fine just be yourself

[Bernadine]

But my feet are really stinky! And I'm a moody bitch when I PMS! And I hate cleaning! lol.

It's seriously very different than what I'm used to. He's very good at being open with his feelings. I'm...not.

[naeljun]

I think if you tell him that and let him know that it is going to take a while for you to get to the point where you are really open, he will understand. He seems like a really nice guy who will get it. Nice guys usually do. We are all just used to jerks.

[Deleted]

I think it's important to realize that amazing does not equal perfect. You're focused on being perfect. It's often times people's "flaws" that make them so amazing.

[heavenly]

Oct 3, 2012 14:37:55 GMT -5 Bernadine said:

But my feet are really stinky! And I'm a moody bitch when I PMS! And I hate cleaning! lol.

It's seriously very different than what I'm used to. He's very good at being open with his feelings. I'm...not.

I am sorry you were used to something other than being treated nicely. Try to embrace the new feelings, you deserve it and do the goofy smile which is a good thing.

[Bernadine]

I have told him, he said it's fine, and I think he knows I'm working on it.

He really is great. I said something about us getting into an argument and he said if we do, we'll just discuss whatever it is we disagree on. Whut? No cussing? No fists through the wall? Does that really happen?

[formerlyknownasefl]

Oct 3, 2012 14:43:34 GMT -5 Bernadine said:

I have told him, he said it's fine, and I think he knows I'm working on it.

He really is great. I said something about us getting into an argument and he said if we do, we'll just discuss whatever it is we disagree on. Whut? No cussing? No fists through the wall? Does that really happen?

It does happen but I think most of us here are used to being treated otherwise! Sounds like you have a good one!

[Bernadine]

pdx, I really like that sentiment.

[imalwaysme79]

Oct 3, 2012 14:42:59 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

I think it's important to realize that amazing does not equal perfect. You're focused on being perfect. It's often times people's "flaws" that make them so amazing.

QFT. I like this a lot.

[leahmel]

You are amazing, and he obviously likes you. I love what PP said about amazing not meaning perfect. Let him think you're amazing and soak it all up. My BF is very verbal, mushy, and emotionally open as well, and I had never dated anyone like that before either, it's a huge adjustment! Try to see what he sees and realize that maybe you're just what he has been looking for "imperfections" and all.

[GilliC]

I understand where you're coming from. I keep pointing out all the times that I'm not as awesome as my boyfriend thinks I am, and he just accepts them.

I think I'm subconsciously waiting for the other shoe to drop. I guess we probably all are. "Something didn't work last time, so something won't work the next time." But if we point out all of our flaws up front, and he still sticks around, I guess the odds are much better, right?