First date question

[Muddled]

Don't worry, this has nothing to do with engagement photos.

I have a friend who is having his first date off of OKC this weekend. He asked me to help him find a cozy cute cafe for a noon on Saturday meeting. He wants it to be somewhere that they could maybe start with coffee and then still eat if they wanted to spend more time together.

While I agree with the concept, I am questioning the timing. How do you meet someone at noon and not plan on lunch or brunch? Am I wrong about this? I am also envisioning that any cute place that also serves food will have lines and a wait at noon on Saturday. Is it a terrible idea to tell him he should change the time? Am I overthinking this?

What do you think?

[bullygirl979]

Sorry, I ONLY reply to threads about engagement photos.

Kidding. Okay, here is my 2 cents. I never go into a date assuming that we will eat. For example, last night I went to a wine bar at 7pm. I had a snack before I went just in case we didn't eat (which we didn't)

I think he is fine to pick a cafe/coffee shop where there is food to snack on if the person wants. I am curious though, any reason why he didn't just plan a lunch date?

[Bernadine]

I think it would be more weird for him to change it now that she's already agreed to it.

He could get there a little early to make sure he gets a table. And like bully, I never assumed I was eating unless it was specifically stated we were meeting for dinner.

[Muddled]

That's good to know, Bully.

I think he doesn't want to plan on eating because it's his first first date with someone he's met online and he's just nervous about it. I doubt it has anything to do with who he is actually meeting.


Also, I have such a hard time calling you Bully, because you are anything but.

[bullygirl979]

Oct 4, 2012 9:38:51 GMT -5 Muddled said:

Also, I have such a hard time calling you Bully, because you are anything but.

Aww...thanks, Muddled!! It is actually a double entendre because of my love for pit bulls

<-------- points to siggy pic

I think he is fine. I can understand where he is coming from because I usually don't like to do lunch/dinner for first dates either for online people. And quite frankly, if she is going to be in a tizz because of where he picks, then she isn't worth it, haha!!

[Deleted]

Noon seems okay to me, but I eat lunch around 1-2pm most days.

[Muddled]

Thanks, you guys. I really want this to go well for him. I'm afraid a bad first experience would be really discouraging.

Anyone on OKC in the NYC area here? MCC? ::waggles eyebrows::

[Muddled]

I'm with you, redvelvet, which is why I was asking.


MCC- NYC 34. Nice. Southern roots. Good secure job. Easy going. Cute. Takes care of his body. Just sayin...

[bullygirl979]

Oct 4, 2012 10:40:26 GMT -5 Muddled said:

I'm with you, redvelvet, which is why I was asking.


MCC- NYC 34. Nice. Southern roots. Good secure job. Easy going. Cute. Takes care of his body. Just sayin...

I think there are some single NYC ladies in here.....

[stephbfan]

I think it sounds fine. They still have the option to eat if they want to.

If I were having a date at noon, I would expect to get something to eat. I'm not talking about something big but a little something with my coffee. Well, no wonder why I'm fat lol.

[Deleted]

Two of my soon to be sister-in-laws live in NYC and could use some recs Muddled!

[dakotadangerdog]

I can't drink caffeine after like 11am so that definitely wouldn't work for me! But, that's just me

[blackkitty]

This is a bad idea.
You need to know if you are going to eat! I ALWAYS need to know!!!!

I say... met at 10:30 for coffee. And then you can always have brunch.
For brunch the Popover Cafe is awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Muddled]

Ok, it turns out it was her suggestion to meet at noon and I think all is clear as far as expectations go. A drink, a crossaint, some get-to-know-you banter...

Then he will leave, eat something real, and start drinking as I pump him for info during the game.