What should I do about this date?

[blackkitty]

So we're supposed to meet Sunday at 4:00 and "do something" first and then have dinner. He suggested bowling or playing pool or going to a park and talking. So we are talking like a 3-4 hour date for a first date.

Sure, he's driving an hour to see me so there's that. But he talks a lot. I'm not getting a great vibe. Maybe he's nervous IDK or maybe he's the kind of guy that won't STFU. He just talked for an hour on the phone.

So... should I cancel? Should I tell him to come later and we can just do dinner. WTF, dating is seriously annoying me right now. Why does a first date have to be 4 freaking hours long???

HALP ME

[blackkitty]

and if I should just cancel, what should I say?

[Deleted]

Well, if you're getting a bad vibe, then go with your gut and cancel. Just say thanks for the offer, but I'm not sure we're a good match. OR if you still feel like going, then just meet for dinner.

[BlueBayou]

If you are getting a bad vibe, and are not interested then Cancel. If you are interested, but worried about the incessant talking thing being an issue, then say something came up and meet him halfway for coffee or something and gauge it from a shorter date?? if you want to cancel, then maybe tell him something from work came up (if you don't want to be honest?).

Are you sure its not just nervousness making him talk alot?

[doriswe]

A planned 3-4 hour first date seems realllllyyyy long. If you are going to go, I'd tell him something came up with your sitter and you're only able to get away from this time to this time.

I need more on the conversation before I can vote on canceling. Did he ask about you at all? Did you ask him questions and he just nervously rattled on? Did he just blab on without anything from you?

Also, if you're getting this annoyed by dating, maybe taking a break is in order.

[blackkitty]

I'm going to cancel.

I'm going to tell him that upon further reflection I don't think we'd be a good match and good luck.

Here's what I didn't like...
He talked a lot and when I mentioned it it didn't help
He was so serious talking about "relationships" and stuff, early dating should be light and fun!
He talked about how he didn't go on match any more because he found the woman he wanted to date (me) - we hadn't even met yet and it seemed like he was trying to get me off match too
His incessant talking reminded me of my XH
When he did ask me questions I felt like I was being interviewed.


I have too many other good prospects plus fuck wasting my time being talked at!!
Now to sift through the next batch: the Chef, the Neighbor, the Ginger, the Firefighter and the Pilot.
I hope that one of them is actually FUN!

[blackkitty]

ugh, I just texted him to cancel. I hate rejecting people.

[dakotadangerdog]

Ugh wow, from your list I think cancelling was a good idea. that's super weird that he was trying to get you off match already!!! wait until you've gone on a few dates! Jeeze

[blackkitty]

Oct 5, 2012 9:53:55 GMT -5 dakotadangerdog said:

Ugh wow, from your list I think cancelling was a good idea. that's super weird that he was trying to get you off match already!!! wait until you've gone on a few dates! Jeeze

I know right? He was all like ... let's see how fast we can jump into a relationship!

Was already asking me about going away for the weekend with him (in the future!) and would I be able to get away since I have my son full time.

[dakotadangerdog]

Wowwwwwwwww TOOO SOOOOOOOON!!!!

[hainesherway]

Oct 5, 2012 6:05:14 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

I'm going to cancel.

I'm going to tell him that upon further reflection I don't think we'd be a good match and good luck.

Here's what I didn't like...
He talked a lot and when I mentioned it it didn't help
He was so serious talking about "relationships" and stuff, early dating should be light and fun!
He talked about how he didn't go on match any more because he found the woman he wanted to date (me) - we hadn't even met yet and it seemed like he was trying to get me off match too
His incessant talking reminded me of my XH
When he did ask me questions I felt like I was being interviewed.


I have too many other good prospects plus fuck wasting my time being talked at!!
Now to sift through the next batch: the Chef, the Neighbor, the Ginger, the Firefighter and the Pilot.
I hope that one of them is actually FUN!

Don't blame you. He was coming on too strong, too soon!

[blackkitty]

phew, he responded that he respected my decision. And thanked me for my time.

[Bernadine]

Oh, that's nice. Glad he wasn't a jerk.

[prettyinpearls]

Glad he hear he wasn't a jerk about it.

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