S/o of naeljun's observation

[doriswe]

Do you ever see couples out and about and think "how in the hell are those two together"? I grabbed take out tonight (shut it, I'm lazy) and saw this couple (and a little boy, I assumed was their kid) at a table. The man was HUGE. I mean his moobs were resting on the table and he was shoveling food in his mouth and talking up a storm. The girl with him was adorable, very well put together (hair/clothes/make up) and was really thin.

Just now I'm watching Dr. Phil with a guy who admitted to killing his girlfriend. The girl was beautiful and this guy looked like a psychopath. How does this happen?

[naeljun]

I think that all the time obviously. I'm judgmental.

[bowies]

You just described me and my XH. For me, it was all about his personality/ambition. For him, it was all about my stability/family. Eventually we hated each other for those exact things.

[achase123]

I think that sometimes too and I know that makes me a judgemental bitch.

As far as the psychopath thing, I have read a lot about this type of person and they definitely prey on others that you wouldn't think would fall victim to their shit. I do believe XH is a sociopath/psychopath and I would have never thought I'd fall for someone like that. They are so charming and manipulative though so sometimes you can get caught up in all of that. Just my .02.

[doriswe]

Oct 5, 2012 9:05:21 GMT -5 achase123 said:

As far as the psychopath thing, I have read a lot about this type of person and they definitely prey on others that you wouldn't think would fall victim to their shit. I do believe XH is a sociopath/psychopath and I would have never thought I'd fall for someone like that. They are so charming and manipulative though so sometimes you can get caught up in all of that. Just my .02.

This is a good point!

[jade28]

I also wonder about this sometimes. But I think for the most part, people are attracted to confidence (or what appears to be confidence) and this can make even unattractive people attractive. On the flip side, even beautiful, attractive people can have low self-esteem and confidence and fall prey to manipulative, unattractive (personality wise) people. I think it so often has to do more with self-esteem and confidence.