F/up to date last night...

[achase123]

I just received a text from him saying "thank you for having dinner with me last night, hope your Friday goes great!"

What's my course of action here? Respond, ignore? Give him the tough love conversation about how I don't think he's over his ex and it's probably not a good idea to unload on a first date about baby mama drama?

Thoughts?

[Deleted]

I wouldn't respond unless/if he asks you again. But I'm kind of an asshole like that.

[dakotadangerdog]

Eh I don't know, maybe just not respond and then if he texts you again tell him you aren't interested?

[blackkitty]

Hmm, maybe ignore or maybe just say enjoy the day.

You don't have to reject him unless he continues to text or asks you out again.

[achase123]

Perfect ladies, that's what I thought!

[Bernadine]

I agree with BK, I wouldn't reject him until he actually asks you out again.

[jojoandleo]

Oct 5, 2012 11:31:55 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

I wouldn't respond unless/if he asks you again. But I'm kind of an asshole like that.

This is what I would do. *Sits on "kind of an asshole" bench*

[turtle1120]

I don't think it calls for a response since he didn't ask you out or anything. I agree with everyone to ignore. Then if he asks you out again say the baby mama drama turned you off.

[emma245]

I wouldnt respond either but Im also kind of rude like that. I think his behavior speaks for itself so he shouldnt be surprised or maybe hes that ignorant he will be. Either way let him think about it. HA!

Plus what are you gonna say. "Thanks you too but I never want to talk to you again"

[achase123]

Oct 5, 2012 12:08:32 GMT -5 emma245 said:

I wouldnt respond either but Im also kind of rude like that. I think his behavior speaks for itself so he shouldnt be surprised or maybe hes that ignorant he will be. Either way let him think about it. HA!

Plus what are you gonna say. "Thanks you too but I never want to talk to you again"

Right? It would be awkward trying to figure out what to say...so I think the silence will hopefully speak for itself.

Although, thing is, the guy is painfully clueless. I'm not sure that I've ever looked so miserable on a date before and he paid no attention to my reaction at all....just kept rambling on and on about his ex, the Devil Herself. Obviously there are serious social skills that he's lacking in.

[roselis]

If you do want to respond, maybe something along this....

"Thank you for dinner. I want to be upfront though and let you know that I don't think we are a good match. Good luck."

Though, I do think he should be told that talking about exes on a first date is a bad idea, I'm not sure how you would tell him.

[emma245]

See the reason I wouldnt respond is he is clearly unhinged and I think it could invite more "Why can't we be friends" or "lets try again" type texts. I vote no contact. Its only been one date and the guy honestly sounds like hes dealing with some serious issues.

[Deleted]

Oct 5, 2012 12:55:41 GMT -5 emma245 said:

See the reason I wouldnt respond is he is clearly unhinged and I think it could invite more "Why can't we be friends" or "lets try again" type texts. I vote no contact. Its only been one date and the guy honestly sounds like hes dealing with some serious issues.

:Y:

[achase123]

Oct 5, 2012 12:55:41 GMT -5 emma245 said:

See the reason I wouldnt respond is he is clearly unhinged and I think it could invite more "Why can't we be friends" or "lets try again" type texts. I vote no contact. Its only been one date and the guy honestly sounds like hes dealing with some serious issues.

Agreed. If he's that out of touch with social skills/reality/what's polite that he'd spend an entire first date bashing his ex and having no clue how much I wanted to slit my wrists then yah, there must be some level of crazy goin' on.