Post by starvingscientist on May 11, 2012 8:41:05 GMT -5
I'll admit sometimes I feel something like regret when I realize that my marriage is over and Im getting divorced. I say "something like regret" because HIS actions are why the marriage is over, and I did try to reconcile with him and he continued in his destructive behavior. But still, sometimes I wish with all of my heart that things were different, that either he would never have cheated on me in the first place, or when he was found out and I committed to trying to reconcile, he would've taken it seriously. But what I want and what the reality is are not the same thing...
Post by nextchapter on May 11, 2012 9:46:17 GMT -5
It's disappointing when a marriage doesn't work out, but it's also amazing how much your feelings change after a while. It's been 15 months since my XH filed for divorce and 8 months since it was finalized. These days, I only feel regret for having been married to him in the first place.
It's disappointing when a marriage doesn't work out, but it's also amazing how much your feelings change after a while. It's been 15 months since my XH filed for divorce and 8 months since it was finalized. These days, I only feel regret for having been married to him in the first place.
This. 100%. I separated from my XH a year and a half ago, divorce finalized almost a year ago. I was sad for the loss of the life I thought I had, but now life is much smoother, and happier, and I am way more awesome than I was when I was with him, stronger, more independant and honestly, care free. Just takes a little time.
Post by starvingscientist on May 11, 2012 10:41:55 GMT -5
Yes, my life is much better now without him to be sure. Its just sad that it had to be this way- obviously I didnt go into this marriage wanting it to end.
Post by compassrose on May 11, 2012 10:47:01 GMT -5
I don't have regrets, per say, but I think part of me will always be a little sad for that girl who was so in love and had some many dreams only for it all to go up in flames.