DH Vent

[elenetxu]

Why did I marry a Music teacher if I like silence so much? I'm a wench and bought him headphones for his birthday so I didn't have to listen to his music any more. Problem is that he's currently got Mendelssohn cranked up so loud that it's difficult to hear the TV which is three feet away and at volume level 20. No wonder the man is going deaf!

Let it all out, folks. What does your respective other half do that gets to you?

[mrsukyankee]

You should have gotten him wireless headphones!

Roy makes all sorts of weird noises all the time...drives me mad. I have to leave the room at times...it's worse when we're in the car.

[clickerish]

The cleanliness. Sometimes I want to just leave my shoes where they are. Or not make the bed on weekends. It's exhausting.

[crimsonandclover]

His obsessive love of opera. Not that I don't like it, but I do want to hear other music on occasion. Sometimes he'll make a concession and we'll get to listen to "my music" on one half of a car ride.

[Cheesecake]

Mine's a saint, no really.... lol

His messiness can bug me at times though. We're both messy, but he's worse. Oh, and the fact that he actually gets along with my parents... (I don't, so it can get annoying when he's all 'suuuuure, come on over', while I'm thinking 'there goes my peaceful, quiet weekend'.

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May 20, 2012 13:57:56 GMT -5 crimsonandclover said:

His obsessive love of opera. Not that I don't like it, but I do want to hear other music on occasion. Sometimes he'll make a concession and we'll get to listen to "my music" on one half of a car ride.

Aw, he would have a blast at our place! MH even sings my arias as he cooks If you're ever in NYC Kelly let me know, I can get you two orchestra seats at the Met for a lot less.
OK one thing he does that drives me up the wall is he never looks for something by himself. He ALWAYS asks me where something is. He would stand in the kitchen staring at the fridge and yell "where is the salmon???" I'm like WTH I don't know, open the door and look!!

[irish]

May 20, 2012 13:50:53 GMT -5 clickerish said:

The cleanliness. Sometimes I want to just leave my shoes where they are. Or not make the bed on weekends. It's exhausting.

I'm with you on this. However with my dh the cleanliness is selective!! As in, he will clear his bedside locker of glass/ tissues but leave them on my dressing table and that's where they will stay til I move them. Or if he's taking clothes off the clothes line he might fold them all but will only put his in our room and leave mine and N's on the kitchen table....

Can't remember last time he cleaned bathroom or mopped or cleaned the kitchen, but yet when I suggest getting a cleaner he says we don't need one!!

Or if the dishwasher has clean things in it he will leave dishes in the sink rather than over the dishwasher - despite several explanations he still refuses to acknowledge that this means that the sink can't be used without clearing the things out!!!

Sometimes it feels like we are 2 unconnected individuals sharing a house than a married couple with this kind of behaviour!!

[clogged]

The fact he speaks English better than I do. And he's the bloody foreigner- he's ESL!!!!!

[Wanderista]

He is also way cleaner than me but I like it because my living environment finally looks like an adult place and not a student dorm room. He's training me to be neater too and we usually clean together.

Really though, I'd say he's a really picky eater with a kind of "childish" palette. I'm the gourmet, adventurous type while he's the grilled cheese, French fries, cheese pizza, Coca-Cola and not a lot else type. Actually though, I've become a much better cook because of him.

Because I am so compelled to add variety to his diet, it motivates me to cook for him. I'm always on a quest to find things that he likes and it makes me so happy when he expresses an interest in something new because I made it for him or introduced him to it in a restaurant. Now the list of things he likes and asks for is growing, so I'm really glad about that.

[crimsonandclover]

May 20, 2012 14:38:08 GMT -5 @jewels6711 said:

May 20, 2012 13:57:56 GMT -5 crimsonandclover said:

His obsessive love of opera. Not that I don't like it, but I do want to hear other music on occasion. Sometimes he'll make a concession and we'll get to listen to "my music" on one half of a car ride.

Aw, he would have a blast at our place! MH even sings my arias as he cooks If you're ever in NYC Kelly let me know, I can get you two orchestra seats at the Met for a lot less.
OK one thing he does that drives me up the wall is he never looks for something by himself. He ALWAYS asks me where something is. He would stand in the kitchen staring at the fridge and yell "where is the salmon???" I'm like WTH I don't know, open the door and look!!

I've never been to NYC nor is it in our plans for the near future, but if we do go there, I will definitely take you up on this. It would make DH's day, month, year, heck, it would make his life! He loves opera, but is particularly fond of operettas, particularly German ones, so that's usually what he sings.

[americaninoz]

it drives me mad that dh will cook a meal and leave ingredients (even refridgerated ones!) out on the counter and a million bowls and plates. Why can't he clean as he goes like I do??? *sigh*

[allibally]

Leaves the dish rag in the sink and then piles dishes on top of it.

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May 20, 2012 16:53:43 GMT -5 crimsonandclover said:

May 20, 2012 14:38:08 GMT -5 @jewels6711 said:

Aw, he would have a blast at our place! MH even sings my arias as he cooks If you're ever in NYC Kelly let me know, I can get you two orchestra seats at the Met for a lot less.
OK one thing he does that drives me up the wall is he never looks for something by himself. He ALWAYS asks me where something is. He would stand in the kitchen staring at the fridge and yell "where is the salmon???" I'm like WTH I don't know, open the door and look!!

I've never been to NYC nor is it in our plans for the near future, but if we do go there, I will definitely take you up on this. It would make DH's day, month, year, heck, it would make his life! He loves opera, but is particularly fond of operettas, particularly German ones, so that's usually what he sings.

How did he take the death of Fischer-Dieskau? I was so sorry to hear but at least he was old and had lived a great life.

[centralperk]

DH makes this SUPER annoying sound mostly when he's concentrating really hard or very relaxed. It's hard to describe, it's almost like a squeaking sound. There are videos of him doing it when he was 2 years old, lol. It drives me craaaaazy. And he never realizes he's doing it, so I have had zero success in making it stop in the 11 years we've been together.

[potatopie]

May 20, 2012 15:24:40 GMT -5 clogged said:

The fact he speaks English better than I do. And he's the bloody foreigner- he's ESL!!!!!

This! He corrected the way I spell "definitely" and lately has been correcting me when I saw "first of all" and then "second of all" (it should be "secondly").

Also, we ALWAYS have to watch his choice of movies or TV. Which means a lot of depressing movies. I'm asserting myself this week, though, and making him get the new Jane Eyre. I've been dying to see that one.

[cailinabroad]

his music tastes drive me crazy. I'm a musical omnivore but every one of his favorite bands are on my short list of "do not play ever around me unless you want to be beaten to death." It's only fair I guess that he hates my music too. We just compromise in the car and surf the radio rather than plugging in an iPod.

Oh, and his insistence on cleaning with a sponge. I'm a huge germaphobe and every time I see that sponge I just imagine it sucking up all the germs in the kitchen and spreading it around. I keep trying to throw them out and new ones keep appearing...

[anna7602]

May 20, 2012 14:38:08 GMT -5 @jewels6711 said:

May 20, 2012 13:57:56 GMT -5 crimsonandclover said:

His obsessive love of opera. Not that I don't like it, but I do want to hear other music on occasion. Sometimes he'll make a concession and we'll get to listen to "my music" on one half of a car ride.

If you're ever in NYC Kelly let me know, I can get you two orchestra seats at the Met for a lot less.

Stellina, I'll take you up on this!!! I keep forgetting you're in NY. Right now, it is looking like we'll be back there in January, although DH is still trying to pull off another international move when our stint in Paris is up.

And that last part is I guess what I'll vent about. DH is constantly plotting on the life front. It's part of what makes me find him so attractive and exciting- his willingness to think outside the box and all that- but it also sometimes makes me feel like I'm not really able to settle and get comfy with things before it all gets switched up again.

[blushing]

DH can't just sit still and watch the ad break on TV, he is forever channel flipping, it drives me batty! Chose a channel, watch the show, change the channel damnit!

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May 21, 2012 5:48:00 GMT -5 anna7602 said:

May 20, 2012 14:38:08 GMT -5 @jewels6711 said:

If you're ever in NYC Kelly let me know, I can get you two orchestra seats at the Met for a lot less.

Stellina, I'll take you up on this!!! I keep forgetting you're in NY. Right now, it is looking like we'll be back there in January, although DH is still trying to pull off another international move when our stint in Paris is up.

And that last part is I guess what I'll vent about. DH is constantly plotting on the life front. It's part of what makes me find him so attractive and exciting- his willingness to think outside the box and all that- but it also sometimes makes me feel like I'm not really able to settle and get comfy with things before it all gets switched up again.

You betcha!

[gibbylod]

DH is a drummer and just can't sit still. He always has to be tapping his fingers or his feet. It drives me nuts!

He is also extremely short on patience. Everything must happen here and now (especially when it comes to food). If I'm still cooking dinner when he comes home from work, he gets antsy and will grab something else to eat, and he refuses to wait for a table at a restaurant.