Stolen from CE&P The trouble with Bright Girls

[explorer2001]

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The whole woe is me theme reminded me of this... Basically that we are too hard on ourselves and demand perfection so we aren't willing to try and take the risk. I know I have struggled with this, "if I'm not perfect it's not even worth trying because I know I'll fail" idea. I've done it to myself with my career, I;ve sone it to myself dating, etc.

What are your thoughts?

[BlueBayou]

Interesting ideas...do you really think its a gender thing? or do you think its a question of raising and personal traits?? I dont think I would point all of it to what words of encouragement I heard as a child...

[explorer2001]

The article actually says its how people treat girls vs boys and therefore what they learn to value. For me it was nature and nurture. I was always a perfectionist and my parents demanded perfection. There was no mercy, even if I was being picked on for no reason, it wasn't ok that I was being picked on and it was my fault. My brother could do no wrong. He worked hard but wasn't a perfectionist. My parents would forgive anything he did even if it was 100% his fault, ex he hit me.

[blackkitty]

Since we are all human, no one is actually perfect

[Deleted]

Huh. I consider myself rather bright and was a straight A student (okay, I got ONE B). But I never gave up. I worked really hard when something was challenging and I still do. But perfection wasn't what was demanded and instilled in me. It was that you don't quit.