New to this board - not sure if you do intros?

[onesweetworld]

Basically my H told me Friday he wants to separate after 6 weeks of "thinking" on his end.

I am 35 yrs old
Married 7, together 10
One 3 year old daughter
1 dog

I was all zen about it Saturday and a blubbering mess yesterday. Today I'm somewhere in between.

[turtle1120]

Sorry that you've found yourself here, but feel free to post. The ladies here are really supportive and offer great advice. The roller coaster of emotions is all part of the process and it's completely normal. Counselling can be very helpful and just about everyone here will most likely recommend it.

Hugs to you!

[bullygirl979]

We do intros here!

First of all--hugs! It is a painful process. Are you in therapy? If not, I would recommend it.

Tell us more about you. You obviously like DMB. What kind of dog do you have? What do you do for fun?

And welcome!

[doriswe]

Welcome and sorry you find yourself here, but it's a pretty awesome place to land!

I'll second therapy and the roller coaster of emotions.

((hugs))

[onesweetworld]

Thanks:) no therapist yet but will get one soon.

I do like DMB, the dog is a golden-doodle who will live with H, fun? I like tons of things just nothing right now. Ha. Ask me again in a month;)

[bullygirl979]

Oct 8, 2012 8:13:02 GMT -5 onesweetworld said:

I do like DMB, the dog is a golden-doodle who will live with H, fun? I like tons of things just nothing right now. Ha. Ask me again in a month;)

Aww...I am sorry! That sucks about the dog. Are you guys doing split time with your DD?

And, I like you. I like your potential for snark. Good answer And it is totally understandable. Recognize there will be days you feel okay and days you feel like you can't breathe. Both are totally normal and we have all been there. This board is great and there is ususally people around even on nights/weekends. Stick around and post as much as you want. We are generally nice to newbs.

ETA: I just noticed your post count. Where do you normally post?

[turtle1120]

Golden-doodles are so cute! I saw one at the pet store a couple weeks ago and I wanted to bring him home. Do they shed?

As hard as it may be, try to take some time for yourself and do things that you enjoy (or used to enjoy). Even if you have to force yourself to go hang out with friends. You may not feel like it, but getting your mind off of things even for a little bit will help.

[prettyinpearls]

I hate welcoming people to this board, as it’s a crappy situation that brings you here. However, the ladies are extremely supportive and I hope you find this group helpful in your journey. I’m glad you found us!

[roselis]

Welcome to the board! This a great group. It will get easier as time goes on.

[onesweetworld]

Thanks again...My "home" board is ML since about 2005.
Sadly my new job doesn't allow much posting time so will probably be here evenings and weekends.
We will sort of share DD. I requested to be primary and he agreed. So he will see her during the week for park visits/dinner/swimming but she will not sleep there until weekends. I don't want her in different beds/routines during the school week. He will probably see her more now then before.

[marigoldgirl]

Sorry you find yourself here. Things will get better, it just takes time.

[gozf]

OSW is awesome.

Hi, OSW!

[onesweetworld]

Hi Gozf!

[bullygirl979]

Oct 8, 2012 9:05:07 GMT -5 gozf said:

OSW is awesome.

I trust your judgment on everything. Except Mr Rogers.

[gozf]

I'm really sorry you're going through all of this. The people on this board are really great, though. I hope you like it here and find us helpful.

[BlueBayou]

Im sorry you have to be here but pleased you found us. Hope we can help make this a memory for you soon and empower you to be happier then ever.

[usedtobebear]

I'm sorry you're going through this. I would recommend to start journaling if you can, it's so helpful to go back and read throughout your journey. Also, take care of yourself and rely on friends and family. It's totally normal to be fine one day and a mess the next. I'm 6 months into my separation and currently a mess, but two months ago I was kicking ass and loving life, it's a roller coaster ride for sure. I hope you stick around, good luck!!

[blackkitty]

Sorry that you found yourself here, but welcome to the party! It gets easier, I promise

[onesweetworld]

I'm off to get ready for Thanksgiving dinner (Canadian) with my Bff's family. DD and I are heading over there for turkey and stuffing and WINE. But I will for sure be here whenever I can...i know I will need support.

Right now I'm focused on finding a place to live for me and DD, Starting a brand spanking new job on Oct 15 (OMG) and packing up and listing our current home. FML, I have a LOT to do in the next 2-3 weeks.

[udscoobychick]

Happy Thanksgiving! And welcome!

[Deleted]

I am sorry OSW. But the good thing is that we understand what you're going through and you'll realize that there is a very bright light at the end of the tunnel. We're living proof!

[kc18]

Take it one day at a time. It's so tough to deal with all these changes and the emotions of what's going on at the same time. I would suggest journaling at night or in the morning before a hectic day. Really helped me see and document what I was going through.

[leahmel]

I am sorry to see you here under these circumstances, OSW, but welcome to the SO board.

I am so sorry that you are going through this, you'll be ok. ((hugs))