Monday vent

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Anybody have one??

Mine is all the people on FB that post about lovey crap, oh I married you a year ago today, you are my soul mate and my lover and my best friend and I love you so much blah blah +o( save it for your anniversary card....

[BlueBayou]

I work in the public service field. I cannot stand it when people on welfare tell me i have to do what they want because they pay my salary. Really idiot? I pay YOUR salary Einstein.

[heavenly]

Oct 8, 2012 10:35:08 GMT -5 jellymankelly said:

Oct 8, 2012 10:20:54 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

Anybody have one??

Mine is all the people on FB that post about lovey crap, oh I married you a year ago today, you are my soul mate and my lover and my best friend and I love you so much blah blah save it for your anniversary card....

I hate this too. "I'm so glad I married someone who will stand by me no matter what!" Gag me. I thought I had married someone like that too and he ended up being a really good liar, so watch out, smug bitches!

Yep, me too! This morning I got a mushy message on FB as well. "I am so glad I married you, you are my rock"

[usedtobebear]

I want to Vent that I'm afraid my stbx is going to take his own life and somehow I'm supposed to not care and feel relieved that it's not my issue anymore. I'm, pretty sure that's impossible, I can't just quit fvcking caring about someone I've spent the last 12 years with. I wish so badly he could pull himself together, even though I no longer want to be married to him I will be devastated.

[jax373]

My 1 year old spent the night away from me last night with her father, her first night away from me ever. And now I can't stop thinking about in the future when I won't get to see her everyday once she starts staying with him more (she was still nursing at night which is why she always stayed nights with me). We also have a 3 year old who stays with him on a schedule but I am currently seeing her every day when dropping 1 year old off/picking up. It makes me sad and anxious....like I am abandoning both of my kids. Yes, I know they are with their father who loves them (and takes good care of them) but it still hurts my heart to think of not seeing them everyday.

[heavenly]

Oct 8, 2012 10:54:09 GMT -5 jax373 said:

My 1 year old spent the night away from me last night with her father, her first night away from me ever. And now I can't stop thinking about in the future when I won't get to see her everyday once she starts staying with him more (she was still nursing at night which is why she always stayed nights with me). We also have a 3 year old who stays with him on a schedule but I am currently seeing her every day when dropping 1 year old off/picking up. It makes me sad and anxious....like I am abandoning both of my kids. Yes, I know they are with their father who loves them (and takes good care of them) but it still hurts my heart to think of not seeing them everyday.

I have felt the exact same way. It is hard to see but it does get easier over time.

[jax373]

Oct 8, 2012 10:57:16 GMT -5 heavenly said:

Oct 8, 2012 10:54:09 GMT -5 jax373 said:

My 1 year old spent the night away from me last night with her father, her first night away from me ever. And now I can't stop thinking about in the future when I won't get to see her everyday once she starts staying with him more (she was still nursing at night which is why she always stayed nights with me). We also have a 3 year old who stays with him on a schedule but I am currently seeing her every day when dropping 1 year old off/picking up. It makes me sad and anxious....like I am abandoning both of my kids. Yes, I know they are with their father who loves them (and takes good care of them) but it still hurts my heart to think of not seeing them everyday.

I have felt the exact same way. It is hard to see but it does get easier over time.

Thank you. It helps some when people reassure me of this. I know it's true but the present certainly does suck.

[bullygirl979]

My foster dog is annoyed the shit out of me right now. I am working from home today and she is SO bad. Whining, barking, trying to jump in my lap. I give her bones and toys but that will only keep her occupied about 20 minutes or so.

[prettyinpearls]

Oct 8, 2012 11:02:19 GMT -5 jax373 said:

Oct 8, 2012 10:57:16 GMT -5 heavenly said:

I have felt the exact same way. It is hard to see but it does get easier over time.

Thank you. It helps some when people reassure me of this. I know it's true but the present certainly does suck.

It'll get easier, I promise. Take these times to do something for YOU...you deserve it!

[naeljun]

I really thought that more people would take today off. I wanted to work on my paper that is due tonight.

DD is with her dad for the week and I am really, really sad. I'm not used to her not being with me full time.

[naeljun]

My new shoes are giving me blisters.

[explorer2001]

Oct 8, 2012 10:53:40 GMT -5 usedtobebear said:

I want to Vent that I'm afraid my stbx is going to take his own life and somehow I'm supposed to not care and feel relieved that it's not my issue anymore. I'm, pretty sure that's impossible, I can't just quit fvcking caring about someone I've spent the last 12 years with. I wish so badly he could pull himself together, even though I no longer want to be married to him I will be devastated.

(}) You are a good caring person. Caring isn't an on/off switch. What you are feeling us totally normal.

Before the divorce, I worried when my ex said he'd kill himself. In my case it really was just his controlling manipulation. He "snapped out of it" as far as threatening harming himself when it stopped working on me. I'm not saying this is your case. Just that it happens.

I truly hope you can fund a place where you are at peace knowing whatever he chooses it isn't your fault. You will still be sad if something tragic happens, but it isn't your responsibility.

[explorer2001]

My side where they are going to do the lumpectomy is throbbing. It is annoying, but they said cancer doesn't.hurt so whatever this is is less likely to be cancer since it hurts.

[prettyinpearls]

Oct 8, 2012 10:31:18 GMT -5 BlueBayou said:

I work in the public service field. I cannot stand it when people on welfare tell me i have to do what they want because they pay my salary. Really idiot? I pay YOUR salary Einstein.

Grrrr....I can't stand people like this!!!

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Oct 8, 2012 11:16:26 GMT -5 explorer2001 said:

My side where they are going to do the lumpectomy is throbbing. It is annoying, but they said cancer doesn't.hurt so whatever this is is less likely to be cancer since it hurts.

Hey..im sorry :(didn't know you needed surgery. When is it planned for?

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Oct 8, 2012 10:31:18 GMT -5 BlueBayou said:

I work in the public service field. I cannot stand it when people on welfare tell me i have to do what they want because they pay my salary. Really idiot? I pay YOUR salary Einstein.

:Y:

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Oct 8, 2012 11:16:26 GMT -5 explorer2001 said:

My side where they are going to do the lumpectomy is throbbing. It is annoying, but they said cancer doesn't.hurt so whatever this is is less likely to be cancer since it hurts.

Is this from the biopsy? For what it's worth, my biopsy hurt WAY more then the actual lumpectomy. I was really surprised.

[jojoandleo]

I hate the "I married my best friend" crap. I don't know why. I love H, but I have a best friend. It's nice to have someone ELSE to talk and vent to.

[BlueBayou]

Oct 8, 2012 11:55:21 GMT -5 prettyinpearls said:

Oct 8, 2012 10:31:18 GMT -5 BlueBayou said:

I work in the public service field. I cannot stand it when people on welfare tell me i have to do what they want because they pay my salary. Really idiot? I pay YOUR salary Einstein.

Grrrr....I can't stand people like this!!!

It kills me Pip and Blue! I swear I gave scars on my tongue from biting it!! Guess ill have to wait til I retire or hit the lotto to say what i want to them ha

[explorer2001]

Oct 8, 2012 13:45:45 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Oct 8, 2012 11:16:26 GMT -5 explorer2001 said:

My side where they are going to do the lumpectomy is throbbing. It is annoying, but they said cancer doesn't.hurt so whatever this is is less likely to be cancer since it hurts.

Is this from the biopsy? For what it's worth, my biopsy hurt WAY more then the actual lumpectomy. I was really surprised.

The biopsy was two weeks ago. It's been hurting more each day since the presurgical example on Thursday. Surgery itself is the 19th. I'm trying to get as much exercise and have as much fun as possible between now.and then since both.will be shut down for a while after the surgery.

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Oct 8, 2012 15:08:23 GMT -5 explorer2001 said:

Oct 8, 2012 13:45:45 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Is this from the biopsy? For what it's worth, my biopsy hurt WAY more then the actual lumpectomy. I was really surprised.

The biopsy was two weeks ago. It's been hurting more each day since the presurgical example on Thursday. Surgery itself is the 19th. I'm trying to get as much exercise and have as much fun as possible between now.and then since both.will be shut down for a while after the surgery.

I'm so sorry:( I know it sucks. Sending you good thoughts.