My mother in-law just called me...

[usedtobebear]

OMG, I am shaking right now. I'm telling you ladies, I am not being dramatic thinking my stbx is going to take his own life. She just called me (haven't spoken to her since May), he is under my insurance and she had some in-network out of network questions. She is trying to get him committed to a 24 hour facility or something, she's just as worried as I've been. He is not functioning and not doing well at all. He seems to still be dealing with psychosis. I cried to her and told her how sorry I am and she reiterated that it's not my fault and she knows I did the best I could. I feel a little relief as I've been giving his family the side eye for not helping him more. I guess she has taken him to the ER and a few other doctors. I feel so sad for her, this is terrible. I hope she can get him some help before it's too late. I feel sick.

[Deleted]

I'm really sorry you are going through all of this:( It sounds awful. I'm glad his family is there and supporting him.

Are you in therapy as well to help deal with all of this?

[explorer2001]

Hugs. You are doing everything you can. I know its scary. I wish I had better words to help, but there aren't any. There's an old prayer (yes I know the heathen referencing prayer) that goes: Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. This is one of the ones you cannot chnage. I'm so so sorry.

[blackkitty]

That's awful, I hope that he gets the help he needs

[usedtobebear]

Oct 8, 2012 11:42:14 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

I'm really sorry you are going through all of this:( It sounds awful. I'm glad his family is there and supporting him.

Are you in therapy as well to help deal with all of this?

Thank you, yes... I have been going to therapy weekly since this is all started in April, Thursday's can't come fast enough most weeks, maybe I should start going twice a week, ugh!

[doriswe]

Can you get in to your counselor earlier this week?

If he does do something you need to know it has nothing to do with you.

[usedtobebear]

Oct 8, 2012 11:44:33 GMT -5 explorer2001 said:

Hugs. You are doing everything you can. I know its scary. I wish I had better words to help, but there aren't any. There's an old prayer (yes I know the heathen referencing prayer) that goes: Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. This is one of the ones you cannot chnage. I'm so so sorry.

Thank you, I know there is nothing I can do to 'save' him, but it doesn't change the way I feel inside, which is fvcking terrible every day, all day. :-(

[usedtobebear]

Oct 8, 2012 11:48:24 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

That's awful, I hope that he gets the help he needs

Me too, he has so much to offer, it's so confusing how this happened?!?!? Ugh!

[usedtobebear]

Oct 8, 2012 11:50:28 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Can you get in to your counselor earlier this week?

If he does do something you need to know it has nothing to do with you.

I'm going to try... I know it has nothing to do with me but that doesn't change the fact that I would be devastated and really struggle with coming to terms with it. I feel so sad for his family right now, at least I can somewhat walk away from it all, :-(

[turtle1120]

I'm really sorry you have to deal with this. It's got to be tough, but it's not your fault at all. It's good to hear that his family is stepping in and trying to get him the help he needs. Hang in there and hugs to you!

[naeljun]

I'm really, really sorry.

Was he always like this or did the divorce put him over?

[usedtobebear]

Oct 8, 2012 12:15:41 GMT -5 naeljun said:

I'm really, really sorry.

Was he always like this or did the divorce put him over?

He started down some sort of mental/psychosis in March/April, which let to the divorce. There were many things that accumulated over time and I didn't just want a divorce over this but it definitely was the final straw. He wasn't working, I was sick of being in charge of everything. It's complicated but something snapped and he spiraled. :-(

[baa1981]

Wow, I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this!

[marigoldgirl]

I'm so sorry. Stay strong and know that he has to help himself. It's not your fault.

[hobs209]

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I hope his family is able to get him help.

[Bernadine]

I'm so sorry you have to be involved in that. Take care of yourself hon.