Oh man, it sort of sucked actually. My little sister was excited. We told her while face timing with my mom. My mom was sort of weird because she is still waiting for the blood test. Then I called my older sister to tell her and we got into a fight because she thinks I should have waited to tell. I cried. She apologized the next day. Oh well. The excitement of MMM more than made up for my crappy family.
Oh man, it sort of sucked actually. My little sister was excited. We told her while face timing with my mom. My mom was sort of weird because she is still waiting for the blood test. Then I called my older sister to tell her and we got into a fight because she thinks I should have waited to tell. I cried. She apologized the next day. Oh well. The excitement of MMM more than made up for my crappy family.
My older brother similarly freaked out on me for telling him too soon (with DD, at 6 weeks) and got me upset.
My mom asked if my pregnancy was an accident, since I hadn't told her we were trying.
So, I get crappy family reactions. We're here for you!
My sister was all "I didn't tell anyone for ten weeks. It can go away." I hung up on her. They both put me in a crappy mood for about an hour before I said fuck them and just had a nice time with my other sister. Now I'm already nervous about telling them there will be multiple blood tests. I may just say the doctor confirmed it and I'm not saying anything else til the anatomy scan.
To comiserate: My mom asked if DS was an accident, and my dad said, "congrats; i've never really liked babies though." My ILs were THRILLED, and that helped.
PS: I didn't get in on the last thread, so.... CONGRATS!!! I am wishing you all the best.
I also got a lot of "Was it an accident?" because DH and I never told anyone we were trying and I was adamant about not having kids. People are just assholes sometimes.
Yeah my dad tore my sister a new one so at least he's on my side. I told her I'm embracing this pregnancy whether it lasts four weeks or forty.
Good for Dad!!!! And I like your response. I didn't tell family until I was over 12 weeks because I knew they would be less than supportive, but her knowing what you were doing and then acting like that is just plain mean.
Post by hopeful2012 on Oct 8, 2012 14:15:13 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for the crappy reaction. With our DS he was a big surprise and my family wasn't very supportive because we didn't have our careers started yet. We just announced #2 and my mother's only reaction was, literally, "Well how are you possibly going to do that with work?" It sucked. And then she didn't bring it up again for the rest of the visit except to throw in a half hearted congrats as we left.
My sister was all "I didn't tell anyone for ten weeks. It can go away." I hung up on her. They both put me in a crappy mood for about an hour before I said fuck them and just had a nice time with my other sister. Now I'm already nervous about telling them there will be multiple blood tests. I may just say the doctor confirmed it and I'm not saying anything else til the anatomy scan.
Like you're unaware miscarriages can happen. Thanks, sis.
But seriously. If people KNOW you had IVF are they thinking you're going to make them wait three months to tell them if it worked? WTF kind of logic is that?
That's basically what I said to her, that I was going to tell in two days anyway. She's just a moron. Like even if I didn't do IVF it's my news to share so back off. I'll show them tomorrow I guess.
Post by hopeful2012 on Oct 8, 2012 14:34:35 GMT -5
So stupid. I told super early both times and I got a decent amount of this type of flack (in addition to my mother specific flack above). People are morons.
Maybe after you get your betas you can call and be like, let's try this again...I'm Pregnant!
Yeah I'm to angry to do anything like that again. I think I'll just send my mom a text saying "confirmed, happy now?" and then not be able to talk about it when she calls because I'll be at work. She lost her chance.
If it's twins I may keep that to myself until Thanksgiving so maybe I'll actually get to shock people once.
Update: So my mom has learned how to google. She said just now "even if it's positive tomorrow you have to go back in 48 hours, right? I read that on the Internet" ZOMG. I'm gonna change my number until the baby is born.
Update: So my mom has learned how to google. She said just now "even if it's positive tomorrow you have to go back in 48 hours, right? I read that on the Internet" ZOMG. I'm gonna change my number until the baby is born.
Yeah, if its bad now, you just need to go ahead and change your phone number and email address. Maybe move too.
Oh no doubt. My mom and sister are chronically nervous people so I'm not going to disown them but I'm still just bummed they couldn't put on a happy face for ten minutes when I needed it.