I have the green-eyed monster

[letyourselfgo]

I have been intensely jealous lately.....no, for months and years.

In the last month, five friends have gotten married, five friends have announced that they are expecting, and three have gotten engaged.

Everyone tells me to chillax and soon it will be my turn, and a wonderful guy will sweep me off my feet and we'll be just as happy as my friends are now.

I'm sorry....I'm completely impatient. I am supposed to be purposefully single for a year so that I can learn to "enjoy being on my own and all of that", and I can't even last six MONTHS! (Which is a record, by the way for me....I've never been single for this long since I was fourteen.)

Dammit.....when will it be MY TURN?

I know that I sound petty and bratty....but I had to vent to SOMEONE, and I just couldn't keep it in anymore. :X

[audg]

Oct 8, 2012 20:32:12 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

You need new friends if they say "chillax"

Remember that not everything is as puppies and rainbows as they make it seem. Everyone has ups and downs in life. Don't equate happiness with relationships. The longer you do that, the longer it will take to be happy. Your worth isn't defined by someone else, it's defined by who you are and what you do.

In the meantime, vent away

This exactly...just because someone is in a relationship doesn't automatically mean they're happier than those who aren't. Not to sound like a self-help book, but if you haven't been single for longer than 6 months, you should really take this time to figure out who single you really is, stop comparing yourself and focus on what makes you happy...outside of being in a relationship.

[naeljun]

Talk to me when you are single for 4 years.

[doriswe]

I read an article in Reader's Digest, written by Augusten Burroughs, about happiness. While I can't find it right this second, it basically said that people who are constantly on the prowl for "happiness" are setting themselves up for failure because the bar is set too high. There is nothing wrong with being content with life the way it is.

I also think there are a quite a few women here who are focusing wayyyyy too much on a man providing "happiness" or "completeness" in their lives. While I would love to eventually find a fabulous man to spend my life with, I am a-okay on my own and would be fine if that's how it played out.

[letyourselfgo]

Dude....I simply want to share my life with someone. It's not all about "I'm incomplete without a man."

It's kind of boring surfing through the sea called life sans a companion. Companionship adds spice to the voyage.

[naeljun]

ITA Doris. Happiness is within you, not something that someone provides.

[leahmel]

I understand your desire for companionship. I was single (dating casually), for 5 years. I really turned the focus around and even though I still desired companionship, I really focused on enjoying my life. There are a lot of perks to being single, and a lot of perks to being in a relationship. Try to see the ones that go along with your current situation and embrace the hell out of everything. Find little ways to enjoy life with the people you DO have now or alone, really spend time getting to know what makes you happy. Mr. Right will come along when you're busy enjoying your life.

[bullygirl979]

Oct 8, 2012 20:57:01 GMT -5 doriswe said:

I read an article in Reader's Digest, written by Augusten Burroughs, about happiness. While I can't find it right this second, it basically said that people who are constantly on the prowl for "happiness" are setting themselves up for failure because the bar is set too high. There is nothing wrong with being content with life the way it is.

I also think there are a quite a few women here who are focusing wayyyyy too much on a man providing "happiness" or "completeness" in their lives. While I would love to eventually find a fabulous man to spend my life with, I am a-okay on my own and would be fine if that's how it played out.

:::golf clap:::

A guy should add to your life, not complete it.

[bullygirl979]

Oct 8, 2012 21:00:04 GMT -5 letyourselfgo said:

Dude....I simply want to share my life with someone. It's not all about "I'm incomplete without a man."

It's kind of boring surfing through the sea called life sans a companion. Companionship adds spice to the voyage.

I have a ton of companions: my friends, my mom, my sister, my meet up friends, my dog and myself.

And MCC, why not go by yourself? I can honestly say that sometimes when I have the most fun is when I do something on my own. Bring your ipod, enjoy the weather, enjoy the music and just have fun.

[leahmel]

Oct 8, 2012 22:24:44 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Oct 8, 2012 21:57:13 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

I have a ton of companions: my friends, my mom, my sister, my meet up friends, my dog and myself.

And MCC, why not go by yourself? I can honestly say that sometimes when I have the most fun is when I do something on my own. Bring your ipod, enjoy the weather, enjoy the music and just have fun.

It's not as fun alone. Plus happy families and couples would probably depress me. Last year I went with a girlfriend and had fun so maybe I will go with a friend again. I like to top it off with baking and eating apple crisp and I don't want to do that alone either!

I went with girlfriends last year and we had a lot of fun. We also did the corn maze and then got frustrated that we couldn't find our way out. haha

[bullygirl979]

Oct 8, 2012 22:24:44 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Oct 8, 2012 21:57:13 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

I have a ton of companions: my friends, my mom, my sister, my meet up friends, my dog and myself.

And MCC, why not go by yourself? I can honestly say that sometimes when I have the most fun is when I do something on my own. Bring your ipod, enjoy the weather, enjoy the music and just have fun.

It's not as fun alone. Plus happy families and couples would probably depress me. Last year I went with a girlfriend and had fun so maybe I will go with a friend again. I like to top it off with baking and eating apple crisp and I don't want to do that alone either!

Umm...you can drop some off to me!!

[kc18]

It's just that season, I think. Fall always makes me look around (more than pretty much any other time of the year) and see where I am in life compared to where others are. I think it's all the fun fall activities (pumpkin patches and carving, cooler weather makes me want to snuggle, Thanksgiving, and of course, eventually Christmas). It's also the season for change. Pretty much all my girlfriends except probably 3 are married, three of my best girl friends just had babies this year with one more on the way.... it's just something I've come to expect. I know my time will come, but I am consciously NOT rushing it.

I'm not even 30 yet (almost there), and even so, spending 30 - 60 years (God willing) with someone is a LONG time. I'll be thankful when it happens, and it'll be amazing, but there's no need to rush!

[naeljun]

Fall is tough for me too. There are so many outdoor family like activities and it bothers me when I see seemingly happy families doing things together. Plus my anniversary is this month. That's hard to deal with too. But then I realize that even if I was still married, it would be like pulling teeth to get EH to do anything with E and I because of baseball, football, etc. and if I did get him to do it, he would be miserable the whole time.