Really?!?! (family drama)

[brandienee]

I have a cousin that is graduating from HS this year. We used to be close to their family, but my Judgy Mc.Judgerson Aunt (She is the in-law) has driven a wedge between my family and theirs. I've talked to them twice in the last four years. I don't know why she hates our side of the family so badly, but for whatever reason she does.

I got Cousins graduation announcement in the mail a couple of weeks ago. So I found a pretty card and wrote her a 20 dollar check. I think that was enough for someone I never speak to. She got the card yesterday, and my aunt had to comment on her facebook about how tacky my gift to her daughter was... at the very least my gift should have been double what I gave for a family member. And apparently "blood isn't thicker than water with those people".

Whatever. I freaking responded to the announcement, which is more than they did for my sister's college graduation, they ignored her completely... didn't send a card or call at all. So I am not really understanding what the problem is with her. Ugh. I am pretty close to using the block function with them.

Gah, sorry. I had to vent somewhere...

[basilosaurus]

Tacky is complaining about a gift, especially publicly. I'd block, but not before I made some nasty comment to her.

[brandienee]

Well, if she has a problem with you, she doesn't keep it to herself. She has done this to my dad before too. He just blocked her without a word.

I am in the middle of writing her a letter. Mostly because I want to take the high road. And there is already drama happening on this status. LOL. Her daughter came in saying that she thought it was fine. We will see if this status stays up for very much longer.

[JakJak]

She sounds like a real peach...don't respond. She's looking to get a rise out of you! I am glad her daughter stood up for you. At least someone in that family has some class

[pennylane]

Seriously? I hate petty bitches.

[audette]

Wait. People send out Graduation Announcements for a high school graduation?

Um... Yeah. This is not something that is so notable in my book that it deserves anything more than a "yay" card. A gift, particularly from extended family, is beyond rediculous.


I don't think we even bothered with announcements or such when my sister graduated from law school... She's the one in my family with the most letters after her name.

[jamesonontherocks]

Block. Like my sort of MIL. I only unblock her to make passive agressive comments then back again a day later

[brandienee]

Audette, they only sent it to me as a "gift grab". I don't mind sending my cousin a graduation gift. But complaining about it later is unreal. We can't win with her. I don't need that in my life.

I did email her and asked her point blank why she didn't like us... She responded about how sinful and godless we were! Ha ha ha ha!!!! Oh the irony...

[amaristella]

May 20, 2012 23:10:58 GMT -5 brandienee said:

Audette, they only sent it to me as a "gift grab". I don't mind sending my cousin a graduation gift. But complaining about it later is unreal. We can't win with her. I don't need that in my life.

I did email her and asked her point blank why she didn't like us... She responded about how sinful and godless we were! Ha ha ha ha!!!! Oh the irony...

Sinful and godless? OMG I wouldn't even know where to begin if that were my relative and she had said that to me. Unreal.

[brandienee]

I think it's haliarious!!

[drunkpeggy]

What a slore!

I'd totally write a letter...maybe post it on your FB and tag her in it for maximum exposure...at least that's how it would go down in my imagination. I would still send it though.

[brandienee]

Creating public revenge would be great, but that would mean drawing this whole mess out longer. I am just done with her. I will talk to my uncle and cousins if they want to communicate to me, but she can kiss my ass. She has no idea who we really are, and she's had 20 years to try to figure that out.

ETA: I realize that the last line sounded really "Beebee"... LOL, sorry.

[basilosaurus]

Well, I'm godless, but doesn't that also mean I don't recognize the concept of sinful?

She's a thundercunt.

Audette, people do send out high school announcements. We did, although we actually limited who we sent them to b/c we didn't want anyone to think it actually was a gift grab. It wasn't intended that way. It was really just to announce to distant family members who are old fashioned. And who probably forgot that we'd actually grown up in the 15 years since they'd seen us. I'm pretty sure my cheeks get pinched at family reunions, with comments about how fast I'm growing.

[drunkpeggy]

May 21, 2012 10:38:40 GMT -5 basilosaurus said:

She's a thundercunt.

Sounds like the name of the Thundercat no one wanted to mention.

[letsbeawkward]

Gross. I will never understand people like this. Tacky is an understatement for her behavior.

[honeybadger]

I tend to just blow up in situations like this. So I would probably write a letter/e-mail to let myself vent it out. Not sure I would actually send it because, with some people (like this lady it sounds) it is just useless because it will fall on deaf ears. I'm sorry you did a nice thing and the reponse from the AUNT was douchey. Sucks.

[basilosaurus]

May 21, 2012 10:48:26 GMT -5 drunkpeggy said:

May 21, 2012 10:38:40 GMT -5 basilosaurus said:

She's a thundercunt.

Sounds like the name of the Thundercat no one wanted to mention.

I know It's why I start humming the thundercat song whenever I use that word. I love it.

[audette]

May 21, 2012 10:38:40 GMT -5 basilosaurus said:

Audette, people do send out high school announcements. We did, although we actually limited who we sent them to b/c we didn't want anyone to think it actually was a gift grab. It wasn't intended that way. It was really just to announce to distant family members who are old fashioned. And who probably forgot that we'd actually grown up in the 15 years since they'd seen us. I'm pretty sure my cheeks get pinched at family reunions, with comments about how fast I'm growing.

Interesting. Maybe we've just never had sufficient contact with extended family for it to matter.