Is this okay? Or stealing cousin's baby thunder?

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My grandpa lives in the south. I live in the north.

My cousin (who is just about the nicest and least AW person I've ever met -- and I'm close to him and his wife) lives near me. He has a very, very new baby.

I'm long overdue for a trip to visit my grandfather, but I think it would be more fun to go with someone else. I presume that my cousin and his wife and baby will head down there in the next few months to show off the baby.

Would it be okay for me to send my cousin an email in the next few weeks saying that I'd like to visit our grandfather and maybe it would be fun if we went down there at the same time? Or would he and his wife want to show off the baby to our grandpa/other southern relatives on their own visit?

Thanks!

[Deleted]

No that would be fun like you said.

[grk2012]

They might appreciate another set of hands and eyes, especially if you're driving.

[minzy]

I am Team "The More, The Merrier," but not everyone is like that. I'd say it depends on your cousin and his wife.

Maybe you've heard otherwise, but I would not automatically assume they are going to take a very, very new baby anywhere in the next few months, though.

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Oct 9, 2012 8:50:57 GMT -5 Mrs.flang said:

I think I voted wrong. Your poll and topic questions are opposites. I voted No way, but I meant, no way are you stealing thunder. I think it's fine to want to tag along and visit with everyone at the same time as your cousin.

Thanks for pointing that out. I changed the title to make the questions sort of go in the same direction

[lmb5109]

I think they would appreciate someone else driving and/or helping with the baby on the drive and maybe while down there. It never hurts to ask right?

[justjen]

Another vote for "the more, the merrier"

[CloudBee]

I think it's a great suggestion. Chat with them now before they plan their own trip! Hurry! lol

[anna7602]

I'm honestly curious to know in what universe an adult family member (in this case, you) would be stealing the baby's thunder? Unless you are tagging along with the idea of going into labor in your grandfather's living room?

This is not directed at you, v, I am just really disheartened sometimes that we live in a world in which people tend to be so AW-ish that they view sharing a family member with someone as thunder-stealing.

[nonsenseabound]

I don't think it's wrong to ask your cousin. Especially since you can offer to pitch in with the cost of gas. The only thing is if your trip would last a long car ride, I can see your cousin preferring to fly over driving. Would you be okay with that? God knows I would not want to drive a significant period of time with a newborn.

For me, it's only logistics that might complicate it over thunder stealing.

[water*drop]

We try very hard to time our trips to visit family for dates when as many family members as possible will be available, so I'd be very happy with your suggestion.

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Oct 9, 2012 9:29:31 GMT -5 nonsenseabound said:

I don't think it's wrong to ask your cousin. Especially since you can offer to pitch in with the cost of gas. The only thing is if your trip would last a long car ride, I can see your cousin preferring to fly over driving. Would you be okay with that? God knows I would not want to drive a significant period of time with a newborn.

For me, it's only logistics that might complicate it over thunder stealing.

We would definitely be flying!!!

[Ashley&Scott]

Never hurts to ask, especially since you're close with them. If we were flying I would love to have a close relative along to help.

[h]

I don't see how this would be thunder stealing. It seems like it might make it more fun for them for you to go along, too.

[Deleted]

I have no idea how this would steal the baby's thunder.

[MadamePresident]

That sounds like a fun trip! I don't see how you would be stealing any thunder.

[Deleted]

Thanks everyone I'll ask him!

[hannamaren]

This would be great. I would be happy to share the fun with more people.