It is good to be nice to people, right?

[Becca]

A new girl started at work a month or two ago. I never see her talking to anyone, and there is no one near her age in her department.

I sat next to her at a company event a week ago and chit-chatted a bit. She was super nice.

I just invited her to join some of us for lunch today. I was so nervous about asking her, and am so anxious to get a reply. I hate being the 'new girl' and thought it would be nice to include her.

Why do I feel so nervous??? Anyone else get nervous over stupid stuff?

[dexteroni]

That was really nice of you. Hopefully she'll accept, but if she declines, don't take it personally. She might be shy and just as nervous as you. I don't know why you're nervous though!

[Deleted]

I think what you did is super sweet. I hope she gets along will with your other lunch friends.

Yes I too get nervous over stupid stuff

[ijack]

that was very sweet of you!

[takeonyou]

Very nice of you! It can be hard to break into a place where groups are already formed. Like transferring to school mid-year, lol.

[froggy76]

That was nice of you. I'd be nervous, too- I don't like feeling rejected.

[mbcdefg]

Very nice of you

I also get nervous talking to new people. I make it a point to include others in stuff (since I was left out a LOT as a kid and it really hurt), but I still feel weird about actually approaching someone.

[Ashley&Scott]

Very nice of you, I hope she decides to go.

[lys]

You are never wrong to do a kindness.

[Pilsy]

How was lunch? Did the new girl join you?

I hope someone is as nice to me on Monday as you were to her today! Good work.

[Becca]

She never responded. And now I feel stupid for asking her.
(not sure why *I* feel badly, since I am the one that eats lunch with friends everyday)

oh-well

Making friends as a grown-up is hard.

[thatgirl2478]

I would love it if someone did that for me! Reaching out is appreciated in my book!

[pitterwoo]

don't feel bad! It was nice of you and it didn't mess up your plans for her not to come, so no harm done.

[MadamePresident]

I think its always worth it to reach out. Sometimes people have a hard time connecting.

[dexteroni]

Oct 9, 2012 16:36:37 GMT -5 Becca said:

She never responded.

How weird of her. Don't feel bad or stupid; you did nothing wrong.

[Ashley&Scott]

Oct 9, 2012 16:36:37 GMT -5 Becca said:

She never responded. And now I feel stupid for asking her.
(not sure why *I* feel badly, since I am the one that eats lunch with friends everyday)

oh-well

Making friends as a grown-up is hard.

Hmmm. Maybe she didn't get the message or was out of the office. Still very nice of you to offer

[carfar]

I can't imagine not responding... Seems strange of her, but don't feel badly,you were nice.

[Deleted]

Aww, that's really nice of you.