s/o Early Pregnancy Announcements (work related)

[hopeful2012]

So I'm still really early on in this pregnancy (about 5 1/2 weeks). We've already told our close family members.

I wouldn't plan on "telling" at work until it was obvious but in no event until at least 12-16 weeks (based on it being my 2nd and showing around 18 weeks last time I think it will become obvious at some point in that timeframe).

I'm having a really hard time NOT telling a close work friend. She has a newborn and a toddler and she keeps talking about how 2 is 100 times harder than one and how her toddler is really having a hard time after she came back from ML. Even though I obviously anticipated these problems myself she is kind of freaking me out. She told me early on with her last pregnancy. Although I can't remember how early on I think it was between 6-8 weeks and I obviously did not say anything to anyone else at work and completely trust her to do the same. I would probably confide in her if I ended up having a miscarraige as well either way, although I would feel less comfortable doing this if I never told her about the pregnancy in the first place. I am going on vacation in a little over a week, so if I could make it until I come back without saying anything I'd be 8.5 weeks along.

If any of you told early to someone at work and had bad/good experiences please share them.

[h]

I told my work BFF early on with my first pregnancy. It was helpful to have someone to confide in, and she didn't tell anyone else. I waited until 14 weeks or so to tell anyone else at work.

[hopeful2012]

Oct 9, 2012 14:26:53 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

With DD, I was so damn sick I told everyone at 8 weeks.

That was me the first time around! This time NOT being sick is kind of making me crazy anxious (I know...I should just appreciate it).

[arch01]

i had to tell my boss at 8 weeks due to some changes at work that my pregnancy would potentially affect. i asked my boss to keep his mouth shut about it until i told him otherwise. another CW overheard a conversation (no one ever walks out that door and on that day he did) and he just smiled and never said anything. i told everyone else at 13 weeks.

[froggy76]

I didn't tell anyone at work early, but I did tell a few close friends early. If you are close to her and can trust her to keep a secret, I don't see the harm.

[CloudBee]

Do what feels natural for you, and try not to over think it. I had to tell my boss at 9 weeks because of a bleeding episode that had me sent to the hospital for an unexpected ultrasound.

I told one of my besties right away (not even quite 4 wks!), my ILs soon after, and my own family at about 6 or 7 weeks.

[Deleted]

I just made a sign today of when each week happens and who I can tell and work should be around December 10th but I don't know if I should tell before/after my coworker goes out on mat leave. Here's hoping I can wait that long. My coworker told at 10 weeks so I at least have to wait until November 19th.

[sarahlindsay]

In your situation, I would be comfortable telling the work friend at that 8.5-week point. And congrats!

I told my manager at 11 weeks, and she told me that she already suspected because my chest had grown so much..... uhhhhhhh

[6fsn]

I told my boss at ~6 wks. I worked in a papermill though and some things wouldn't really be safe. HR knew soon after, but we didn't go public until 2nd tri

[MadamePresident]

I told two of my work friends pretty early. One because I suddenly left in the middle of a conversation to go throw up and the other because we're close and I knew she would be happy for me. The rest of the team I told several weeks later.

My close friends all knew within a week or so, but I would have wanted their support if I had a miscarriage.

[Brie]

I told a CW and my boss right after my BFP because I had to leave work for a few days in the same week for betas and such. I told them to keep it on the DL and it was not a problem at all.

When I m/c my first pregnancy, they found out anyway because I had to cancel a work trip and wound up admitted to the hospital and such. They were nothing but sympathetic.

[EllieArroway]

With my first pregnancy I told my work BFF the day I found out. She was also pregnant and she knew that I had been TTC. She found out before anyone else except DH.

[jena]

I told DH, BFF, my friend coworker, then my family - all pretty much as soon as I peed on a stick.

With #2, I even told my boss around 6 weeks because I was so freaking morning sick I didn't want to bother to hide it. When I lost one of the twins a few weeks later, I was glad that my boss knew. I can't imagine going through a miscarriage AND trying to hide my emotions at the same time. (I didn't tell him directly about my loss, but asked my coworker friend to do it.)

[schrodinger]

I had planned on waiting until after the NT scan to tell. Then one of my co-workers showed up with MRSA when I was 11 weeks. I told the boss that I wouldn't be in the same work area as him since I was pregnant. He was cool with it and worked through our medical department to get him sent home.

I don't think you can make a wrong decision about this -- as long as you are comfortable with your choice, go for it!

[Deleted]

I really didn't get a choice of when to tell my boss. My H and I work at the same store and have the same boss so he told him for me. He told him the day after we found out.