well the wake is done so we are halfway threre

[cymru]

We attended the wake today. Luckily the funeral home had a seperate room which had an aviary full of finches which we could leave Annie in with our Aunt while we went in to say goodbye.

When we went to leave Annie went to hug our other aunt goodbye and when the aunt picked her up to hug her, Annie looked over her shoulder and saw Peggy. I didn't realize Annie had even seen her until we got to the car and she asked me why Peggy was sleeping in there.

She also asked when she would be coming back. I told her she wouldn't be back and we would see her someday in heaven. Annie told me no... just that she was very sick and Jesus would make her better in heaven then she would be back.

This is so hard.

[tattooedmeegs]

:-( I'm sorry.

[twotrue]

I'm so sorry. ((Hugs))

[kershnic]

I'm so sorry, for your loss, and for your struggle in figuring out how to teach your daughter how to grieve. You can do this. :::hugs:::

[ct]

I'm so sorry.

[2brides]

I am sorry. It is a hard, but important topic to discuss with kids. Sounds like you are doing a great job.

[kershnic]

mobile.nytimes.com/2012/09/20/garden/letting-children-share-in-grief.xml

Maybe that link will work.... I couldn't get it to post from my computer last night.

[thiswillbe]

Big, big (((hugs)). I'm so sorry for your loss. An extra big hug for Annie, too.

[seattlekari]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Hugs to all of you.

[moolarkey]

I don't know your whole story but when my kids were 2 and 5 my grandma died. I took them to the funeral home before "calling hours" started and then before the funeral started, before anyone else had arrived. I let them walk up to the casket, touch my grandma and ask questions. They were 5 and 8 when my grandfather died and we did the same thing then. It is important that children learn to handle death and see it as a part of life. I am advisor for a girls group, we had an 18 year old that had never been to a funeral. Her grandmother died. They told her she had to go to the funeral home, she latched on to either side of the door jam and they had to pry her off. I am NOT kidding and this was a kid I'd have thought was normal and mature in every way. 6 weeks later her grandfather dies and the same thing all because her parents had shielded her and tried to protect her from this sort of event.