Post by sometimesrunner on Oct 10, 2012 9:53:38 GMT -5
I don't think you asking aboug BFing in your email is rude, but it does seem a little out of the blue. I would add something like "I was thinking of buying you a couple of BFing products I really like that you can't buy around here, but I don't want to buy you nipple butter if you're FF. "
Post by Willis Jackson on Oct 10, 2012 9:55:56 GMT -5
I would find it odd to get BFing supplies as a gift for my 2nd child. I already knew what I was doing and had brand preferences. Besides, other than a nipple shield, I didn't even use any supplies (no pumping, no cream, no soothing stuff).
Post by fortmyersbride on Oct 10, 2012 10:34:00 GMT -5
I have to agree with the pp in that if she BFs, she probably already knows what she likes (what creams, supplies, etc). I definitely had preferences when it came to stocking up for my 2nd kid.
Lurker logging in to disagree with the thought that she won't need supplies if she is bf. I'm guessing since your brother isn't her daughter's bio father, that it's been at least a few years since FSIL last bf a baby.
I have a few friends who have recently had new babies with new husbands after a while and they welcomed supplies. They all said that it was easier this time, but that there was still discomfort at the begininning. I think it's nice of you to ask and buy her some things however she's choosing to feed the baby.
If you want to get her something, explain that in the e-mail. For now you just ask if she's BFing, but don't explain why. So as it stands, it sounds nosy. I'd word it more like, "I found a few items helpful as a new breastfeeding mom, and wanted to pick you up a few things."
Post by dr.girlfriend on Oct 10, 2012 10:54:04 GMT -5
Just wait or give her something else. Plans can change, even if she wants to BF it might not work out. Why do you have to get her something nipple-related? Is there a shortage of other things to get a baby/new mom?
? So because she's not a FTM it's rude to buy her something?
Eh, I get this. With kid 2 knew with products I preferred and needed to nurse. And I had already purchased them by the time kid 2 was born. It's just one of those situations where you're like "it's ok I've got this one".
This is what I was trying to get at. Sorry I wasn't clear!
Just wait or give her something else. Plans can change, even if she wants to BF it might not work out. Why do you have to get her something nipple-related? Is there a shortage of other things to get a baby/new mom?
It doesn't have to be BF related, they were just items that really helped me so I thought she might like them if she is going to BF.
I did ask her if there was anything else they needed & will wait for her response before I start shopping.
I would probably say something like "I saw some *insert bf or ff items here* at the store the other day that I wanted to pick up for you, but I wasn't sure what your plans were"