TIP on 3rd Tri

[sigir]

Hello everyone I am a lurker from TIP... I had posted a bit earlier this year, but had to change my screen name because of privacy issues, so you guys would not know my new screen name. But I am introducing myself now!

I lurk on TIP because I went through a bad divorce and can't stand some of the crap that people put up with, and love how you call them out on it. Now I am remarried and expecting dc#2 in a few weeks.

Anyway, I am not sure how this would work between the two boards, but I saw this TIP on 3rd tri back on the bump (which still has the old format BTW!) and I had to share. It's right up your alley.

community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/65875113.aspx

Anybody want to come back over and weigh in??

[Deleted]

Thank you!

Yeah, I'm not touching that. I get the separate accounts thing, a lot of my friends have that and it can definitely work. But once you get in to the whole "my money vs. our money vs. your money" thing it's no bueno. Add in the lying and not just manning up and saying, "We've taken a lot out of this account lately so I'd like to use the check to replenish" and just no.

[Muddled]

Hi! Welcome and thanks for coming out of hiding.

Congrats on your pregnancy!

What did you post about? How would we know you?

[imoan]

Yeah, there is a HUUUGE difference between a functional marriage where the people just happen to have separate accounts... and this bullshit. That chick really should just throw herself down the stairs now... because having a baby with that guy is going to be a BLAST!

[Deleted]

I also love the bumpies who are always like, "Well maybe he's lying because he's going to do something special for you!"

Seriously? What planet are you from?

[sigir]

Thank you! I mainly brought over TIP when I saw it on the pregnancy boards, so there is really nothing that memorable. The biggest 'debate' I got into once on TIP was over a link I posted about a pregnant women who needed to leave her husband. It was a situation very similar to my situation with my exh and my first child, but someone on TIP felt I was focusing too much on the pregnancy in my responses to the OP, and that I should have just focused on the fact that pregnant or not, the guy was a douche and she should leave him. But I am sure that no one remembers that- and other than that I have been pretty quiet.

I can't share my old name bc it was too close to my real-life name. My avatar was one of those knot 'create your own bride' pics so that was pretty generic. Right now on the bump I am mainly on blended families. I am going to put my current bump avatar up here once I figure it out, so at least I will be a little more memorable- it is the picture Christina's World by Andrew Wyeth. That pic means a lot to me because I went to MOMA straight from the courthouse on the day my divorce was final, and the picture moved me- it's a disabled woman but she is still so strong in her own way. Like even if you are 'damaged', you can still be strong and get along. I bought a print that day and it still moves me when I look at it.

But it has been a million years since I have used something like photobucket to create an avatar url, so I have to try to remember how to do it.

Anyway, thanks for the welcome and I will try to post more!

[statlerwaldorf]

I'd be more than a little annoyed that he lied about it.