Miscarriage Fears

[hopeful2012]

I've been really freaked out this time around that this pregnancy isn't going to end well. I don't know why I can't get this anxiety out of my head, I didn't feel like this with my first pregnancy and this time around I'm waking up in the middle of the night because of it.

With DS I had a ton of m/s very early but not many other symptoms early on. With this one (I'm about 5 1/2 weeks now) I don't have m/s but I feel exhausted and I'm having a ton of "stretching" pains and back pain, neither of which I felt with DS until around 12-14 weeks. Despite "knowing" that the pains are normal its just kind of messing with my head. I feel like a head case and I'm going on vacation late next week and don't have an ob appointment until after I come back at around 8.5 weeks. I feel like an U/S will finally put my mind at ease by 3 weeks seems so far away. Please tell me to calm the f*ck down and enjoy my vacation

[sarabi]

I'm sorry you're feeling anxiety. My first ob appointment was cancelled because of a building issue right before I went on vacation. It made me really upset, because like you, I wanted to see that everything was ok before I left. Like PP said, odds are everything is fine. Try to enjoy your vacation!

[dr.girlfriend]

Sorry. I lost my first pregnancy, and was very paranoid with my second one. I had no m/s, lots of pains, and even some bleeding with my second pregnancy, but it was successful. I had tons of m/s with my first pregnancy that I lost. Symptoms do not tell you the health of a pregnancy, for better or worse.

[hopeful2012]

This is reassuring, thanks. Telling myself that since there hasn't been bleeding or even what I would consider to be serious cramping that I just shouldn't worry. Just afraid one or both of those will occur on vacation when I'm away from my dr. and then I don't know what I'll do.

[DarcyLongfellow]

I'm sorry you're feeling that way. I think anxieties like that are very common, but if it gets so bad that it's affecting your quality of life, don't feel bad about talking to someone.

I wasn't tremendously worried about early miscarriage with DD, but I was absolutely petrified that something would happen to her late in the pregnancy and she'd be stillborn. I would do kick counts constantly, and I went in for non-stress tests several times. It's an awful feeling because you feel like you're the only one who can look out for that baby.

Just try to relax and know that you're doing everything that you can to keep that tiny baby safe and healthy!

[dr.girlfriend]

Oct 10, 2012 12:04:10 GMT -5 hopeful2012 said:

This is reassuring, thanks. Telling myself that since there hasn't been bleeding or even what I would consider to be serious cramping that I just shouldn't worry. Just afraid one or both of those will occur on vacation when I'm away from my dr. and then I don't know what I'll do.

Just think of it as the kiddo burrowing in nice and deep, getting ready for a long stay.