DH may get demoted from best man

[hbomdiggity]

Omg, he is acting like such a snob. His little bro is getting married. Despite not being all that close growing up, bro asked him to be BM.

DH is a bit of a clothes/shoes snob. Bride wants the men in grey suits. Dh offered to get everyone's suits on his next business trip in china - they would cost the same if not less, but be much nicer quality than the men's warehouse special.

Understandably, groom (ie bride) is apprehensive. Getting everyone's measurements and collecting money will be a hassle. He is also concerned about the price. And it also means that dh would ultimately pick the fabric.

DH doesn't understand why the bride might not be ok with this! He has great taste, but hello, it's their wedding!!

He is refusing to spend $ on a suit he will never wear again (if purchased from men's warehouse etc). I told him this is how weddings go - bridesmaids spend hundreds on a hideous dresses they will never wear again.

I feel for him because I know he means well, but this is just drama waiting to happen.

[takeonyou]

He needs to suck it up and deal.

[Susie]

Oh good Lord. You're right, he is being ridiculous.

Can you tell him to consider the suit a tax deduction that he wears once? I'm sure you can find a charity that would love to take a worn-once gray suit.

[mbcdefg]

lol, tell him to stop being a drama queen. He can deal with a less-than-perfect outfit for one day.

He can donate the suit afterward, to one of those organizations that outfits needy people for job interviews.

[dexteroni]

Dude. I get that his intent was to be helpful, but since the couple doesn't want him to get the suits, he needs to suck it up and deal. Does he really to go down in the family history books as the dick who declined to stand up for his brother because he refused to touch inferior fabric? lol.

[Deleted]

best man-zilla!

[dexteroni]

Oct 10, 2012 16:05:12 GMT -5 @missy1 said:

best man-zilla!

lol seriously. No one will ever let him live this down if he doesn't let it go. I would have been devastated if my sister stepped down from my wedding party because she didn't like the dress I chose. I think it would have affected our relationship.

[luvmagoldn]

Oct 10, 2012 16:05:12 GMT -5 @missy1 said:

best man-zilla!

{insert thumbs up here}

[womet]

Does he even see it from her side? And if he wasn't all that close to his brother before, being a bestmanzilla will certainly not make them any closer. Your DH needs to shut his mouth, pay for the suit, and say nothing further about it. {I'm sure you've said all of this to him.}

[hbomdiggity]

Lol. He really is being groomsmanzilla. Un/Fortunately his family wont be too surprised by his snobbiness but i do wish he'd just suck it up.

And for the record, he was ok with our groomsmen getting suits from jos a banks, but he got a nicer suit - works when you are the groom

[Deleted]

:-|

My philosophy on being in weddings is that they're the couple's pictures, not mine. If they pick an ugly dress that looks awful on me -- well, they'll be looking at those pictures for ages and I won't be So who cares if I look like an asshole for a day? I'd try to encourage your husband to get on that page.

[dexteroni]

Oct 10, 2012 16:22:17 GMT -5 hbomdiggity said:

And for the record, he was ok with our groomsmen getting suits from jos a banks, but he got a nicer suit - works when you are the groom

Jos A Banks or Brooks Brothers would have been far more sensible suggestions - either would be a step up from Men's Warehouse, and would be less mysterious to the couple than "um...China." I don't imagine too many people who would be ok with getting them from someplace completely unknown to them, and where there's most likely no recourse, if something goes wrong.

[drloretta]

Oct 10, 2012 16:38:31 GMT -5 dexteroni said:

Oct 10, 2012 16:22:17 GMT -5 hbomdiggity said:

And for the record, he was ok with our groomsmen getting suits from jos a banks, but he got a nicer suit - works when you are the groom

Jos A Banks or Brooks Brothers would have been far more sensible suggestions - either would be a step up from Men's Warehouse, and would be less mysterious to the couple than "um...China."; I don't imagine too many people who would be ok with getting them from someplace completely unknown to them, and where there's most likely no recourse, if something goes wrong.

I especially agree with the bolded. With all the cheap Chinese crap that floods the US these days, did he really think he'd sway anyone with "I'll get the suits in China, they'll be way better"

Remind him that no one will be looking at him, or even the groom.

[pugz]

yeah he needs to back off

[sillygoosegirl]

Don't men typically just rent their suits/tuxes for weddings?

[moolarkey]

Are you married to a woman?

[sprky79]

Your husband needs to slip into his most stylish pair of big boy panties and deal.

[Deleted]

This thread is cracking me up. You should see some of the crazy looking shit my H and male friends have worn as groomsmen!

[vegas]

Oct 10, 2012 20:52:02 GMT -5 @88mangoes said:

Oct 10, 2012 17:16:41 GMT -5 sillygoosegirl said:

Don't men typically just rent their suits/tuxes for weddings?

Exactly. Good lord, this is ridiculous.
Weddings are a bitch.

That's what I was thinking? I can't believe people buy a suit specifically for a wedding, especially in your husband's case when he claims he'll never wear it again. If he doesn't like the suit style they picked out he should rent one and move on.

My DH is a clothes snob too and I think he'd be pissed if he had to buy an overpriced suit from a crappy store, but he definitely wouldn't mind renting one that met the groom's request.

[dexteroni]

Oct 10, 2012 19:46:19 GMT -5 @sprky79 said:

Your husband needs to slip into his most stylish pair of big boy panties and deal.

I can't wait until the "like" feature is enabled so I can use it on this comment. lol.

[MarmeeNoir]

Oct 10, 2012 19:46:19 GMT -5 @sprky79 said:

Your husband needs to slip into his most stylish pair of big boy panties and deal.

WIN!!!!

[Deleted]

Personally when I got married, I would have men relieved if one of the groomsmen knew something about suiting.

But once they said no, he's gotta let it go.

[Deleted]

Oct 10, 2012 19:46:19 GMT -5 @sprky79 said:

Your husband needs to slip into his most stylish pair of big boy panties and deal.

best. lolol.

[fbf2006]

My husband did have to buy a suit for one of his friend's weddings and also suggested some foreign custom suit maker that would have been better lol.
I'm not sure why they just didn't rent a tux.

[Kore]

Oct 10, 2012 19:46:19 GMT -5 @sprky79 said:

Your husband needs to slip into his most stylish pair of big boy panties and deal.

Xoxoxo

[Deleted]

Oct 10, 2012 23:42:28 GMT -5 vegas said:

That's what I was thinking? I can't believe people buy a suit specifically for a wedding, especially in your husband's case when he claims he'll never wear it again. If he doesn't like the suit style they picked out he should rent one and move on.

My DH is a clothes snob too and I think he'd be pissed if he had to buy an overpriced suit from a crappy store, but he definitely wouldn't mind renting one that met the groom's request.

One of my friends looked into renting tuxes versus having the groomsmen who didn't own charcoal suits buy them. Renting tuxes was around the same price as buying a basic suit (this is from Men's Warehouse and Jos A. Bank and the like). And if you bought instead of renting, you could wear it again or donate it after. (But renting won out because the groom's mother INSISTED that the boys wear tuxes).

But at any rate, suit from crappy store isn't necessarily less MM than renting.

But now that I think of it, OP -- your husband must own a grey suit already, right? In that case, can he ask to wear the one he already owns? As long as it is somewhat similar, no-one will be able to tell that he doesn't match exactly.

[chessie]

Then he shouldnt of said yes to the wedding. Not his wedding, needs to sucks it up.

[pugz]

can suits be rented? I know grey and tan suits are becoming common at wedding's these days, but I know back when I got married in 2006 people had to buy as the rental places didn't really carry them yet.

[dexteroni]

Oct 11, 2012 7:43:24 GMT -5 v said:

OP -- your husband must own a grey suit already, right? In that case, can he ask to wear the one he already owns? As long as it is somewhat similar, no-one will be able to tell that he doesn't match exactly.

One mismatched suit will look worse than 5 cheap suits. If I were the bride I would say no way to this. And that would be strike 2 for this dude.

[hbomdiggity]

Oct 11, 2012 7:43:24 GMT -5 v said:

Oct 10, 2012 23:42:28 GMT -5 vegas said:

That's what I was thinking? I can't believe people buy a suit specifically for a wedding, especially in your husband's case when he claims he'll never wear it again. If he doesn't like the suit style they picked out he should rent one and move on.

My DH is a clothes snob too and I think he'd be pissed if he had to buy an overpriced suit from a crappy store, but he definitely wouldn't mind renting one that met the groom's request.

One of my friends looked into renting tuxes versus having the groomsmen who didn't own charcoal suits buy them. Renting tuxes was around the same price as buying a basic suit (this is from Men's Warehouse and Jos A. Bank and the like). And if you bought instead of renting, you could wear it again or donate it after. (But renting won out because the groom's mother INSISTED that the boys wear tuxes).

But at any rate, suit from crappy store isn't necessarily less MM than renting.

But now that I think of it, OP -- your husband must own a grey suit already, right? In that case, can he ask to wear the one he already owns? As long as it is somewhat similar, no-one will be able to tell that he doesn't match exactly.

I agree that if you are going the suit route it's not a big deal to buy vs rent.

It's more of a lighter gray so he doesn't have one this color. Once they pick the exact color, he may still see if his suit guy can match it.