For my own piece of mind I'd contact him and then if I didn't hear from him in a reasonable amount of time I'd make other plans. While inconsiderate, I've found some men can be kind of dumb about this. They assume you are all set for dinner plans and won't actually contact you until it's closer to dinner time.
IMO he would've locked down these deets by now if he really wanted to go. I wouldn't contact him about it but that's just me. I'd plan to do something else fun.
Post by bullygirl979 on Oct 10, 2012 16:05:38 GMT -5
I would just shoot him a quick text inquiring about it. Seeing as you didn't decide on a date/time or even who was contact who, he may be waiting for you to text him. I would just say something like "Hey, just wondering if you were still interested in grabbing dinner tonight"
I personally would text him and say something along the lines of "Hey was totally looking forward to getting together again tonight but I hadn't heard from you. I have plans now but Id like to go out soon or on ____ day"
I am pretty direct (despite my dating phobia) and also get really pissy if people dont have definitive plans set up at least a day before.
IMO he would've locked down these deets by now if he really wanted to go. I wouldn't contact him about it but that's just me. I'd plan to do something else fun.
That's how I feel also.. if he wanted to go he would have contacted me by now.
Why would someone do this? I just don't understand men at all.. I did not mention going out to dinner... he did. He asked me specifically what day worked for me and said let's plan on it. That seems like so weird to do if they had no intention of actually going out to dinner.
This has happened to so often I don't believe anything any man says anymore
Playing devil's advocate though, maybe he is wondering if YOU want to go seeing as it was his idea. Maybe he is waiting for a sign that you are into him.
IMO he would've locked down these deets by now if he really wanted to go. I wouldn't contact him about it but that's just me. I'd plan to do something else fun.
That's how I feel also.. if he wanted to go he would have contacted me by now.
Why would someone do this? I just don't understand men at all.. I did not mention going out to dinner... he did. He asked me specifically what day worked for me and said let's plan on it. That seems like so weird to do if they had no intention of actually going out to dinner.
This has happened to so often I don't believe anything any man says anymore
I don't know why...if I knew I could answer tons of questions for myself too! W talked about "locking down" at least five more specific dates (discussed which restaurant, a concert at the end of the month, this horseback riding excursion, etc) and now he's been really MIA all week.
I just have to chalk it up to "wasn't meant to be". I'm sorry
I agree with other posters, if you're wondering about it go ahead and text. There's no harm in that!
Playing devil's advocate though, maybe he is wondering if YOU want to go seeing as it was his idea. Maybe he is waiting for a sign that you are into him.
You are way over thinking this, IMHO.
I agree with this. And I don't see this as a "guy" thing or necessarily that he's uninterested. I think people just have different versions sometimes of what concrete plans are. I'm a planner. I like to know where, what time etc. far in advance. I have friends who won't set a time/place until a few hours before.
That's how I feel also.. if he wanted to go he would have contacted me by now.
Why would someone do this? I just don't understand men at all.. I did not mention going out to dinner... he did. He asked me specifically what day worked for me and said let's plan on it. That seems like so weird to do if they had no intention of actually going out to dinner.
This has happened to so often I don't believe anything any man says anymore
Playing devil's advocate though, maybe he is wondering if YOU want to go seeing as it was his idea. Maybe he is waiting for a sign that you are into him.
Post by jojoandleo on Oct 10, 2012 16:19:24 GMT -5
He may think since he set a date and said "dinner" that everything was locked up. I would contact him (I would have actually done it before now), and ask what time, etc. Why is it always on the man to contact you? He asked you out, you all picked a date, either one of you can contact the other.
He may think since he set a date and said "dinner" that everything was locked up. I would contact him (I would have actually done it before now), and ask what time, etc. Why is it always on the man to contact you? He asked you out, you all picked a date, either one of you can contact the other.
Agree with this and add me to the "planner" category. I have to be in order to make arrangements for P. I get annoyed really quickly with someone who doesn't understand this concept or thinks I need to be more spontaneous. I'm as spontaneous as I can be with a 3 YO!
I think it's different when you have kids....but the dude would know that upfront. In this case, OP doesn't have kids so she's a little more flexible in that respect.
Playing devil's advocate though, maybe he is wondering if YOU want to go seeing as it was his idea. Maybe he is waiting for a sign that you are into him.
You are way over thinking this, IMHO.
Agreed. Text him. If he doesn't respond, be done. Don't be left wondering.
I totally agree with this. Never assume anything. Ask and the worst thing that could happen is that you get turned down. But it is likely that he may be wondering if you are just as interested in him or not.