Please tell me if I am being selfish by not wanting to do two thanksgivings with the SAME side of the family. MY MIL sent out an email a month ago saying that we would do Thanksgivng Nov 4th at thhe nursing home her parents are at. Since then the grandfather has died. (The grandmother is able to leave the nursing home for visits, while the grandfather would not have been)
Today we get another email asking us when works to celebrate thanksgiving in addition to the 4th.. Sometime near Thanksgiving at MIL's house.
She also wants to invite my dad, since my mom died this summer. (however my dad does not have any desire to see her ever, much less a holiday)
My BIL wants to this second thanksgiving on actual Thanksgiving. This is my family's year for Thanksgiving so that doesnt work for me. However doing wo thanksgivings with the same side of the family does not work.
Am I being selfish for only thinking one thanksgiving per side of the family Or should shel get two days?
Oh, and your DH needs to be prepared if she offers to do it "near" Thanksgiving, despite BIL's wishes. I think he needs to be ready to say something to the effect of "mom - we're not going to do 3 Thanksgivings total. This is a busy time of year for everyone. As it's the year to spend Thanksgiving w/ Caiden's family, we'll do the 4th with you all.".