Have/Are any of you experiencing this?

[never2amazing]

The Kiddos are at a point where they have a need to know which one of us is "daddy". I think that it is because so many daddy's pick up their children at the Kiddos' daycare. Before I left for my trip Little Man kept insisting that I was a "big boy" like him and last night Peanut said "you're daddy!". Though C and I are doing our best to let them know that we are both "girls," you can tell that they want to find the "daddy" in our relationship.

Have/are any of you facing this?

[ct]

my little girls both went through phases of being obsessed with daddies - Kayla still points to any adult male and says "daddy!". We just respond that, yes, that person might be a daddy, some kids have daddies and some have mommies and some have both, we have 2 mommies. We say that a lot so i think it has warded off them jumping to the conclusion of all families having a mommy and daddy.

[2brides]

We've had basically the same questions and responses as CT.

Do you think that the kids are thinking you are a boy because of your short hair? The kids used to be convinced that the way you could tell boys and girls apart was their hair. You know cause all girls have long hair and all boys have short hair. It took us a long time and countless examples to prove that sometimes girls have short hair and boys have long hair.

[twotrue]

Nope, we haven't had that. JB was calling all males daddies at one point but has stopped that phase.

2brides point about the hair has actually been proven in research studies. Kids is hair to define gender when young.

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[hlke]

Oct 13, 2012 19:19:09 GMT -5 twotrue said:

2brides point about the hair has actually been proven in research studies. Kids is hair to define gender when young.

Oh man....so interesting there is research about this. A kid in my kindergarten class got called a girl all the time because he had long hair. He's probably one of the most gender-normative hetero dudes I know now.

Sorry N2A, no experience here!

[hensmum]

Henry called all men daddies for a while too. Though he has not yet asked about having one. We talk a lot - every single time it comes up organically - about different family structures. Hen knows his best friend has a mommy and a daddy, he knows his dear friend baby N has two mommies. We also have books that reinforce this. He LOVES Mommy, Mama & Me. We also have the Todd Parr Family book, and when we say that some families have two mommies, he proudly proclaims, "Henry!!"

I would say just keep reinforcing and it's probably something they'll get past.

[ElsaVonM]

"[W]hen we say that some families have two mommies, he proudly proclaims, 'Henry!!'"

This is so very awesome!