So annoyed

[jen812]

D goes to an in home daycare M-Th.

Last week ( maybe Thursday), M (the day care provider) told me when I picked up D that his cheeks were very red & he must be teething. As the weekend progressed, his cheeks turned chapped & I figured it was because she walks him to the end of her street to get kids on/off the bus. It's been cold here lately.

His cheeks are getting better, as I've been putting lotion on them a lot. Now he only has a few spots left to heal.

When I dropped him off this morning, I told her that I put lotion in his bag & I suspected it was from his cold weather walks.

M looked at him & said she didn't think that was the problem & insisted I bring him to his pedi. He can't return until he has a dr's note.

I know she's being cautious & I should be thankful for that, but in this case, I know it's nothing. I'm supposed to be at work at 8:30, the pedi opens at 9. Sigh.

[aegis2005]

Ugggghhhh ....

[jen812]

He's being seen at 9:30. Yay, for the pedi!

[livinitup]

What the hell is the doctor's note going to say for cheeks? How is he unwell for daycare? Does she think it's measles ?

[livinitup]

Make sure the note says it's cold weather exposure. This is bullshit. And I'm in favor of daily walks in all weather- just bundle up and don't pull this BS at drop offs. It's like you complained so she's pretending it's not her fault. That's just wrong.

[jen812]

Update- pedi practically laughed out loud when he saw him. He definitely chuckled when I asked for a drs note. The note says minor skin irritation that is not contagious.

M said she thought he had 5ths disease or something.

Then when I dropped him off she said it was nice to have a quiet house for the morning. The other baby was getting dropped off at the same time.

I'm really starting to question if this is the right place for D.

[sara76]

Oh man Jen. That is hard. It's hard to say what I'd have said to her, but it would have been super hard to bite my tongue. But you don't want to piss her off and then leave your son in her care so while he's there it's kind of like you have to just do what she requests. Are there other day care options in your area?

[livinitup]

I would not use a day care provider who had spontanious rules about illness and access to care. I have NEVER heard of a provider saying "nope, don't come back without a doctor's note." People may have different rules, but fever or weeping soars (like pink eye) is the only standard protocol for refusing care. And even if she really did think it was Fifth Disease, so what? It's a virus and is not contagious by the time the cheeks turn red. Doesn't she know that?
And I would have a HUGE problem if my child didn't have a fever, I reported that his cheeks were healing and she disregarded by judgement and insisted on a doctor's appointment.

[jen812]

Livinitup, thank you for justifing my feelings. Being a FTM, I often question if I'm doing the right thing & figured the day care provider would be more experienced. Lesson to self- mothers know best.

Sara, there are other options, but I would have to re-research them.

I liked that she lived right around the corner from my house & the way she interacted with the kids.

I think I will start looking around. There have been other small incidents that rubbed me the wrong way too.