WWYD (talk some sense into me)

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I'm not job searching, but was contacted by a head hunter about a position. I already talked to the headhunter, she submitted all of my info to the employer, and the employer wants to set up an interview with me. The job is in the same metro area where I live and work, but the opposite side of the city, so it would mean selling our home and moving to a different area so I don't have a 2 hour commute in rush hour.

I love the area where we live, which is also where I work. Really, really love. There are amazing public schools, I love my son's daycare a ton, I love our house (and we consider it our forever home), we have friends here, my family is here, and we are plugged into the community and I can't imagine leaving.

I'm not excited about the part of town where the new job would be, however we could move to an area that I think we would love and I'd have a 45 minute commute. In that area we would only be 30 - 40 minutes away from family and friends.

Normally I'd say no way, even if it was a decent increase in my income. However, this job would freaking DOUBLE what I'm making plus offer better benefits. And I already make good money, so it's not like I'm talking about going from $20k to $40k. The increase would be very significant.

Of course, I haven't even gone on the interview, much less received an offer. I just know that I'll be so conflicted if I receive the offer. Part of me wants to not even go on the interview, but then another part of me thinks that is nuts. We're doing okay now and I can't complain. Our basic lifestyle wouldn't change that much as far as type of house and cars, but it would allow for a lot more travel, more retirement savings, perhaps a vacation home, things like private school for our kids would be possible, paying for college would be no problem, etc.

If I get an offer, assuming I get a good feeling about the company, I'd be nuts to not seriously consider it, right?

ETA: Having to move would have little to no impact on DH's job, and would in fact make his commute a bit shorter (but it's not bad now since he doesn't drive in rush hour). I am also the breadwinner and have a much higher earning potential than DH.

[cricketwife]

Seriously consider it. You may or may not want it.

[vanillacourage]

Just go on the interview. Maybe you will get a giant piece of spinach caught in your teeth and they won't even offer you the job.

(kidding)

[Deleted]

I guess a lot would boil down to the general feel I get about the people in the office. If it seems like a good fit and I like the people a lot, then it might not be such a bad idea. For some reason I just worry that my lack of enthusiasm will show through in the interview so I'm trying to get myself at least a bit excited about it.

[Susie]

I would go on the interview.

More information will probably make the decision easier to make. You might meet the individuals you'd work with and it's an easy no. You might not get the offer. You might be able to work out a telecommute option some days/week so you don't have to move, I don't know. There are a million ways in which the information you learn at the interview could sway you one way or the other.

[Deleted]

I would consider it and moving for double salary.

[HoneySpider]

Definitely doesn't hurt to explore it!

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Oct 15, 2012 16:26:38 GMT -5 vanillacourage said:

Just go on the interview. Maybe you will get a giant piece of spinach caught in your teeth and they won't even offer you the job.

(kidding)

HA HA. That is definitely very possible.

[Deleted]

Go on the interview. You never know what is going to happen unless you go.

As for your enthusiasm, maybe it will pick up once the interview actually happens. Or you'll vibe really well with the interviewer and get excited.

[ECB]

Ditto the others - at least interview. But I REALLY hear your reservations. With everything you listed, I really wouldn't want to move either. Even for double, it would be a VERY hard choice for me to make. My lifestyle is just as important to me as $$. I too love where I live, near family, good neighbors, good schools, etc.

I actually just interviewed for a job last week and their salary was way TOO low. Honestly, I was happy. While I'm not 100% thrilled w/ my job, I have so much flexiblity, to leave would be really hard. Going through the interview actually made me realize that I'm content where I'm at for now- unless the truly PERFECT opportunity comes along.

So... interview, see where it goes, and then worry about making the final decision. Good luck!

[hereonceagain]

I would never ever consider that. I don't think quality of life will improve much over what you already have. However I think quality of life can decrease when moving to an area you are not that fond of, selling your forever ideal home, and taking a risk for a new job that could potentially not work out for one reason or another.

I realize I differ on this than most. I grew up around a bunch of people who were very high income earners and were very wealthy. When I look at all their lives, I would take mine anyday, so my perception is skewed some.

[thegooser]

Maybe if you get the job you could work off hours for a few months to try to dodge rush hour, and see if the job pans out before you move?

[magdala9]

I would take the interview, be up front about my concerns, and see if they make any accommodations such as moving allowance or working from home one day a week or paid nanny.

[reason2believe]

Doubling salary is of course great....but I would be terrified of giving up so much in case the job doesnt work out. What if you hate it? What if there are layoffs in a year.

Of course you may love it! But I just think of the devastation I'd feel if I had to sell my beloved forever house, say good bye to friends...

This is a tough one. Good luck with whatever you decide after you meet them and interview withe them.

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Oct 15, 2012 19:15:15 GMT -5 reason2believe said:

Doubling salary is of course great....but I would be terrified of giving up so much in case the job doesnt work out. What if you hate it? What if there are layoffs in a year.

Of course you may love it! But I just think of the devastation I'd feel if I had to sell my beloved forever house, say good bye to friends...

This is a tough one. Good luck with whatever you decide after you meet them and interview withe them.

These are my concerns. Plus, right now I'm self employed, and I'll never have this type of flexibility working for someone else. It's also very possible that my salary will double over the next two years or so as I continue to grow my business.

Well, I'll interview and see what happens.

[ECB]

Oct 15, 2012 19:57:39 GMT -5 @godawgs said:

These are my concerns. Plus, right now I'm self employed, and I'll never have this type of flexibility working for someone else. It's also very possible that my salary will double over the next two years or so as I continue to grow my business.

Well, I'll interview and see what happens.

Well, good luck! I'm just going to reiterate - there is more to life than $$. Especially if you're already comfortable with what you're making.

[womet]

I agree with the others that you should go on the interview. If you don't mind me asking, what part of town is the job in? You're in East Cobb, right?

[gt7301b]

I'd interview and see how things go. Maybe you'll love it.

That being said, I'd shoot myself before moving to Alpharetta

[Wines Not Whines]

If you get an offer, you could ask them about telecommuting. If you could work from home 3 days a week, maybe you could stay in your current house and just suck it up and deal with the horrible commute twice a week. Obviously that may not be an option, but you never know.