Post by rupertpenny on May 21, 2012 12:31:54 GMT -5
I wish he were better at being alone. He wants to do everything together. Sometimes I just want to go to Publix by myself without him getting all offended about it.
Post by spitforspat on May 21, 2012 12:41:16 GMT -5
I wish he were generally a little happier. That sounds terrible! But, I'm always about .0005 seconds away from a smile. And getting one out of him can be like getting blood from a turnip. He's happy and funny and stuff. It's just his natural demeanor to be frowning.
Post by cheesierthanchedda on May 21, 2012 12:54:53 GMT -5
I wish he'd be more... I guess responsible is the word. I know he sees the mess, but he does nothing about it unless I say something. And he can remember exactly when every single Arsenal or Barcelona game is on TV, but can't remember things like his own doctor's appointments, his scheduled days to clean the cat boxes, or his families' birthdays.
Post by revolution on May 21, 2012 13:33:45 GMT -5
that i wouldn't be able to hear him eat and he would eat like an adult - mouth closed, holding untensils right, not chewing with his mouth open and not slurping. SOmedays I can hear him eating 2 rooms away.
Stop overreacting to minor frustrations. Although he has improved upon this a lot once I learned that mocking him was not the way to make him realize he was being ridiculous.
Are we dating the same guy? This sounds just like my BF. And this is the one thing I would change.
Post by GibsonGirl128 on May 21, 2012 15:21:54 GMT -5
Serious--I'd make him a non-smoker. He doesn't smoke a lot, maybe 2-3 cigs a day, and not necessarily every day. He can go a couple of days without one at all if he has his kids or something. We met online, and my profile said NO SMOKERS, and he actually hid it from me for a month and a half! He said he's embarrassed that he does it, and he wants to quit, he just gets sucked back into the habit when he's stressed.
Not-So-Serious--His taste in music and the fact that he has to have music on ALL.THE.TIME. As in, while he's sitting there watching TV, his iphone is playing in his pocket. If it was decent music, fine. But it's "house" music, electronica, that kind of stuff. He listens to the Moby station on Pandora pretty much every second he's awake.
But really, that's it. I don' think I could even find something else to change if I thought about it long enough. He's got some quirks, but these are the only 2 things that really actually bother me.
When I say we have to leave for something at 11:00 a.m. that means I am walking out the door at 11:00 a.m. Not 11:04 or 11:07.
I give him plenty of warnings and we still never leave on time or I am out stewing in the car because he will walk out of the house and turn around to go back in like a MILLION TIMES and I have to wait.
I hate being late. HATE IT!
You are me. I can say "we have to be out of the driveway at 11:00", and he will be roaming around the house getting his watch, his wallet, his hat, his shoes, his cologne......It is impossible for him to be on time anywhere.
Definitely more empathetic. I know he tries, but sometimes it's hard for him to see other sides of situations. Mrbonquiqui never thinks he is wrong. Lol
apalettepassion.wordpress.com/ WHO IS BONQUIQUI!?!?!?!??!
"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
When I say we have to leave for something at 11:00 a.m. that means I am walking out the door at 11:00 a.m. Not 11:04 or 11:07.
I give him plenty of warnings and we still never leave on time or I am out stewing in the car because he will walk out of the house and turn around to go back in like a MILLION TIMES and I have to wait.
I hate being late. HATE IT!
Mine too...
I just lie about what time we actually have to leave, and we end up on time.
You are me. I can say "we have to be out of the driveway at 11:00", and he will be roaming around the house getting his watch, his wallet, his hat, his shoes, his cologne......It is impossible for him to be on time anywhere.
i know that it's as much about me giving a little here, but it fucking kills me when he says he's going to do something, say, yardwork, and he knows it will take him 2-3 hours, but he fucks around, lays on the couch, naps a little and THEN decides to get up and go do it. the wasting of the day drives me nutty.
this also applies to mornings where he sleeps in during the week. hi. your daughter? yeah, she's usually eating breakfast by 7:30. so, when she's still in her crib at 7:15 i'm pretty sure you're not making it to your mom's in time for her breakfast. i know she's fine, but come on man. get up for work like a grown-up.
Post by lazyphoque on May 21, 2012 22:05:08 GMT -5
I'd love it if were just a little ambitious. He's gone through bouts of unemployment where I had to sit him down and tell him precisely how much money he needed to make weekly for us to continue living a decent life. Now he strives to make just enough to keep me from being stressed about money and hopes to win the lottery or find a magical perfect job. I knew this going in, though, and the flip side is a very easygoing partner.
I would make him more of a casual conversationalist. He's plenty talkative when he knows people and has a topic that interests him, but around strangers or when there's nothing particular to discuss he's a damn mute.
Definitely being motivated - e.g., getting things done around the house in a timely manner, taking better care of his appearance and eating a cleaner diet. I'd like him to be motivated to work out with me every day as I've been doing.
He holds onto shit FOREVER when it's convenient and gets down on his lot in life way too much. I wish he would just wake up and smell the fucking roses.
He also has zero ability to make decisions but then gets upset that I make all of the decisions.