My dates this weekend...

[starryfish]

So I know I had posted I was going to take a dating break soon, as soon as I met this last guy from POF that I was talking to.

Well we met on Saturday in a public park in our city;s downtown. We walked around the park and talked for 4 hours. It went really well, I was shocked that we were there for FOUR hours. I ended up getting a sunburn from my sundress.

Well he wanted to go out again, so we went out again last night. We went to a local touristy boardwalk in the area where we walked around, talked, rode a roller coaster (RP, you need to ride it, its AWESOME), and then had dinner. It was a good date, really easy to talk to. He kissed me at the end of the night. ;D

So my only problems now, is I feel like I am starting to freak out bc I am doing what i ALWAYS do and start planning our future together in my head. There are NO red flags yet, so its just me freaking out a little. Why cant I just enjoy the present?

[vikingqueen]

Sounds like a fun time.

As far as the planning your future thing.. I'm guilty of that too. I just wish I could turn that part of the brain off everytime I meet a decent guy.

Hopefully this will continue to work out for you.

[blackkitty]

I'm glad your dates went well and I understand what you mean about planning a future! I do that too on the rare occassion that I meet a guy that appears to be great.
Just remember you BARELY know this guy

[starryfish]

May 21, 2012 13:16:07 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Glad you had fun. I'm also guilty of the planning a future together--how does Mrs. NewGuy'sLastName sound?

Just relax and have fun!

Ugh, i know i need to just RELAX and have fun! Im working on it!

[missbetty1]

That's good you had a nice time! I know what you mean about the planning for the future...I've done it too... I think with all that we've been through on SO if we are still able to be positive about a happy future it's not so bad...we could be at the other end of the spectrum and be ready to stab all men LOL...but I know you'll relax and just have fun

[starryfish]

May 21, 2012 14:18:32 GMT -5 jellymankelly said:

I think that all sounds positive. I'm also a future-planner. Part of it is being a romantic at heart, part is wanting to think 3 steps ahead to try to detect any future roadblocks and deal breakers early on.

This is EXACTLY what I do in my head. I am a HUGE planner, so I do that in my head trying to envision compatibility and any future problems so that I know whether its worth pursueing or not.

But I guess I need to remind myself that this is SUPER early, and just to enjoy myself, get to know him more, and then worry about the future later.

[angieawesome]

I think we all are a little guilty of this. I just try to remind myself you NEVER know how long someone will be in your life so just enjoy the time that you have with them. I am comfortable with labels, so it is a hard thing to do for me, and always having those questions in the back of your head don't help! I was EXTREMELY relieved when BF asked to make things official between us after six weeks of dating. I can't take the guessing games! Just enjoy the courting thing though, because that is definitely an awesome part of dating.