I need to get this off my back...

[evilpanda]

Has anyone else kind of sort of freaked the fuck out when they found out they were pregnant? Granted it wasn't planned, we weren't trying, but I swear I'm having a mid life crisis.

I'm messed up over this. BF and I are excited, for sure. But I go through bouts of excited, scared, disgusted, back to excited all over again.

I'm sure this is normal for a surprise pregnancy. I'm just wondering when it will all feel "real". It wasn't real after my ultrasound. It's still not real even though my pants don't fit and I'm sick all day. When will I grasp it? I want to have a baby, I want to be a mommy, I'm just faltering back and forth. I know when it gets closer I will get more excited, and more "ready".

UGH. Sorry. Thank you. I needed to confess my issues. I think I'm a terrible person.

[jessuhmarie]

I have been through those emotions and this pregnancy was very much planned. I'm still scared shitless about being responsible for a tiny human. I feel like maybe we made a mistake and I'll never be able to sleep again from worrying over my child. It still doesn't feel totally real and I can feel little one kick every day. It feels weird to say I will have a daughter, when I use her name, etc. I guess it'll feel real when I bring a baby home and no one takes her away from me. Who knows?

[evilpanda]

Thank god I'm not the only one feeling this!! It's so effing terrifying!

[joolz]

I felt like that with the first, and he was absolutely planned.

This one was an accident (in fact, we are referring to it as The Accident - little G was LLV for little lord voldemort when he was inside), and even though I've done it once I was so stunned to be pregnant again I continue to be a little freaked out. Especially about having a 20 month old + a newborn.

[litasail]

YES! This kid was planned, but I seriously freak out multiple times a day. And I cannot believe how fast this is going.

Must. Savor. Time and Independence.

[jessuhmarie]

Oct 16, 2012 12:47:07 GMT -5 litasail said:

YES! This kid was planned, but I seriously freak out multiple times a day. And I cannot believe how fast this is going.

Must. Savor. Time and Independence.

YES! I am currently in pregnancy warp speed. I feel like I just took that HPT last week!

[emisi]

I'm glad all of your feel that way, because ditto, and yeah, it was planned. It doesn't help when friends with kids hear me discussing going to see a movie and say things like "Well, better get all that in while you still can!" Thanks guys.

[joolz]

Oct 16, 2012 15:41:48 GMT -5 emisi said:

I'm glad all of your feel that way, because ditto, and yeah, it was planned. It doesn't help when friends with kids hear me discussing going to see a movie and say things like "Well, better get all that in while you still can!" Thanks guys.

For the record, I've seen tons of movies in the last year. Mostly without my husband, but that's how it was before too. We have also gone to see lots together. I know it's easier for us because we have grandparents and my sisters in town so lots of babysitting options, but it isn't impossible. I find statements like that so infuriating!

[underwaterrhymes]

I freaked the fuck out, too.

We were TTA and this was a huge surprise for us. In fact, I cried when we found out, but we're very happy now. Although still freaking out on occasion.

[mudslide]

I actually have not had these feelings yet. This has been in the works for quite awhile. Those feelings are totally normal though!

[candreco]

Our first was unplanned, and we of course freaked the eff out, and continued to off and on for months afterward, despite being really excited eventually and having lots of people that were happy for us. It was more real when we found out sex and picked a name. I think what also contributed to the panic and anger was that I felt guilty that our first reaction wasn't absolute joy and excitement. It's all normal. You're absolutely entitled to feel whatever you feel.

Our second was planned, and while we were thrilled when we found out, we still have periods of "oh, shit, what have we done to ourselves."