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[texaswildflower]

According to my dad, I haven't been making good decisions. (moving to Texas while H is deployed, and wanting to move back to California while H finishes the last year on his contract) He says we're just wasting money moving back and forth. He thinks its not worth spending the money to move back for just one year because the year will go by fast. He also said I was being selfish and stubborn.

If my wanting to move back so that DH, R and myself can be together as a family makes me selfish and stubborn, then so be it. I understand that he's worried about our money situation. But it's not his place to say anything. I didn't ask for advice or suggestions. And now it's even making me start to second guess whether we should move back out there or not.

Ugh! I just feel like he's not seeing things from our perspective. If he were in H's place, away from his family and missing out on his child growing up, he'd be seeing things differently.

I'm not even sure if there was a point to posting this. I'm just really annoyed. I was even starting to feel like I'm not doing a good job of raising R.

[softspot]

Ugh. I'm sorry. Do what you want & eff everyone else. As long as you can make ends meet & won't be drowning then I say do it. My old neighborhood just extended concession checks for another year ($400) if you're interested. The deal they gave us was concession check or 3rd bedroom. Oh, & that housing office actually distributes them in time (sometimes early) unlike our former neighborhood.

[basilosaurus]

Are you an adult? If yes, then you need to get your dad to accept this fact and leave your family decisions to your family. And by family I mean your spouse and child, not daddy.

[erin2903]

Oct 16, 2012 22:37:31 GMT -5 Stan said:

No one's opinion matters besides A's, yours, and R's. And Toby's. Hug emoticon.

This.
Don't second guess yourself. You are the wife and mother who has to actually live whichever scenario you decide on. Not him.

[basilosaurus]

Also, your relationship is more important than money. I don't mean you should go into extreme debt for your family, but a year's sacrifice to be together is worth it IMO. I've sacrificed money and time in school to be with H, and I've sacrificed time with him to pursue another degree, so I've seen both sides of it.

There's no one right answer, but the only people who get to determine what's right for you and your family are you and your family.

[texaswildflower]

Oct 16, 2012 22:42:37 GMT -5 softspot said:

Ugh. I'm sorry. Do what you want & eff everyone else. As long as you can make ends meet & won't be drowning then I say do it. My old neighborhood just extended concession checks for another year ($400) if you're interested. The deal they gave us was concession check or 3rd bedroom. Oh, & that housing office actually distributes them in time (sometimes early) unlike our former neighborhood.

We were thinking of going with DeLuz, but maybe we should go that route instead.

[texaswildflower]

Oct 16, 2012 22:50:31 GMT -5 basilosaurus said:

Also, your relationship is more important than money. I don't mean you should go into extreme debt for your family, but a year's sacrifice to be together is worth it IMO. I've sacrificed money and time in school to be with H, and I've sacrificed time with him to pursue another degree, so I've seen both sides of it.

There's no one right answer, but the only people who get to determine what's right for you and your family are you and your family.

We wouldn't be going into debt, but we would need to budget a little bit more and cut back on extras.

[softspot]

Oct 16, 2012 22:57:36 GMT -5 texaswildflower said:

Oct 16, 2012 22:42:37 GMT -5 softspot said:

Ugh. I'm sorry. Do what you want & eff everyone else. As long as you can make ends meet & won't be drowning then I say do it. My old neighborhood just extended concession checks for another year ($400) if you're interested. The deal they gave us was concession check or 3rd bedroom. Oh, & that housing office actually distributes them in time (sometimes early) unlike our former neighborhood.

We were thinking of going with DeLuz, but maybe we should go that route instead.

IMO, SM is way nicer than Deluz. Plus you won't be on boring mainside.