How to spot a douchebag?

[redredwine]

May 21, 2012 13:45:54 GMT -5 bowies said:

I go purely on instinct. Does he court you? Does he tell you about himself (on a deeper level than what his hobbies are)? Does he call you when he says he will? Does he act like someone who is into you?

I'm a firm believer that if a man wants to date you, then he will date you. None of this "let's hang out at my place" bullshit. None of this "texting and FB counts as communication" crap. He will also be an open book on where's he been in life, and where he's going. He won't be vague or only talk about surface-level subjects. He will be confident in who he is but not aggressive in letting you know it. He doesn't act like relationships are an extended power struggle. He doesn't let his cell phone rule his life. He has a healthy sense of community, family, and humility.

Too often I think people place too much importance on the inconsequential attributes - he's hot, he makes a lot of money, he pays attention to me sometimes when he's in a good mood, etc., and the important things are glossed over. This is why douchebags have not only thrived, but have multiplied.

Bowies said it perfectly. Find the anti-douche and you will succeed.

That being said, I can tell ALOT about a guy by a few things in his profile/initial emails: what are his pictures like? What does he say (or not say) in his profile? How is his grammar in emails?

Though I'm still trying to find success in the dating world, I can honestly say that through all of my online dating exprience (and offline), I haven't dated a true-to-life douche. They maybe haven't been the guy for me and sure some have had their faults, but I'd honestly go so far as to say they were all somewhat decent. Sure, some wanted just physical, but at least no crazies. No a$$holes. I'd weed out the "iffy" ones early early on.

[nextchapter]

May 21, 2012 14:34:12 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

May 21, 2012 14:24:34 GMT -5 nextchapter said:

Doesn't have a sense humor, or has a really crude sense of humor

Constantly comments on your appearance (good and bad)

Takes you on dates to places where his friends are hanging out

Asks really personal questions right off the bat

Wants to meet your friends and family too soon

Makes self depreciating comments

Never looks directly at you/looks you in the eye

Is rude to waiters and other service people

Just curious about the one I bolded. Sounds like it has to do with personal experience for you, but I like meeting friends of someone I'm dating? (Just not EVERY time we get together obviously)

Sorry, I should have worded that better. I was referring to someone who ALWAYS takes you places where their friends are going to be. I went out with a guy who did this and after the third time, I felt like he was just looking for arm candy and didn't want to get to know me.

[angieawesome]

I am loving this list. My XH is a sociopath so I just look for the opposite of him lol. BF is definitely his polar opposite. Where XH was abrasive, sarcastic, controlling, he is sweet, soft spoken and utterly respectful of me. I also think one red flag is any guy who says they "aren't sure what they are looking for" as far as relationship-wise. Well then why the hell are you dating?? So far, I have found that code for "I just want to bang you, perhaps more than once."

[miss1991]

May 21, 2012 14:39:57 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

Most men with first name ending with an "ee" sound:

Ronnie
Vinny
Pauly
Sully
Eddie

Any guy wearing:

Baggy jeans halfway down his ass
Wife beater t's
Bling around his neck
Bandanas
Sleevelss shirts if not working out
Jorts
Zumbas
Socks paired with flip flops

Any guy that just left a relationship and is ready to jump into another one.
Any guy that has only bad things to say about his family.
Any guy whose friends are mostly unemployed knuckleheads.
Any guy who thinks UFC is the greatest thing the world has ever seen.
Any guy who would prefer tooling around in his garage or making sure his lawn is emmaculate rather than spending time with you.
Any guy who is a chronic smoker.
Any guy who cant drink without turing into someone completely different.

Any guy who says stuff like:

"I dont want no goddamm steak sauce with my steak!! I like the taste of steak."
"Well my mom makes it the way I like it"
"Something came up, can you make my car payment this month?"
"I thought you were trying to watch what you eat"
"You'll look so hot once you lose 20 pounds"

On the name part what about Joe= Joe Guidice he is the ultimate douche bag!

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- Isn't interested in you
- Not polite enough to say thank you
- Is a dick to random people for shits and giggles