I hate people who...

[Cheesecake]

Announce their pregnancy posting a big-bellied picture on FB.
My friend is apparently already 25 weeks pregnant, and announced with a photo.

In the comments she mentioned that they needed to time her due date very carefully due to both of their jobs.

So she actually timed having a due date within a 4 week period AND announced via FB picture = Depressed NLfoodie who wants to block friend on Facebook.

Why is it this damn easy for some people?
Sent from my phone, please disregard typos

[tarheels]

Well, you don't know how long she tried. You know I have a really narrow window, and you know that if we don't get it this cycle, we have to stop for a year. She might also have stopped and started TTC a few times. Don't upset yourself by assuming they got it on the first try. (hugs)

[Cheesecake]

Eh, I do know a little more about their situation, and I know they weren't trying the year before.

I guess seeing yet another pregnant friend and hearing a friend who hadn't even told me she was pregnant (another I saw a picture of her being pregnant before she told me - situation) who delivered her baby a week ago and knowing that at least 8 of my friends got pregnant first cycle off BCP ever, is just getting to me a little extra hard right now.

I'll hopefully get better about it after we see our fertility specialist, but really, at the moment, everyone who has an "oops" or 1st cycle trying pregnancy or who announces over generic FB message just feels like a giant asshole to me.

(And yes, I do hope, for each and everyone of you on here, that you do get a BFP - and soon - but every BFP just hurts ATM.

[blindyswife]

({) NL (})

[sunflower22]

Ew at oversharing how long they "tried" on Facebook! No one needs to know how many times you had to have sex to get pregnant. Maybe when I finally get pregnant I'll announce, man we banged each other at every opportunity for over a year to get knocked up!! Lol

[HoneySpider]

Aww, sorry you're depressed FB really sucks sometimes, I swear the only people who post anymore are ones who are announcing pregnancies or giving birth (or ranting about politics).

::hugs::

[winecheery]

Reason number 100000000 why I'm not on the fbook

[thatgirl2478]

Oct 18, 2012 1:14:27 GMT -5 Cheesecake said:

Announce their pregnancy posting a big-bellied picture on FB.
My friend is apparently already 25 weeks pregnant, and announced with a photo.

In the comments she mentioned that they needed to time her due date very carefully due to both of their jobs.

So she actually timed having a due date within a 4 week period AND announced via FB picture = Depressed NLfoodie who wants to block friend on Facebook.

Why is it this damn easy for some people?
Sent from my phone, please disregard typos

I understand how you feel. (hugs)

[Deleted]

Hugs. It's a terrible feeling. FWIW, you're not alone.

Ditto Namasteak--do you have anyone who you can talk to to help you process your feelings?

[KaraOrNot]

Hugs!

[awick14]

Hugs!

We are not telling any of my ILS that we are trying. Both SIL an MIL say when they wanted kids they just got pregnant first try. It's not always that easy and they do not get it!

[Cheesecake]

Thanks everyone for your support.

Namasteak, I guess the whole angry thing is just this damned week. The whole pile of shit which is my work and losing my job and stuff there.

But no, I don't really have someone to talk to about this. Have tried, but no-one really gets it. It's just too much of a combo of crappy stuff going on. People will just say they're sorry and that I'll feel better soon/will be pregnant soon/ will find a new job soon/shouldn't worry so much and honestly, that just makes me pissier (if that's a word).
People who don't have a uterus don't get the desire to actually get/be pregnant. (DH is the sweetest man ever, but he thinks 'we'll try more and buy an expensive purse' are good solutions to feeling shitty about not actually being/staying pregnant 2 cycles ago).
People who get pregnant at the first try don't get what it's like when that doesn't happen to you. People who don't have a genetic disorder that will eventually kill them, really don't understand what that's like.
And people with steady jobs don't get the stress that knowing you'll lose yours brings into the mix.

But, I'm confident things will get better. We're seeing a specialist next month, I can block all those people on Facebook and I'll find another job. At this very moment it just sucks.

[Bumblebee]

::Hugs NL::

Feel free to let your feelings out here; you are among friends.

Also, I just noticed your ticker. It's awesome it is that you have spent almost a year free of smoking! I hope that you are incredibly proud of yourself because that is a great accomplishment.

[purpleme]

Hey NL..I can totally relate with you! Big time!

Hang in there!

Somehow it HAS to work out for us that are struggling with TTC...
Sendin' you (((((hugs))))))

[sunflower22]

Stressful week! Hang in there... and never turn down a new purse from the H!!

[potatopie]

You have ever right to feel pissed off and angry. I struggled to find a steady job for three years. People don't understand how that can make someone feel.

On top of that, it's so hard to not have someone who understands how desperately you want a baby or how worried you get when it doesn't happen right away....it's terrible to feel alone in that. DH couldn't understand when I burst into tears after hearing that my little sister wanted to TTC right after her wedding. I felt like someone who was that casual about it didn't deserve to GP. I love my sister, but it felt good to express my anger with her.

I've always found in life that things happen when you least expect them to. Keep working, keep looking for work, keep TTC....there are so many possibilities in your future. ((hugs))

[littlemisschatty]

I think it's like this for anything that you desperately want. I felt that way when I was dating one loser after another and everyone around me was getting engaged. I thought for sure I would not get married... and here I am! I try to think of it the sane way. Life has a funny way of working out and timing is everything. I am sorry you are sad and angry - I hope my perspective helped you!

(And thank goodness for this board!)