Never going to be divorced

[howardandbear]

I had to wait exactly one year before I could file for divorce. I am 17 days away from the one year mark.

So I get a phone call yesterday, against court orders, from the ex saying that he is checking into a 90 day inpatient treatment facility for drugs and alcohol. I called him back to ask for the specific treatment place in which he gave me a bogus name. I told him to email and text me the address. He didn't. I talked to his estranged sister who saw him this past weekend boozing it up and she said he was claiming a move to Texas. She also said that their father was now also involved in the same drugs and had been kicked out of his house. She also mentioned that the ex was living in a tent in the state park.

So now here is the problem. There is nowhere to send the papers to have him sign the final decree. He isn't at the state park, I checked. He isn't at his last address. I can't find him. He won't answer his phone. I don't want to have to wait any longer. I want to be done with this mess. I haven't dated. I vowed I wouldn't until the divorce was official. I want to move out of state. I want to move on with my life. Non of these things can happen without finding him.