I DO have a kid, but when I think of my life before her, it was definitely anything but boring.
Beyond the baby stage (when things really were all about DD), DH and I have tried to just incorporate DD into the kind of life we had before she was around- traveling, doing a lot of urban exploring, etc. We might not spend as much time at local playgrounds if we didn't have a kid, but I think we would still do a lot of the other stuff we do on weekends- eating out, going to exhibits, shopping, hopping on trains to see a different city, going to the farmers' markets, checking out a festival, etc.
I think the biggest difference is that if I didn't have DD, I would be more spontaneous in my activities. Ah, the ability to just decide at 6:45 that I'd like to see a movie at 7pm or go to a yoga class or have a drink with a friend without having to wait for DH to come home from work or line up a babysitter. That sounds like anything but boring!
I think that post was more about the fact that we could have lazy days when we wanted.
However, reading peoples posts on MM, the people with kids are often the ones with the less boring lives. Examples - blessed, miso, kore, just off the top of my head.
Oh well for me, I was just commenting on the lack of downtime we have now with 3 kids. Before we had kids, I definitely spent many weekend mornings sleeping in and just kind of putzing around doing nothing much. I have tendencies towards laziness so this was probably not a good thing! lol.
Now this is only possible if my H takes the kids to my inlaws for brunch. The rest of the time we have soccer practice, school events, birthday parties, playdates and get togethers for the kids (and the adults , holiday stuff like visiting the pumpkin patch, etc. Our kids are of the go, go, go variety and start to act out and misbehave when they are bored and restless. So it's actually just easier to take them out and occupy them with some type of activity.
I'm sure we'd find stuff to do if we didn't have them though.
I really don't understand the question because as I don't have kids I can't compare the two scenarios. However, I don't think my life is boring because I'm childfree. I can do a lot of things, like traveling internationally for example, that I couldn't do with small children. On the other hand, when I get bored, I don't feel that is prompted by not having kids but more because I don't have the money or the time to do what I'd want.
Oh yeah, I have a kid, and my life is boring to most people. I am sure as she gets older, it will get more interesting, but right now, we dont do too much exciting stuff
It depends upon how you define "boring." For me, down time is ideal. With kids in the picture I am probably more active, but I don't necessarily find the additional activity, which is almost always kid-centric, to be 'less' boring than what I'd be doing otherwise. I'm not a huge fan of kid activities in general because I find them to be mind-numbing.
I think my life is super fun. I live in an awesome city, go out drinking a lot, go to great restaurants a lot, go on fun trips, get to be spontaneous, etc. A lot of that would be way less fun for me if I had kids and had to be responsible and home at night and stuff.
But I can see how for people who had boring lives before kids, adding kids to the equation might add some excitement.
I really don't understand the question because as I don't have kids I can't compare the two scenarios. However, I don't think my life is boring because I'm childfree. I can do a lot of things, like traveling internationally for example, that I couldn't do with small children. On the other hand, when I get bored, I don't feel that is prompted by not having kids but more because I don't have the money or the time to do what I'd want.
The question is whether you consider your life boring as a person without kids. It's not a comparison question
Ups, I'm sorry, my reading comprehension skills are not very good this morning!
Then not, I definitely don't think my life is boring as a childfree person. Or better said, I don't know if objectively it is or not but I personally don't feel it is boring. I'm young but I haven't felt yet that there are gaps in my life that I could fill with children.
I tend to socialize a lot more than people I know with or without kids, so not boring. We do spend plenty of quite time at home, but it is exceedingly rare that I feel bored.
People are unpredictable (children or otherwise), so I can see a child adding an extra level interest that that may translate more to exhaustion that fun.
I also see children as forcing me to spend way more time with my in-laws which am not sure how I could handle. They are nice people but they lose their minds when it comes to their grandchildren.
My life is definitely not boring, but if it were I think I would be more in a rush to have kids. At this point when the topic comes up I always wonder where we'll find the time for them. All of the women I work with have them and I'm amazed at how time consuming they are.
Lol, nope. However, I'm not really the type to spend all day Saturday sitting on the couch.
I'm sorry, but a soccer game followed by a birthday party actually sounds pretty dull to me. Not that there is anything wrong with that, I just don't see how my current life could be described as boring in comparison.
I think my life is super fun. I live in an awesome city, go out drinking a lot, go to great restaurants a lot, go on fun trips, get to be spontaneous, etc. A lot of that would be way less fun for me if I had kids and had to be responsible and home at night and stuff.
But I can see how for people who had boring lives before kids, adding kids to the equation might add some excitement.
If boring means having an open schedule and finding things to do sometimes, then yes my child-free days were more 'boring.' With C around, I'm constantly using checklists and trying to keep up on everyday things as well as keep him entertained.
But, in some ways the routine when you have a kid is boring. We're busy, but boring. Young kids thrive on routine, and I'm asleep by 9:30 almost every night because I am up so freaking early to find exercise time during the week. The schedule was both more stimulating and relaxing before having a child.
Yeah, I'm the kind of person who gets stir crazy fairly easily so we are constantly on the go. It helps that we live in an awesome neighborhood in an urban area, with restaurants, shopping, parks, etc within walking distance from our house. There are festivals going on almost every weekend this time of year. This weekend, I went out with friends Friday night, DH and I went with a group to a local beer fest on Saturday then out to dinner, walked to breakfast on Sunday and then ran errands. We both also have hobbies that we spend a fair amount of time doing.
Definitely not boring. I'm afraid that having kids will cramp our style.
My life was not boring before kids. Honestly, I think the only people with boring lives are boring people.
My kids have added a level of joy to my life that wasn't there before, but not because we were previously twiddling our thumbs looking for something to do.
Nope. We see our friends (even those with kids) pretty frequently, we go on little trips once in a while, we go to concerts, we have things to talk about, we get to sleep in and do absolutely nothing sometimes.
We plan to have kids within the next few years, but right now we feel fulfilled enough that we're thinking we may not take many additional measures if it turns out that we have TTTC. Obviously we don't know what the future holds and if our minds may change once we actually get to the point where we want them, though. But so far when we've talked about it, we've both said that we wouldn't be devastated if we don't end up with children.
Not boring. But I also don't think lounging around and sleeping in a Saturday morning is boring.
Neither do I. And, FWIW, it is possible to do this WITH kids. We have to drag DD out of bed if we ever want to be somewhere on a Saturday before 11am or noon.
I work at a job I love, have a great husband and awesome dog at home, and have as much of a social life as my introverted self can handle. (I've got plans four nights this week!)
While I'm sure my life will change when I have kids, I doubt I'll ever look back on my 20s and think "man, what a boring life I led."
Definitely not boring. I'm afraid that having kids will cramp our style.
It most likely does, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. I lived the life that v described for nearly a decade and I had a blast. I'm in a totally different place in my life now and while it's easy to reminisce about my lifestyle back then, the fact is that I'm older and I'm not sure I'd still want to be living like that because I find fulfillment in other things. I'm sort of BTDT about it.
That's not to say that that lifestyle isn't right for others. I have friends who are 30+ years older who have no children, travel like mad and constantly socialize, and they love it. It's perfect for them. My point is just that what seems unpalatable now might feel right to you a few years down the road, depending upon who you are and where life takes you.
My life was not boring before kids. Honestly, I think the only people with boring lives are boring people.
My kids have added a level of joy to my life that wasn't there before, but not because we were previously twiddling our thumbs looking for something to do.
Neither do I. And, FWIW, it is possible to do this WITH kids. We have to drag DD out of bed if we ever want to be somewhere on a Saturday before 11am or noon.
this is definitely the exception. cherish that exception! lol
I have a kid and I think I said in that thread that I was more BORED before I had her. That's applicable to me personally and I don't think it would apply to everyone, but I just didn't have a whole lot of hobbies, or any hobbies really, before I had her. I had a lot of free time and didn't do much productive with it and was bored a lot.
When I became a mom and lost a lot of my free time, suddenly I started wanting to use what little I had in a more productive manner, so I took up sewing, began reading more often and in earnest, tried out knitting, accomplished a lot of DIY home improvement projects, took up yoga and meditation to lose the baby weight, started working on my garden and landscaping, began doing most of the cooking... I have a lot of hobbies now. I am pretty much never bored.
I don't think I was necessarily a boring person before kids; we went out a lot more, and we traveled a lot more, and hung out tons more with friends. But I am the type of person where the more I have to do, the more I get done, and for a myriad of reasons that are probably too much to get into here I did become a more active and well rounded person due to having a kid. I maybe would have also done so if I had not had a kid but who knows.
I certainly do not think it would work this way for everyone.
Actually, one of the reasons DH wants to have kids earlier than planned is that he thinks his life will be less boring with kids.
I suppose we are sort of boring. I don't envision much of our normal "fun" activities being things we can't do with kids (i.e. hiking, going to a hockey game, etc.). I'm perfectly fine with being boring though. I'm a homebody. I think we'll both really enjoy having a couple kids around.