When are you telling people?

[evilpanda]

We told everyone after our first appointment when we detected heartbeat. That was at 6 weeks 7 days.

[jssymom14]

We told immediate family at 6 weeks only b/c a close friend found out by accident and felt guilty with parents not knowing. Work friends at about 10 weeks and "official" facebook announcement at about 14 weeks.

[jessuhmarie]

Short answer: We told family a few days after we found out. We didn't "hide" anything from friends, but we didn't tell people either (and it was very strange for me to not be drinking around friends so quite a few caught on and we didn't deny anything if we were asked). We announced somewhere around 10 weeks.

Long answer: This is our third pregnancy. With our first, we waited until the first ultrasound at 7w5d. We had a healthy (as far as we knew) baby with a strong heartbeat (in the 170s). A week later, we miscarried. Sure, we had to "un-tell" people, but it wasn't terribly bad. I felt that I had more support than anything.

With our second, we decided not to tell anyone. It ended before I ever had an ultrasound, but I felt very alone with no one knowing how much I was going through. I felt guilty telling family after the fact. I felt bad that they weren't trusted enough to know my joy and only got the heartache. I know that's probably silly to think, but I had a tough time swallowing loss #2.

With this one, we decided to tell family right away. I didn't want to be alone if something went wrong. MH wanted to tell everyone right away (he's the eternal optimist). I didn't care if we ever told the world. I agreed to not pretend I'm not pregnant, but I didn't outright shout it to the world. After we had a few great appointments and passed my loss milestones by a little bit, I agreed to announce on facebook (I don't remember the exact time, but it was right around 10 weeks). I also came out about my second loss by saying something to the effect of "after a year and two losses" or something to that effect. I was super anxious and scared at first and thought I "jinxed" it. After a few days, and an awesome NT scan, I felt great being "out."

[imoan]

I told a few people right away (the boards, my sister). I told my boss at 9 weeks just because of a situation coming up that she would need to plan for because I could no longer travel when she needed me to. I told my parents at 10 weeks (minus my mom... I'm telling her via a cute little way this week. She doesn't live in CT so I don't get to tell her in person. I wanted to do something to make it a little more special for her). I'm thinking we'll tell the world after my NT scan is done and the results come back (scan is scheduled for next Wed... I'll be over 12 weeks at that point).

[Deleted]

My situation is a little weird. I'm active duty Air Force, and I'm a navigator in fighter jets. Woman aren't allowed to fly ejection seat aircraft AT ALL as soon as they find out they are pregnant. So, seeing as how I was supposed to fly twice today, I had to go into work this morning and come up with some bs about "a medical issue popped up over the weekend and I want to get it checked out before I fly..."

So now that my pregnancy is medically confirmed, I owe it to my supervisor to tell him immediately so they can plan on me not flying for the next 9+ months. His wife is also a military pilot, and they have kids, so I'm sure he knows the deal, and I know I can trust him not to tell anyone unless they need to know. But of course, the guys I work with aren't dumb, and they are going to figure it out pretty quickly. If they don't figure it out when I stop flying "indefinitely" then they'll certainly figure it out at our squadron formal dinner in two weeks when I don't drink a drop of booze.

Of course, if people at work know, then I run the risk of them posting stuff on Facebook (okay, the guys I work with are a little dumb sometimes)....which means we probably need to tell our parents in the next week or so, because I would DIE if my parents found out from some Facebook post. I've already told my one sister, who is also my best friend, and is pretty much my unofficial doctor (she's a real doctor, but of course I have never officially been her patient).

It seems like I'm not going to have the luxury of keeping this quiet.

[alzi]

I told my BFF, then my parents and the boards by 6 weeks.

H's family around 8.

Work at 12.

The world (Facebook) around 14.

[HoneySpider]

Told parents and siblings yesterday at 4 weeks, 6 days. Would have held out until after 1st appointment next week, but we're going to a wedding this weekend and my friends will know what's up when I'm not drinking. So, had to make sure family knew before friends.

We're keeping it quiet from the general population for a while, don't know when we'll tell.

[underwaterrhymes]

We told parents and siblings as soon as we found out.

Told boss and one coworker who works in the same office as I do at about 6 or 7 weeks because I had horrible M/S.

Told a few close friends about about 9 or 10 weeks.

Went live on Facebook at 13 weeks.

[emisi]

I told my parents and H's parents around 7 weeks, and family at the 2nd tri mark. I told my boss and such at work, but I haven't told everyone yet... I just don't like being the center of attention, I guess.

[mudslide]

We told both families the day we found out. (5w1d). It's been quite the journey to get here so we wanted to share ASAP. I also told my BFF that day.

A few days later we told some more friends and H told his coworkers.

After we had an ultrasound and saw the heartbeat we told everyone else.

[joolz]

With the first one, we told everyone except my two BFFs after we heard the heartbeat. That was around 10.5 weeks.

This time is a bit tougher. I've told my BFFs, and boards, but my sister had a very late loss over the summer and her due date would have been now, and I don't feel it is the right time. So I will probably tell my mom next week before they go away for a month, and tell my sisters after the NT scan.

[countthestars]

Telling family next week because my sister's drinks and desserts shower is the following weekend. We will be 12 weeks just before my sister's wedding so I'm hoping to stay hush until after her big day with the general population.