3rd date?

[kaneen]

I jumped right back on the horse after my lovely text break up. I've been on two dates with a guy from match who seems nice, normal, and doesn't have doucheface. At the end of our second date (Sunday), he asked if I wanted to get together again this week. I said yes but we didn't plan when we'd get together.

We texted back and forth Sunday about other stuff after the date. We texted a bit yesterday morning and I said I was looking forward to seeing him again. He said he was as well and asked which night looked good. I said that the only night that was bad was Tuesday night. After that I never got anything back. I then called him Tuesday night and left a voicemail saying I wanted to figure out my plans for the week. Never got a call back. This morning I get a text saying he just got my voicemail as he ended up staying in the mountains last night (I did know he went up north for a work trip and was contemplating staying over night). Well, that's nice but he didn't mention when we would get together this week. My response was, "No worries. Hope it was a good trip."

I'm planning to leave it at that. I figure the ball is in his court at this point. My problem is that a little part of me is wondering if something is fishy. Thoughts?

[doriswe]

You made it clear that you were interested in additional dates....if he doesn't move on it, it's his loss! Maybe he's seeing other people, maybe he was really busy, who knows, in the end, if he's into you, he'll make sure he sees you!

[kaneen]

Just got a text from him asking to get together Thursday.

Have I mentioned how I hate dating?!?!?!

[doriswe]

lol....glad he sent a text and I hear ya!!

[bostonterrier]

You handled things well--good luck!

[tdavid]

I hate dating too! I agree the uncertainty is the hardest part of dating again. I am glad that he text and made plans. At this point in life I feel like it truly doesn't matter who initiates plans as long as there is a give and take. I personally have no issue saying that I would like to get together again with someone, but I just don't want to be the only one doing the pursuing.

Have fun!

[achase123]

I think if he wants to get together the ball is in his court. I hate to say it but he'd probably jump at the opportunity if he was really into you. I'd say let it go.

[BlueBayou]

May 22, 2012 8:57:22 GMT -5 doriswe said:

You made it clear that you were interested in additional dates....if he doesn't move on it, it's his loss! Maybe he's seeing other people, maybe he was really busy, who knows, in the end, if he's into you, he'll make sure he sees you.

YES THIS, and i would.encourage not to put all your eggs in one basket. Date several men to get a good variety of whats out there and keep busy so that youre not hung up on when youll hear from him. He needs to see youre not available at his.beck.and call. If he is into.you he will try to take up as much time as he can so someone else cant. you should not have to do more than show youre inteested.

[starburst604]

Glad that he asked you out again and yes the waiting game sucks!!

[hainesherway]

May 22, 2012 11:38:30 GMT -5 BlueBayou said:

May 22, 2012 8:57:22 GMT -5 doriswe said:

You made it clear that you were interested in additional dates....if he doesn't move on it, it's his loss! Maybe he's seeing other people, maybe he was really busy, who knows, in the end, if he's into you, he'll make sure he sees you.

YES THIS, and i would.encourage not to put all your eggs in one basket. Date several men to get a good variety of whats out there and keep busy so that youre not hung up on when youll hear from him. He needs to see youre not available at his.beck.and call. If he is into.you he will try to take up as much time as he can so someone else cant. you should not have to do more than show youre inteested.

This, totally!