BMB FB group vent

[pugz]

women are catty so it doesn't really surprise me honestly. Also, bump be crazy

[Deleted]

Wow.

I do not mix my message board life and my facebook life with very very few exceptions.

[jackpackage]

Oct 27, 2012 22:15:31 GMT -5 pugz said:

women are catty so it doesn't really surprise me honestly. Also, bump be crazy

Yes. I don't think you're being sensitive, but unfortunately that sounds pretty typical.

[statlerwaldorf]

That is basically what happened to my baby board a few years ago. To be honest, I was a little worried about joining proboards because of all of the implosions of spin off boards in the past.

[Deleted]

You're not missing out on anything. Birth month boards sort of fall apart eventually anyway. Mine just died of boredom around the time the kids turned one. It slowed down a ton after 6 months.

[petitefrite]

What month? This sounds exactly like what happened in my birth month board. I'm not a super active member (I'm a long time lurker here too, haa haa) but comment and post on occasion. I'm not involved in any off boards, cattiness, etc. because frankly it seems like a huge energy suck. I follow mainly to find out where other kids DD's age are developmentally, etc.

[petitefrite]

OMG!!! NO! HAHAHAHA....... I'm a January Mama! There was some huge horrible blowout about a month or two ago on the FB page. I generally enjoy the FB group, but that drama was NMS. I has blown over though and everything has been peaceful lately.

At least you're not alone, right?

[Deleted]

Mishy, that was my board, too. I left in May because I starting feeling weird about mixing FB and Bump people. I'm mostly a lurker here, although I do post on ML sometimes. Maybe I will hang out here for a bit, as well

[satama]

Haha. I am a March momma too. But I am always to scared to ever friend people on facebook. The bump itself gets out of control, so I am not at all surprised the facebook groups are like that.

[atouchofklasse]

I'd sit back and read what you wrote like you know nothing about the message board and then decide whether you want to be a part of something like that.

[CloudBee]

I'm in the private BMB on FB for my month, but did not list in the document in the group what my Nest/Bump screen name is. I feel better that way.

[ilikedonuts]

My BMB now has 3 FB groups because of massive fights and people leaving and starting new groups. Plus the FB group has gotten into fights with the actual TB BMB board.

Women are definitely crazy!

[statlerwaldorf]

I just remember someone contacting another bumpie's husband via Facebook. I can't remember why, but that is really creepy.

[Deleted]

This happened in my BMB FB group as well.

We also had a girl that had posted on the board, showed pictures of her "baby", joined the FB group and then a year after she joined she was revealed to be the ex-wife of one of the regular members and was using the BMB to stalk her ex's wife and child and use the stuff on their against them in their custody hearings.

Sometimes FB can be a scary thing.

[GailGoldie]

I can't imagine being part of a group that acts this way. I like adults who behave like adults. Not Tweens.

[Mushe]

Oct 28, 2012 11:57:28 GMT -5 @sounderschick said:

This happened in my BMB FB group as well.

We also had a girl that had posted on the board, showed pictures of her "baby", joined the FB group and then a year after she joined she was revealed to be the ex-wife of one of the regular members and was using the BMB to stalk her ex's wife and child and use the stuff on their against them in their custody hearings.

Sometimes FB can be a scary thing.

Holy crap! That is nuts.

I'm a Nov '11 mom and joined the FB group when it was started in May '10. There's been some drama, but nothing for a loooong time, and nothing like the subgroups, etc. we closed the group and didn't allow new members a few months in, since we were all getting to know one another better, so we're pretty small (115), which I think helps.

Anyway, that's a long way to say that I think you made a good choice to leave, given the level of drama there.

[hannamaren]

Oct 28, 2012 9:53:34 GMT -5 ilikedonuts said:

My BMB now has 3 FB groups because of massive fights and people leaving and starting new groups. Plus the FB group has gotten into fights with the actual TB BMB board.

Women are definitely crazy!

I thought this sounded familiar.

[Deleted]

Just chiming in that I am not a fan of The Bump in general. I've spent a little bit of time on my BMB and let's just say I do not feel like I have much at all in common with the women on it.

[Deleted]

Yeah we had almost 300 in the group. When that happened we purged the group and gave everyone about a month to respond or be deleted. Now it's at 180 and while still large not near the drama that we used to get.

[Deleted]

mishy, I was tazzal on TB. I only posted occasionally, but I've been lurking since I started TTC in March 2011. I posted a lot more on the FB group, but the drama got to be overwhelming...I just felt like I was always angry when I was reading the posts, so I left. It's much calmer over here

[pugz]

while I do enjoy drama to a certain extent, I found myself wasting emotional energy on bump drama. Specifically all the new moms posting vents about their jackass non-helpful husbands or posting vents about awful in-laws. The social worker in me wanted to reply to all those posts giving tips on how to communicate and set boundaries, lol. I had to STEP AWAY!

also I found myself constantly comparing my baby to the other babies that were reaching milestones before her, but she was born early so I really shouldn't measure her against kids born the same month anyway.

it is much better over here as it's a group of intelligent, relatively drama-free moms with kids of different ages, so you get much better advice.

now I am still in cloth diaper FB groups and there is drama there but it's pretty tame and doesn't get me worked up, just keeps me entertained

[Ashley&Scott]

I would have left the group too, sounds like waaaaay too much drama.