Moms of 2+, tell me I'll be ok

[vegas]

OK, I know I'm only 26 weeks but after my best friend had her baby this weekend I started to panic. It's only been 1.5 years and yet I remember NOTHING from when LO was a baby. I can't remember how often I nursed, I can't remember when I started him on a bottle, I can't remember when I started to pump to build up my back to work supply, I can't remember what time I put little one down to bed. I kept a baby book but I didn't put a lot of the basic information in, so that's not helpful at all. Uggh....

Should I be starting over and reading baby books to get myself back on track or do things naturally come back to you once the baby is born?

[Deleted]

IME it comes back naturally. I was worried about that too but it was like riding a bicycle. Once you know how to do all those things, you know them for life

Also, nursing was much easier for me the 2nd time around and less painful. For me, the hardest part was helping DS1 adjust to all the new changes. But taking care of the baby was easy as pie. Don't worry, you will be fine.

[vegas]

Good news about the nursing. I had a really rough go at it the first time. Thankfully my supply was never an issue but I had mastitis three times and it was horrible. I am hoping I won't have that problem again.

I sure hope everything comes back naturally. I'd hate to have that anxiety I had the first time around!

[GailGoldie]

nah- it will all come back to you!!

[vegas]

Very good news, thank you all. DH laughed at me when I asked if I should pull the baby books back out, but I was seriously worried.

[madringal]

I remember that feeling, but my girls are 4 years apart! I called my little sister in a panic (she had just had a baby) because I couldn't remember how to work my pump! It comes back slowly. And I remembered that a lot of that stuff I learned on the Bump - and since I haven't been back since GBCN, I am feeling a little lost now that I am starting solids!

[whitepicketfence]

Don't worry - it all comes back! I felt the same way as you and I was able to figure it all out again

[devonpow]

I have 5 years between my two - I didn't remember a thing. The good news is that not only does it naturally come back, but you also will be way more laid back abou things, plus not really have the time to care/obsess about things in general. It makes everything MUCH easier. Poor DS2 is just dragged along everywhere with us - it's a much more go with the flow situation.

[locarb]

Like PP's said, it will all come back. The ladies on these boards are very helpful for anything you may be fuzzy on.

[hocus]

Honestly it will be fine. I was a lot more go with the flow the second time around. The only book I re-read was my sleep book. My second baby was pretty fussy but I felt much calmer overall.

My only suggestion is to have a "safe" place to BF where you're other child can roam free. Since you're going to BF a lot at first.

[vanillacourage]

May 22, 2012 18:45:20 GMT -5 devonpow said:

I have 5 years between my two - I didn't remember a thing. The good news is that not only does it naturally come back, but you also will be way more laid back abou things, plus not really have the time to care/obsess about things in general. It makes everything MUCH easier. Poor DS2 is just dragged along everywhere with us - it's a much more go with the flow situation.

I completely agree with all of this. I'm very laid-back this time around and my whole household has a much more relaxed vibe.

[SusanBAnthony]

Well, e first time I nursed DD, I turned to her and asked her, out loud, like a moron, if she wanted to nurse. And then waited a sec to see if she said yes or no.

Fail, fail, fail!

But overall it all came back, and I threw away all the baby books I had with ds bc I never even looked at them.

[miss1991]

You will remember again--Trust me! I had my 4th 10 years from my 3rd and remembered. Good Luck!!

[savannah11]

I thought the easiest part of having #2 was taking care of the baby. I was super relaxed from the moment they placed her in my arms and had no anxiety about what to do. It felt very natural.

[momabear]

Not only will you be more relaxed, but all babies are different, so even if you did remember exactly what you did with your first, you probably would have to change it for #2.

[vegas]

Thanks everyone. I really appreciate the feedback.