Coordinating with spouse after work

[Deleted]

It is assumed we'll both be here when we're not at work, unless one of us tells the other anything different. We don't work the same schedule so that doesn't always mean we're both here at the same time, but at least we know where one another are.

I usually plan dinner so unless it is something that requires his help, there is no coordinating there.

[mccallister84]

Well right now we work in the same building, although he usually leaves a smidge earlier than I do. I also tend to have more after school commitments. Regardless, we spend a lot of time discussing the upcoming week over the weekend - it comes up when we meal plan and grocery shop and then we tend to do a final outline over dinner Sunday night so not much daily coordinating is needed.

[rex]

I know when he's supposed to get out of work and be home. If he is going to be late then he will send a text
to let me know.

We are home together unless otherwise planned, no need to call and figure it out.

[Deleted]

The last one to leave work calls the other on the way home. It's more of a habit than anything else.

[Brie]

I leave at the same time every day. If he's going to work late, he usually lets me know before I leave for the day. He calls/texts when he's leaving and I start dinner then, so it's usually ready right when he gets home. If he's working late (like tonight) we just improvise individual dinners.

[Deleted]

Nothing. What is there to coordinate?

[emyinpink]

we carpool home together (we both either drive together or take the same bus home), so no worries about coordination. we usually decide late in the afternoon when we want to leave.

[cricketwife]

May 22, 2012 17:57:17 GMT -5 @libgrl said:

The last one to leave work calls the other on the way home. It's more of a habit than anything else.

How do you know who's last to leave?

[abramos]

I am home first 95% of the time and I usually can expect DH home around 6:30 every night. If either will be late we just text each other and ask someone starts dinner and feed the cats.
If either of us having something going on in the evening, we send our calendars to each other. I have to end up reminding DH.

[smiley]

I am always home before DH, I work until 1 or 2 in the afternoon and he never gets off before 4. I have his schedule written down so I can check it, he often works over so I give him about an hour over before I call to find out what time he will be home. If he will be home super late I just make dinner and leave a portion for him.

[chessie]

DH gets home around 3 and me 530. If one of us is running late, we ask the other to deal with the dogs/horses, etc. Dinners are made on the weekends, so I can eat right when I get home. Normally there is nightly chores, dog walking and some farm stuff, but each of us can trade off if one is stuck at work.

[Deleted]

I call or gchat him before I leave to ask him if we need anything. Then I come home and he's still working. Tonight I cooked dinner but he cooks more than me. Or we order in. Or we fix our own dinners. It really depends. I'm hungry much earlier than he is.

[compassrose]

SO lives in Canada, so we have a ldr, which doesn't really apply.....but we generally skype throughout the day, which I like. We are in the same field, so we intersperse science and personal stuff.

[heygrey]

i'm already at home, but h calls as he's leaving the office to see if there is anything he needs to pick up. we usually text throughout the day though.

[hamster]

We usually text in the afternoon to see what's on our agenda for the evening, but that's about it. There isn't really anything to coordinate.

[y4m]

Generally if he hasn't shown up here by 9, I text him to see if he plans to anytime soon.

[Deleted]

May 22, 2012 18:02:29 GMT -5 cricketwife said:

May 22, 2012 17:57:17 GMT -5 @libgrl said:

The last one to leave work calls the other on the way home. It's more of a habit than anything else.

How do you know who's last to leave?

What do you mean? My schedule is posted on our refrigerator because it is never the same. There is not a single reason i would ever stay past my scheuled time. He generally knows when he'll be leaving campus for the day. We discuss it the night before.

[fashionx]

Since we share a car we coordinate our schedules over the weekend and make sure there's no conflicts, and I remind him the night before and the morning of what the plan is for the day. Since I work from home most days he can take the car, but sometimes I have errands or I need to meet clients and so I will take him to work, and either get him at lunch for him to get the car in the afternoon, or pick him up at the end of the day. His office is a 5 minute drive from our house which helps. Sometimes I need to schedule things later in the day and he gets a ride home from a friend/co-worker who lives close by, or now that it's nice he sometimes goes out to play disc golf after work with the same friend. We don't usually need to coordinate anything at the end of the day unless something comes up.

[thedutchgirl]

DH is home earlier than me 99 days out of 100. On the rare occasion that he has something after work and can't be home by 6 to feed the dog, he tells me in advance so I can plan to go home. I'm very rarely home before 7:30. If I haven't shown up by 9, DH often will call to check in.

[Ashley&Scott]

We meet at home. If one of has to run errands we let the other know, by email throughout the day or discussing at home before work. Dinner is usually decided when we get home but sometimes we do pre-plan.

[redheadk]

I normally call DH when I leave work. Since I teach, the kids leave at a certain time so I'm never done earlier than that but the time I leave does vary depending on how much I need to get done after the work day officially ends. I never leave work after DH, though, since he works about 75-80 hours/week. I mostly just need to know if I should expect him home for dinner or not. At least 2 nights a week he has either an owners meeting for his company or is shmoozing with potential clients or being shmoozed by companies and it's often last minute (plus the occasional IT crisis, luckily rare at his level).

[steph96]

I usually call him on my way home from work to see if/when he should be getting home. We also decide what we want to have for dinner.

When I'm not working, we text throughout the day and I usually know when he should be home. He will still call me when he is headed home and we will decide what is for dinner.

[gt7301b]

Our schedules rarely change and DH gets home before me 97% of the time. If I get home and he isn't there I will call.

[hocus]

I WAH and DH normally comes home around the same time so there is no "plan" per se unless there is something atypical for the night. I do the shopping and plan the meals so I don't need to talk to DH much about what we're having for dinner.

I get texts if he running late and I put major events in my work calandar so I know I'll have both kids.

[spunkypenguin]

My schedule is a bit unpredictable. I usually try to give SO an idea of when I'll be heading home before I leave in the morning. Then I'll call when I actually leave work and let her know that I'm on my way or if I'm going to stop at the gym. SO is a SAHW, so she'll make dinner whenever I'm on my way. I always call, though. If she's got something going on and won't be home when I get home (pretty rarely), she'll let me know in the morning before I leave.

[froggy76]

No, we typically don't coordinate even now that we have DD. I guess I just don't see the point unless something unusual is going on, like I will be late and need him to pick up DD, or he has a craving for sushi and wants me to pick it up on my way home.

[bunch]

H let's me know in advance if he'll be home later than 6. He also calls when he leaves the office. We chat for a few minutes around noon when he's eating lunch.

When he'll be home is important to me bc I'm usually losing my mind by the time he gets home and we all eat together, always.

[milkrations]

I get home between 4:30 and 8:00. H usually works past midnight. I make dinner whenever I want and leave him leftovers. If I'm having a particularly bad day, I let him know I'm getting takeout because I don't want to cook.

H calls me on the rare occasion he will be home before 11. This is just so I don't think someone is trying to break in when he opens the door.

[marchmom06]

We coordinate to make sure the kids are picked up on time. Probably 2-3 times/week one of us has something going on & will be late (late meeting, meeting a friend, happy hour work drinks, whatever) & the person who will be late is in charge of verifying that the other is available for pickup.

If neither of us has something going on, we text when we're on our way to the parking garage. The person who will be earliest picks up the kids, the other goes home.

[SJ]

Let's see. We use shared Google calendars so can look at see what the other has going on. If one of us has plans we may not talk until late.

We gchat throughout the day sporadically. I usually call him when I get home around 5pm just to check in and see what time he expects to be home and to discuss dinner (what we are eating, who is cooking, if we feel like going out, etc.)