I always get off at 5:30, so I'm the one to pick up the kids from my parents. My husband can get home late some nights. If he's going to be late he'll give me a call to let me know. We have a sick dog and cat to feed as well as two kids, so we usually eat at home during the week. There is usually not much to coordinate. Sadly, we are pretty routine.
We have a weekly rhythm. He has nights out some days, I have nights out other days. We usually know at the beginning of the week what's going on, or else he e-mails me during the day. He'll check in if he's going to be late.
Post by blondemoment123 on May 22, 2012 21:48:37 GMT -5
H works nights, so I'll shoot him a text when I get home. There's not much to coordinate lol. On the days he's off, I'll call when I'm on the way home and we'll decide what's for dinner,when to go to the gym, errands, etc.
I get off of work 2-3 hours before H. He randomly has to work overtime if they do not finish what they need to get done that day, so he never knows in advance if and how late he will be staying. He has a little bit of a commute so he texts me when he leaves and I usually have dinner ready when he get home.
We carpool to and from work. On the way into work we discuss what we think the day will be like, what time we will get to leave. We text each other in the afternoon if anything changes. We meal plan and grocery shop together so our menu is planned ahead of time.
I guess we must be boring b/c everyday is pretty much the same thing. DH gets home at 4:30 and I get home at 6. Dinner is pre-planned b/c I've taken it out to defrost and DH usually is starting it when I walk through the door.
If I'm taking a hot yoga class I'll let him know earlier in the week so dinner is on our own, but M-Th is pretty much the same routine.
Dinners are planned at the beginning of the week so we don't need to think about it daily. If he's going to be later than a certain time he checks in. That used to be weekly at the old job. It hasn't happened once since the new one.
In general I know when he is going to be home. If one of us will be late, we call or text. Whoever is home first starts dinner. If I am feeling something like going out or ordering pizza, I will see what he thinks, and vice versa. Sometimes we check in during the day if we aren't too busy.
The last one to leave work calls the other on the way home. It's more of a habit than anything else.
How do you know who's last to leave?
Glad I wasn't the only one who didn't get this! :Y:
We leave work and/or get home around the same time, barring any last minute snafus or errands. In the past, we only needed to remind each other if one of us had a school night or therapy, etc. The rest of the time, my husband would just sit playing PC games until dinner appeared.
Nowadays (after I threw a few fit over the past couple years), he tries to make dinner once or twice a week. This means I get a lunchtime call coordinating things. Sometimes I also get an afternoon call. Some other times I get an after work call warning that he's running late. It's kind of annoying, but better than me flipping out about doing everything by myself.
Fairy tales do not tell children the dragons exist. Children already know that dragons exist. Fairy tales tell children the dragons can be killed. - G. K. Chesterton
We have 2 kids in 2 different child cares, so pick-ups need to be coordinated.
We check in throughout the day, then usually one final time before he leaves work to make sure everyone's square on how the kids are getting picked up.
I call him as I leave the office. I leave earlier, but pick up DS on the way home. He has a longer commute but usually ends up getting home only 15-20 minutes after I do.
I decide what's for dinner and get it started. When he gets home I just tell him what we're doing. That's how we coordinate!
Post by definitelyO on May 23, 2012 10:08:01 GMT -5
at some point during the day we will confirm that DH is picking up DS - or that he has PT and I have to get DS. other than that the minute I walk in the door I get "what's for dinner?" and he's been home for an hour already... grrr... or if I'm not home by 5:45 DH will text to see if I'm on my way soon (so he can feed DS) or if I have other plans for the night. We try to run through the week on Sunday to make sure we cover any nights where one is going to be out late.