i need to get a grip

[sunflower22]

IF sucks. And I know I'm being a giant horrendous bitch w the emotional maturity of a 5 year old but its like I just can't stop my mind from going there. I'm pretty sure pms makes it worse, lol.

Eta: DD-ed details

[FastHands]

You're not being a horrendous bitch!

I just can't hate Kristen Bell because of her love for sloths. If you haven't seen the video of that yet, google it, and it will make you laugh and you will feel better. You may still hate her for being pregnant, but who says no to a good laugh?

And I don't blame you for being bummed at bday party-jacking!! Do you have a lot of the same friends? I suggest pretending it is YOUR party while you are there. lol

PMS makes everything worse, and you shouldn't feel bad about how you feel -- now or ever. You can't change it. You aren't running around telling your pg friend she's a whore, so keeping your distance is probably the best, MOST mature option. Cut yourself some slack and maybe have a drink.. because you CAN!

[sunflower22]

Ok I lol-ed at pretending its my bday party!! Haha. We have some friends in common but not totally the same invites. And I LOVE sloths - that video is really funny. Thanks for making me feel better, its nice to have a place to vent! And yes I happily drink my wine w dinner almost every night, that is really the best thing about NOT being pg, lol!!

[winecheery]

Aw sun ({) (})

I don't think there is anything wrong with your feelings.

Being jealous is an unattractive thing, but it's happening to the best of us on these boards. I am certain when more and more people around get pg if I'm still not, I will become my worst version of myself. (not saying that you are tho)

And bday jacking is straight up WRONG.

[sunflower22]

If I'm not the worst version of myself, I'm pretty fucking close. I have never been a jealous person, I am so laid back my friends always teased me about being a stoner w/o the pot lol. I despise jealous people, its always been one of my pet peeves. Guess I'm learning a humble little lesson here!

[awick14]

A few of my friends are TTC right now as well an I would be super jealous if they got pregnant before us.

One of the friends broke up with her bf in aug (have a 3 year old together) an they got back together at the end of sept an now they are TTC. I would be upset if they get their BFP before us.

[sunflower22]

I really need to get back into working out, i think thats another thing that will make me feel better. Endorphins!

[sunflower22]

Nov 5, 2012 14:42:17 GMT -5 awick14 said:

A few of my friends are TTC right now as well an I would be super jealous if they got pregnant before us.

One of the friends broke up with her bf in aug (have a 3 year old together) an they got back together at the end of sept an now they are TTC. I would be upset if they get their BFP before us.

Ugh I would too.

[winecheery]

Nov 5, 2012 14:42:35 GMT -5 sunflower22 said:

I really need to get back into working out, i think thats another thing that will make me feel better. Endorphins!

You know, there's something to that! I personally also need to go back to drinking fruit smoothies as a mid-morning snack. They made me feel awesome. I am also inclined to try maca root in my smoothies. Have been intrigued for a while.

Change it up and see if it helps you feel even a tiny bit improved!

[FastHands]

I don't care what anyone says. I think people who say jealousy is ugly or it should be avoided are either bonkers or liars. Jealousy is a feeling and it can't be helped, so why make ourselves feel bad about it?? IMO, it's how we ACT that matters, and if we can come here and bitch our little hearts out and then send a "congrats and warm wishes" email, well then I'd say that's a huge win and not deserving of anything but a high-five.

[sunflower22]

Nov 5, 2012 15:48:09 GMT -5 FastHands said:

I don't care what anyone says. I think people who say jealousy is ugly or it should be avoided are either bonkers or liars. Jealousy is a feeling and it can't be helped, so why make ourselves feel bad about it?? IMO, it's how we ACT that matters, and if we can come here and bitch our little hearts out and then send a "congrats and warm wishes" email, well then I'd say that's a huge win and not deserving of anything but a high-five.

Aw, thank you for that, I hadn't thought of it that way. You're right, we shouldn't beat ourselves up about it, only makes us feel worse.

[magpie]

I completely agree with you, fasthands! Jealousy is totally natural and can't be helped sometimes. It's all about how you act out of jealousy that matters.

Also, I was kind of excited to see the news...Veronica Mars is having a baby?! I can't begrudge that!

[glauren]

My good friend just got a BFP on her first month TTC. Like you, I also swore I'd never be one of those people, but I guess I am.
But fasthands is right - it IS how you act that matters.

[sunflower22]

Yes I am super nice to my friends/outsiders about all things ttc and babies. I know I'll look like a complete basket case if I'm anything other than excited! Lol!! Only my H (and yall) know my real feelings. Lucky you! Lol

[purpleme]

Don't be so hard on yourself...

[potatopie]

My little sister's friend, who just got married in October, pinned a picture of a nursery on Pinterest the other day. That was all she did, just pinned ONE picture of a nursery, and I got so pissed off thinking she was TTC already.

I'm going to Christmas party with them in December. I'm going to practice my happy face because I don't know what I'll do if they announce it there.