NHG: handmade items vent

[craftymrs]

sigh...some people just don't get it! That stuff cost money! Your time is valuable! I'm sorry that sucks

[pitterwoo]

adopt me! I'll take you up on suggestions and sewing help
I can see how this would be frustrating for you and I would just put some distance in the situation and not go out of your way emailing her suggestions. If she wants to ask you for something, double check that she's sure and then only go ahead and do it if you really feel like you want to knowing that she might flake out again.

I like my SIL, but she's kind of unreliable, always late, never good about thank-yous, etc. I just have way lowered my expectations from her.

[emjacobs]

Not to sound harsh, but why do you keep putting yourself out there for your SIL? You have consistent results of not being appreciated from her and your other in laws. I know you want to do things for people and you want them to love it and you especially want to do things for your niece but personally I'd step away from doing favors or anything out of your budget for them.

[emoflamingo]

I'm with Em. You are too nice of a person and I know you will continually put yourself out there to basically be used and/or ignored. Stop the insanity!!! You can adopt Monkey and Baby W. not as cute as tutus and bows but a different kind of fun!

[Deleted]

I echo em and callmefia! Take a step back. I know you have a good heart and mean well, but apparently your SIL doesn't appreciate your effort. I'd take it to someone who will care and appreciate it.

I do agree with you all the same though. It's weird as hell she asks you to do this stuff and then doesn't want it. That's a lot of wasted time and money on your part.

Also, please remember that because your inlaws aren't like you, different isn't wrong. I love my inlaws but they have their moments that can really upset me. Once I learned not to look for something to be offended about, over analyze everything, let half of it go and remember most people really don't mean to be weird/offensive/whatever life got easier.

Pour some wine and forget 'em! That's my motto.

Also, don't be offended if your neice doesn't wear/use your stuff. I have tons of stuff for Rubes. In the course of the day, I honestly just forget about it. Or it's too much work, I don't want it wrecked, I'm saving it for a special event and by that time she unexpectedly outgrew it or child's in a mood and decides tulle is itchy. It's a matter of life not intentional getting even.

[sierramist03]

Thanks ladies I dd the original post