Baby gift vent

[melis74]

If I'm being ridiculous, you can tell me, I can take it. I just needed to get this off my chest.

My step-son and his wife are expecting, their baby shower is next Saturday. I was waiting for her to finish w/the registry so that I could determine what we were going to get them. She registered the weekend before last and there was a travel system, great, we're getting it. I went out Sunday, it was still available and bought it. She sent me a text asking if she could ask me a question. I guess last night she went to change which system she wanted and saw it was purchased and wondered if it was us...she felt bad, didn't want to put me out, etc. No biggee, I want her to get what she wants. Then came the "Oh and..." Apparently SS Mom had originally said she wanted to buy them the crib but his wife's mom bought it the day after it was picked out so then SS mom said she really wanted to buy the travel system for them...so would I mind just returning the one I have and not getting the new one so that his mom could. WTF?! Umm, hello, we wanted to get it too so I made sure I went out and got it before someone else and I didn't tell you in advance because it's a gift and was going to be a surprise.

Am I crazy for being irritated? I said I would take it back and get them something else if that's what they want me to do...I get tired of doing the nice thing sometimes, just had to vent since I'm at work and can't have a glass of wine to get over it ;D

[aegis2005]

Honestly, I think her request is bizarre. I don't have a close relationship with FIL's wife (because she's a "new addition" that I've only met a handful of times) but I would never dream of asking her to return something I'd put on a registry because someone else wants to buy it. Heck, I'd of had a hard time asking my MIL to do that when she was alive, and I hada close relationship with her.

Honestly, I'd probably have kept my mouth shut, then returned a duplicate after the shower (I know, it's a different brand, but still ...).

I guess my point is I'd think it was odd too ...

[mrsjason]

I am not sure why she just doesn't accept both of the travel systems and return one and put it towards items she really needs? I received a few duplicate gifts and I was totally ok with it. In a way, it's sort of like gift cards. The last thing I would want is a gift giver to go through the hassle of retuning the gift. Plus I would just rather pick out what was the most crucial item on my registry.

If I were you, I would return the travel system and give her the same amount in gift cards.

[jen812]

I'd be irritated too. She's asking a lot of you. But like you, I would take it back, but grumble about it the whole way there & back.

FWIW- items that people specifically mentioned they wanted to buy for the baby, I left off the registry. My mom asked for a link to the specific item we wanted & my ILs told us to buy it & reimbursed us later.

[Deleted]

I would go to the shower with the unwanted system and she can do whatever the fuck it is she thinks is appropriate/desired on her own time/dime.

[sara76]

Yep you should be irritated for her to ask you to return something that she registered for. I would do like someone else said and return it and give gift cards for the value. Then she can't change her mind again.

Make sure you have that glass if wine when you get home too

[tashaandsage]

I would be irritated too. Personally, I would be embarrassed to ask someone buying me a gift to have to go out of their way to return it. And if someone specifically already intended to buy it for her, she shouldn't had it on her registry for anyone else to buy.

I suppose in your position, as others suggested, I would return it and just get a gift card, although I would not be happy about it.

[alzi]

Nov 6, 2012 15:24:09 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

I would go to the shower with the unwanted system and she can do whatever the fuck it is she thinks is appropriate/desired on her own time/dime.

yup, this. She is being an ungrateful little brat.

[moonstone523]

Nov 6, 2012 15:24:09 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

I would go to the shower with the unwanted system and she can do whatever the fuck it is she thinks is appropriate/desired on her own time/dime.

Yup what Nicole said.

[mrschelseap09]

Nov 6, 2012 15:47:51 GMT -5 alzi said:

Nov 6, 2012 15:24:09 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

I would go to the shower with the unwanted system and she can do whatever the fuck it is she thinks is appropriate/desired on her own time/dime.

yup, this. She is being an ungrateful little brat.

All of the above.

[Deleted]

Nov 6, 2012 16:09:57 GMT -5 moonstone523 said:

Yup what Nicole said.

My name is not Nicole, but maybe I should meet "Nicole" if we are so similar.

[sara76]

Nov 6, 2012 16:09:57 GMT -5 moonstone523 said:

Nov 6, 2012 15:24:09 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

I would go to the shower with the unwanted system and she can do whatever the fuck it is she thinks is appropriate/desired on her own time/dime.

Yup what Nicole said.

Lol

[melis74]

Thanks ladies, glad it wasn't just me.

[jen812]

Nov 7, 2012 9:14:57 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

Nov 6, 2012 16:09:57 GMT -5 moonstone523 said:

Yup what Nicole said.

My name is not Nicole, but maybe I should meet "Nicole" if we are so similar.

Lol. She could be your long lost twin.

Can we call you Nicole anyway? I miss her