I have a baby gift vent too

[mrsshawanab]

Listen to this -- One of H's college roommates and his wife just had a son about 2 weeks ago. Last week, I went to Target and picked out a few cute baby outfits for him. I intended on sending it out this week. I had not gotten around to it yet.

On Monday night, H gets a text from his college roommate saying "I know this is going to make me sound like a dick, but {wife} wants to know if you are planning on getting us something off our registry because we got you guys shit when B was born".

What?? Since when is it ok to ask people if they are buying you baby gifts? And also, I got them gifts bc I was happy for them, not bc they got us stuff.

Anyway I thought that was super rude and I sent him a FB message saying how insulted I was and how hurt H was that he thought we weren't thinking of them, and that I had already bought a gift and hadn't had time to send it yet. He totally apologized and blamed it on his wife (who we strongly dislike already) but still.......

[may07wedding]

My mouth dropped reading this. How rude! Good for you for saying something!

[sara76]

Omg what a dick. Never ever ever. No.

[mskateb]

Good gawd. The giving of a gift does not entitle one to receive a gift. Where did this lesson get missed?

At least he felt bad about having to ask.

[bleubook]

Please chalk it up to sleep deprivation or something. It's truly too horrible to think they would have thought this was appropriate under normal circumstances. Holy rudeness.

[bleubook]

Please chalk it up to sleep deprivation or something. It's truly too horrible to think they would have thought this was appropriate under normal circumstances. Holy rudeness.

[moonstone523]

Wow. Just wow. I can't believe some people.

[mrschelseap09]

WTF is wrong with people?

[aegis2005]

I agree with Chelsea - first reaction is WTF.

[melis74]

Nov 6, 2012 20:30:48 GMT -5 may07wedding said:

My mouth dropped reading this. How rude! Good for you for saying something!

Totally, mouth hanging open with sucking in noise happened here. WTH is wrong with people?! My response would be something like....Yes, you sound like a dick and now I totally don't want to send you this stuff! But it's not fair to punish the child for the ignorance of the parents!

[tashaandsage]

Utter shock that someone would actually be in that poor of taste to ask their friend why they hadn't reciprocated in buying a baby gift yet.

[loskadoodle]

Nov 6, 2012 20:30:48 GMT -5 may07wedding said:

My mouth dropped reading this. How rude! Good for you for saying something!

This. That is sooo F'ing rude!

[jen812]

Nov 7, 2012 11:23:13 GMT -5 loskadoodle said:

Nov 6, 2012 20:30:48 GMT -5 may07wedding said:

My mouth dropped reading this. How rude! Good for you for saying something!

This. That is sooo F'ing rude!

Totally agree. He couldn't have felt that bad about asking because he actually did. If my H wanted me to ask my friend something like that, I would have told him no fing way.

[mrsshawanab]

Nov 6, 2012 20:52:07 GMT -5 bleubook said:

Please chalk it up to sleep deprivation or something. It's truly too horrible to think they would have thought this was appropriate under normal circumstances. Holy rudeness.

I would maybe chalk it up to sleep deprivation except for the fact that I am the QUEEN of sleep deprivation. My sweet boy is almost 6 months and has not slept through the night one time yet! I haven't had a sleep block of more than 2.5 hours in months, but I'm not going around asking people to give me gifts or saying rude things. I just feel like it is no excuse and really, really ballsy to ask if someone is getting you a gift. Ballsy in a bad way.

[amellis2]

Nov 7, 2012 17:30:59 GMT -5 mrsshawanab said:

Nov 6, 2012 20:52:07 GMT -5 bleubook said:

Please chalk it up to sleep deprivation or something. It's truly too horrible to think they would have thought this was appropriate under normal circumstances. Holy rudeness.

I would maybe chalk it up to sleep deprivation except for the fact that I am the QUEEN of sleep deprivation. My sweet boy is almost 6 months and has not slept through the night one time yet! I haven't had a sleep block of more than 2.5 hours in months, but I'm not going around asking people to give me gifts or saying rude things. I just feel like it is no excuse and really, really ballsy to ask if someone is getting you a gift. Ballsy in a bad way.

Maybe that's the problem.

Nah. Pretty sure women have more balls than some men. #childbirth

[alzi]

No. Even if one of them was sleep deprived the other should have has the brains to realize this was the rudest question ever.

Eff that. I'd return the present. But I'm a bitch lol.

[mrschelseap09]

Nov 7, 2012 19:56:56 GMT -5 alzi said:

No. Even if one of them was sleep deprived the other should have has the brains to realize this was the rudest question ever.

Eff that. I'd return the present. But I'm a bitch lol.

I guess I am too because that's what I would have done.

[mrsshawanab]

I sent the gift.. I just wanted to be the bigger person and make them feel bad/guilty. But I don't think it worked bc H got a text from the guy last night saying "are you feeling better about the gift thing? Shawna told me you were upset and I think it just came out wrong"
Sooo..... that's not an apology, and what does that even mean are you feeling better about the gift thing. Ugh.. some people.

[aegis2005]

Nov 8, 2012 9:29:22 GMT -5 mrsshawanab said:

I sent the gift.. I just wanted to be the bigger person and make them feel bad/guilty. But I don't think it worked bc H got a text from the guy last night saying "are you feeling better about the gift thing? Shawna told me you were upset and I think it just came out wrong"
Sooo..... that's not an apology, and what does that even mean are you feeling better about the gift thing. Ugh.. some people.

Seriously?!? Is this guy really that clueless or is he just a pompus dickhead?

[alzi]

Nov 8, 2012 9:29:22 GMT -5 mrsshawanab said:

I sent the gift.. I just wanted to be the bigger person and make them feel bad/guilty. But I don't think it worked bc H got a text from the guy last night saying "are you feeling better about the gift thing? Shawna told me you were upset and I think it just came out wrong"
Sooo..... that's not an apology, and what does that even mean are you feeling better about the gift thing. Ugh.. some people.

whut?? Dudes a dick. End of story.

[babybchbum]

I would have written back... If you were trying to apologize that was far from it and I would have never sent the gift or done anything nice for them again.

Obviously they only did something for you because they expected something in return

[sara76]

He's definitely a dick. I don't care if his wife had a gun to his balls, he sent the email, he's a dick. I would rather have no friends than a friend like that. Life is too short.